posted June 30, 2005 04:39 PM         

I do trust him and he swears I've got it wrong, but something's nagging away at me and I can't stop feeling uneasy. She's not to be trusted I suspect and that makes me fear her influence over him. Could anyone spare a minute to look at some cards for me and let me know? Don't worry about shooting from the hip cos I just want truth.

posted July 01, 2005 08:28 PM         

Really admired the way you faced your feelings/fears about the Pisces woman - with such understanding and courage. Just trying to emulate that here really but drifting between catching glimpses of enlightenment and failing miserably the rest of the time!

If you want to know the whole story, it's all in my cheery little post on Soul Unions forum entitled "Please help me... think I'm going mad!" Lots of people have helped me get so far with these feelings but as I say, just can't seem to shake it off and move on completely for some reason.

In a nutshell, my partner had a short but rather fraught relationship with a girl last year (before we got together)and she led him a merry dance, eventually dumping him. From what I can gather, he was very much in love with her and she hurt him badly. They stayed in touch as friends but as soon as she found out that he was with me, she reacted very badly, trying all sorts to make him run back to her. He says she doesn't want him back, she just doesn't want anyone else to have him. That misses the all important point of whether he still wants her. He swears blind he doesn't and has even told a mutual friend that. Mind you, I suppose if he did, he'd have gone for it when prompted? His moon's in Aqua and hers is in Libra and he's a Sun Aqua whilst she's a Capricorn. My Sun is Libra and moon is Capricorn.

He's told me that whatever feelings he had for her I've stolen, and that I mean everything to him. Even talked about marriage which I guess is a big thing for an Aqua! Lovely words but all of a sudden I can't 'feel' him. Hope you know what I mean by that - at the start we were really connected and I felt sure that this was a soul mates thing etc but lately... he's been very distant so I've begun to doubt.

Interesting question am I jealous by nature? I would have to say that I never thought I was until now, probably because I've never been presented with a situation like this before. But now I think I have to admit I've behaved in a very jealous and suspicious manner which I'm thoroughly ashamed of. Funny thing is, I'd trust him to the ends of the earth. It's her I feel uneasy about because she periodically tries to muscle back in and get his attention with a drama of hers. He's so nice and wants to help everyone so it's difficult to tell if it's just general compassion on his part or something more.

Talking about it makes me feel daft as I read back what he's said to me and think, "Well what are you worried about?" But like I say, it's a feeling of unease I can't shift.

Would be so grateful for anything you can offer on this be it advice or a reading or just your impressions. Please don't be afraid to be honest, because I'd rather face the lesson head on and learn whatever I can from it than run and hide. Any of that rapier like Scorpio intuition would be very much welcomed at this point!

Thanks ever so much for your concern Sue, and apologies for rambling on!

posted July 02, 2005 04:25 AM         

The first impression I had after reading your well written report, was that as in my situation, the women are the problem, not the men. We are both with men who have Aqua Moons, and as for "feeling them" ha ha, well dont worry about THAT, Ive been with mine for 16 years and often feel like that. There is great detachment with this placing at times. Only this morning I was getting intense with him and he as usual assures me that he only wants me.

I feel your guy is genuine, she is dangerous and you both need to protect yourselves from her.

Him being Aqua sun too,he will probably be feeling sorry for her at some level, you know that lovely humanitarian thing this sign has, it probably wouldnt cross his mind to go back with her, but not to treat her unkindly too.

posted July 02, 2005 05:27 AM         

She left my guy for her ex partner (who she'd kept stringing along all the time,) and it seems she just enjoyed the drama of being between 2 men fighting over her. She went back to him after she dumped Garry because her ex (Cancer man I think so her astro opposite) produced an engagement ring.

I wish her well (apparently they're getting married next year so she told my guy) and truly hope she's found the joy that comes from giving love instead of just receiving it.

I will do the visualisations and try to behave in a less 'crazed-jealous-freak' manner!

You've helped me so much Sue and I'm so grateful! Speak to you soon, and if there's anything I can do for you please let me know

posted July 02, 2005 05:44 PM         

"I´m throwing all those negative feelings away ( or controlling them when they do appear)and I´m just focusing on being as happy as I can with what I´ve got, which is a lot, and that makes ME unique" - so true. And what you said about making sure that he doesn't leave me because of "my dark thoughts" really went straight to my core and woke me up to the dangers of being obsessed with something as I fear I have been over this whole issue.

Thank you so much! You and Sue have really helped me. Sue when you said "change the energy around the relationship" that made real sense and it's beginning to take effect already! He even got slightly jealous of me last night would you believe, over a mutual friend of ours who was paying me quite a bit of attention (albeit innocently I think.) I made sure I told my guy just how much I love him and that he has nothing to worry about but it was a strange experience to watch an Aqua man struggle with a twinge of the green eyed monster! Lol

Anyway, enough of me!!! All my threads have been so self centered and I'm in danger of earning the nickname Mimi around here!! Consider the mood lifted and the party begun Just watching the Live 8 concert and it's fab to see all those like minded people, cutting through the crap and doing some good!

Thanks to you both for doing me the world of good! Lots of love, Sarah xxx

posted July 09, 2005 03:36 PM         

Hope this finds you well. How's life down your neck of the woods?

Well, despite a few minor setbacks when my Libran scales have been in the 'dipped' position, I think I've managed to do as you so rightly suggested and have changed the energy around the relationship.

We've been a lot more relaxed in each other's company and I've managed to argue myself back to the middleground whenever I've felt a pang of insecurity or doubt. He's been marvellous bless him and has done everything he can to reassure me that I'm "the one." It might just be a question of his expression of love being very different to mine - I need to learn to accept that, and I've begun to. It takes time though, and it's taken time to stop worrying about his ex and the influence she may have.

When the reports of these terrible bombs in London came through I was trying to contact my friends who live there and I suddenly thought of his ex who also lives there. I emailed him at work to say hadn't he better contact her to see if she was ok and he hadn't even thought of it before I mentioned it. I think that made us both see that we'd turned a corner. It's going to be a long road perhaps but as long as we have each other for company and a few laughs I reckon it'll be ok

I would still be really interested to see what comes up in a reading if you feel you could do one on my behalf. Please don't worry if you're busy or if you don't feel inclined - I will totally understand. It's just curiosity I suppose on my part now.

Thanks so much Sue once again for all your help, wisdom and support. You've been marvellous and if ever I can do something for you, please let me know.

posted July 11, 2005 01:29 PM         

Will come back to you soon - having a hectic time with family and stuff, so need to get a clearer head before I consult the oracle (ha ha).

Speak soon

Lots of love

posted July 11, 2005 05:38 PM         

Read your other post about your dad and totally understand hon. You keep safe, happy and well and hope all goes well

posted July 12, 2005 09:30 AM         

Just dropped in here to visit, and came across this post. I wanted to send you some good vibes, and tell you that it sounds like you've got a good handle on the situation already. Suggesting to your man that he contact her to make sure she's fine (after the bombs) was a nice, graceful gesture on your part - I'm sure he appreciates it and you even more now. You've shown that you can be the bigger person than she. It sounds like he loves you very much. Good luck to the both of you,

posted July 12, 2005 12:25 PM         

I get good days and bad days but I'm on the path!

I've left a message for you on your thread btw - hope you're ok hon