posted August 08, 2008 06:34 PM         

First of all thank you for your help and generosity for those who will take the time to read me and/or offer me their valuable insights.

After talking to girlfriends who advised me to pull away from this Taurus I have feelings for so he would be forced to manifest his real motives and show if he really wants me, I am a bit confused and hesitant.

They say men like the chase and I should be less available to him so he will be more and more attracted to me. But on the other hand I feel that he is slowly opening up to me and may be developing feelings.. Maybe. So if I pull away now I am scared to lose him.

The way he is with me is full of contradictions. On one hand he made it clear that he didn't want any commitment or attachment and that he even had other romantic interests.. the worst he said was that he didn't think we were likely to become a couple. But he recently said that he might have been a little too severe in saying that....

On the other hand he seems to act like a typical taurus taking all his time until he feels totally safe with me. He calls me very frequently and sometimes just to say " hey wh'at's up, what are you doing ?" Even when he left the country for 3 months he kept calling me regularly to chat.

I know he's been wounded before but the way he looks at me, I can tell that he likes me a lot but that he is extremely cautious. He can't really believe that I am such a real person with so much care, consideration and integrity and he seems amazed by that.

I can feel that he is in a struggle between realizing himself as a man first and fulfilling his sentimental and romantic needs. I know deep down inside of him he might yearn for a true love with somebody real and reliable and caring. And on the other side he wants to keep his options free and I know he sees other women but it seems like I am the one he calls and sees the most often. Maybe the other ones are less available.

So I am thinking, if I start to play this game of making myself more distant, I may just be like the other ones and he may lose his attraction to me. I can tell that part of his attraction comes from the fact that I am different ..

And on the other hand I am like, but maybe it's true that it might just be too easy for him that I show so much care and spend so much time with him. I mean it's not like we see each other all the time but when we do, it's kind of addictive and it can last for 2 days.

I don't really know what to do. I feel like if I am patient and if I respect the time he needs to feel safe with me, I will win his heart. But who knows, maybe one of the other ones may win his heart ...

This man makes me feel alive. I would like to have him around for a long time and yes, I would like to have him just for me. I would like him to fall in love so I could give him my deepest gifts of love.

Knowing that taurus are slow at falling in love I am wondering what is the behavior I should have ? Keep being close and caring and be patient or make myself busier and less available. Isn't it the trap modern women fall into, shutting themselves down ? How can he open up if I shut down ? On the other hand it may be true that he might think I have no pride or self esteem by accepting the situation as it is. But don't the Taurus hate being rushed ?

I am kind of lost.

I would like to keep this confidential so if you need names is there a way to send me an email where I can send you both my name and his. His name is kind of unique and we never know..

Me:
Aries born 4/18/1973 in Algiers/Algeria at 2:20 am
Sun Aries/ Rising Aquarius/ Moon Scorpio/ Venus in Taurus

Him:
Taurus born 5/7/1974 in Rochester/New York/ USA at 2:15 pm
Sun Taurus/ Rising Virgo/ Moon Sagittarius/ Venus in Aries

Thanks again for those of you, generous enough to be willing to help me with their reading skills ..

posted August 09, 2008 10:36 PM         

Are you able to tell us your Mars, or better still post your synastry chart from astro.com (under 'free' then 'extended chart selection' horoscope). Also include some asteriods from the Part of Fortune to Vesta.

However, my intuition says, don't place too much hope on this man under the current situation. He doesn't seem to be ready to give himself to one person yet. Carry on with your life and leave a little bit of space for him. You are important. Your life is important. Fill it with beautiful things and if your friend is genuine he will appear with his heart and good intentions.

In the meantime, you may be missing out on something great, by being distracted by his absence.

posted August 10, 2008 12:23 AM         

This is what I 've found for me and him on astro.com. I don't know if that's what you meant.

Me :

Planetary positions - planet sign-degree-motion
Sun Aries-27°55'06-in house 2-direct
Moon Scorpio-3°51'18-in house 8-direct
Mercury Aries-1°32'15- in house 1-direct
Venus Taurus-0°03'52- in house 2-direct
Mars Aquarius-15°46'43-in house 12-direct
Jupiter Aquarius-9°21'52-in house 12-direct
Saturn Gemini-17°06'26-in house 4-direct
Uranus Libra-20°43'54-in house 8-retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius-7°01'55-in house 10-retrograde
Pluto Libra-2°24'33-in house 7-retrograde
True Node Capricorn-10°25'12-in house 11-retrograde

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Aquarius-20°24'38
2nd House Aries-5°42'52
3rd House Taurus-10°21'45
Imum Coeli Gemini-6°00'00
5th House Gemini-27°59'34
6th House Cancer 20°48'05
Descendant Leo-20°24'38
8th House Libra-5°42'52
9th House Scorpio-10°21'45
Medium Coeli Sagittarius- 6°00'00
11th House Sagittarius -27°59'34
12th House Capricorn-20°48'05

Him :

Planetary positions planet - sign degree - motion
Sun Taurus - 16°48'06 - in house 9- direct
Moon Sagittarius - 3°14'58- end of house 3- direct
Mercury Taurus- 20°27'57- in house 9- direct
Venus Aries - 3°14'14 - in house 8 - direct
Mars Cancer - 10°25'32 - in house 11 - direct
Jupiter Pisces- 12°26'20 - in house 7 - direct
Saturn Cancer - 1°46'56 - in house 10 - direct
Uranus Libra - 24°51'17 - in house 2 - retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius - 8°49'53 - in house 4 - retrograde
Pluto Libra - 4°25'59 - in house 2 - retrograde
True Node Sagittarius - 19°37'41 - in house 4 - retrograde

House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Virgo - 7°50'44
2nd House Libra - 1°08'53
3rd House Libra - 29°47'17
Imum Coeli Sagittarius - 3°22'01
5th House Capricorn - 8°28'26
6th House Aquarius - 10°26'22
Descendant Pisces - 7°50'44
8th House Aries - 1°08'53
9th House Aries - 29°47'17
Medium Coeli Gemini - 3°22'01
11th House Cancer- 8°28'26
12th House Leo- 10°26'22

posted August 10, 2008 12:39 AM         

Hope this will help.

posted August 10, 2008 03:43 AM         

You may need to read up on Juno and Lilith to understand their nature and impact on others. His North Node is his Karmic lesson and if he chooses to be with you, then your Juno and Lilith could be where the lesson lies. Now, I am no expert, but that is the way I am seeing this part of your chart.

Also your Eros is conjunct his South Node.

This is from http://www.falconastrology.com/erosvi06.html

"Eros conjunct the South Node suggests at time when the experience of the erotic is instinctual and familiar. If this conjunction touches a personal planet or point, we may fall into deeply intimate unions, perhaps even at the avoidance of unfamiliar yet necessary new experiences. In some cases, Eros becomes obsessive giving the individual an erotic overtone that dominates the life wile it is in effect. Because the South Node indicates the familiar, Eros can also be used as a mask or defense against exploring any new territory, inner or outer. Going back to a familiar relationship that you know is not authentic falls under this category of responses"

I can see that your desire for him is great just with these aspects.

Also your Pluto is opposite his Venus. This is from http://www.skyviewzone.com/lovematch/venussynastryaspects.htm

"What does it mean to your relationship when your Venus is in opposition to your partner’s Pluto? Passion and volatility resound within the partners. Extremes of emotion will surface as you feel compelled to squeeze out every drop of sensation, explore every avenue of sexual approach and emotional conquest. If your romantic partner’s Venus is in opposition to your Pluto, he/she could easily become obsessed with your relationship. There is primal power raised and released here, enough to burn away inhibitions and repressed desires until you are both so transformed that you are left with love’s spiritual harmonic. It will never feel the same."

His Mars is conjunct your South Node. This is a significant aspect. Check out this website for an opinion on this conjunction:
http://astronuts.tribe.net/thread/3c642e6c-84d5-4ce8-850e-e91a33586054

Also, scan around for Mars conjunct South Node, as there seems to be varying intensity of opinions for this aspect.

That's all for now!!!