Posts: 408
From: atlanta, georgia
Registered: Jan 2005

posted November 09, 2008 03:58 AM         

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Hello all chart experts!!!
I am having a little problem...I have an extremely hard time making friends. I know this sounds ridiculous, because this is usually a problem for people who are in high school and I am way past that.
Can anyone see in my chart ANYTHING that would make others repel me? Of course I have friends, old friends that I grew up with and I treasure them a lot. I like to be social and meet new people but for some reason, 98% of the time, women and I don't click! I am very funny, have a great personality, and loyal to the ones I love. In fact, I have been screwed over so many times by so-called women friends, but that doesn't deter me from trying to make friends with them. In the jobs that I have had, women have always been so catty towards me, and they will never include me in anything. It has been such a problem that I am beginning to think there is something extremely wrong with me, maybe I am putting myself out there in a very wrong way. Can anyone please give some advice?? Thank You!

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From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006

posted November 09, 2008 03:26 PM         

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You have the potential for forming friendships easily, with venus in the 11th, and Jupiter in aquarius(friendship)...the problem with your luck planet could be because jupiter squares saturn, which causes it some problems. then your venus in the 11th opposes your saturn, which is another problem. transit wise... pluto is in your 7th, which is "other people, open enemies, relationships"...etc, so maybe thats the problem? youre attracting open enemies with this transit? pluto is a jealous planet. Next year, jupiter return will roll around, and I think this might help with forming new relationships/friendships.

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From: ohio
Registered: Nov 2008

posted November 28, 2008 09:47 PM         

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Hi! There are two things that stand out to me in regards to friends in your chart. The first is venus in the 11th opposite saturn in the 5th. Both in square to jupiter in the 8th. Venus represents women, the 11th represents friends, saturn represents difficulties. I'll interpret this in a moment.
The ruler of your friendship house (11th) is mars which is in the sign of cancer (again representing women) in the 1st house conjunct the sun opposite neptune in the 7th. (relationship house)
It seems to me that you don't see your self clearly in this area of your life, as indicated by sun opp. neptune. In the 1st and cancer, I suspect that you are very needy in friendships. Perhaps clingy, perhaps more critical (cancer's way of expressing anger) than you realize. This is reinforced by the earlier mentioned venus opp. saturn. This points to feelings of insecurity and and a need to feel loved that isn't easily fulfilled. The square to jupiter in aquarius makes me suspect you don't give people their freedom in their relationships with you, coming from your fear that to do so you lose them.
So all in all I think you need to take a step back and be honest in evaluating your needs and expectations in relating to women.
The way to make these elements work for you (the sign cancer, venus opp. saturn)is to seek friends that represent these symbols so they manifest in a positive way.
For example saturn doesn't have to represent restriction and difficulty. It can manifest as older people, parental figures, serious people, etc. If you find women who represent a mother sort figure or someone more serious and responsible then your opposition represents them rather than rejection.Just don't fall into working out your mother issues with them. (as I suspect you, with such a strong mother/cancer influence in your chart.Could be a father issue, but it looks as if the father was absent in some way (at least emotionally?)
Also look for friends in places that are homey related, you know- things like cooking classes, clubs that meet in peoples homes,etc.

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