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posted November 10, 2009 01:26 AM         

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Hi !!!!!
Sorry for the long msg but my problem needs explanation....
I had my bst friend n now we have broken up.....The mistake was my...I lied to her...let me explain..
We became friends in septembr n gradually we became very gud frns...bst frns...we knew each odr the best n luvd n cared 4 each odr....but i was lyin to her...I cud not express my feelins to her directly... so I started sendin her msgs by sum odr name - pragati... n I told her that pragati is my frnd. wen sum1 else was in d hospital I told her dat pragati is in d hospital....Moreover I also wrote her a lettr by pragati's name...just to no her feelins coz she also nvr told me directly....But i nvr wanted to cheat her..Aftr a while to end my lies i told hr that Pragati hs gone forevr to some odr city so dat nw ill nt snd dose msgs n end every lies i told her...i did nt want to lie to hr anymore...She askd me whethr i told her any lies regardin pragati but i did not hav the courage to tell the truth....I needed sum tim...n meanwile she got to no everythin 4m sum1 else .. n now she hates me...she thinks watevr i said or did was false n i used her...but i truly cared 4 her n nvr said any lies apart 4m dis...I said her sorry ..sent msgs emails but she nvr replied...i tld sory over radio bt she still hates me..we r in sam colg bt dont talk to each odr..she thinks me to b fake n lier n cheater....but im not ...4 me she is vry important n i care 4 her even nw...I sent her 1 msg everyday...so I made a card for her also n posted it to her adress...I had written the whole story f our friendshp in the card n pasted our pics also...but she jus replied dat u no im extreme n nothin can melt me...so stop tryin...again on frnshp day I sent a beautifl bouque to her wid a frnshp band cos she loves red roses....bt she din reply...wen i cald her by an unknown numbr she was very rude n said im wastin my money n she is not interested in me nemore.....n d next day she made her fathr call my fathr n uncle told my fathr dat im disturbin his daughtr n dat she gets mently disturbed wen i send msgs n cards....he evn said dat she is superior to me n wat not....n now my fathr is also very angry at me...I hav lost everythin for her frndshp.....but how to make her realise all dis ??? how to make her realise dat even i get hurt ???hw do I clear hr misundstandings ...hw to make her believe dat i nvr told any lies except dat n dat i truly cared 4 hr..luved hr???? i lost all my old frnds 4 hr frnshp coz no1 liked her n she thinks evn dats a lie...Wat do I do now??? Peopl wer jeolous of our frnship n r now takin advantag of our fight....Its been 6 mnths n i miss her so much.....im alone.... Wat shud i do ?????How to make her remembr all dose gud moments wich we spent togthr???? many times she hurt me but i had forgivd her even b4 she said sorry n now wat she did wid me ????
PLEASE REPLY............ I REALLLY REALLY NEED HELP..... IM IN A GREAT MESS... PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE....ITS REALLY URGENT......
SORRY 4 SO LONG MSG......"

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posted November 10, 2009 11:45 AM         

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I think you need to give her space. Forcing her to talk to you won't work in your favor. If it's meant to be the two of you will be brought back together. But in the meantime, the best thing for you to do would be to focus all your energy on yourself, and not on her. Spend all your time on your studies and on improving yourself.

(Btw, please don't use textspeak when posting online. It's very difficult to read).

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posted November 16, 2009 02:24 AM         

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hey thanks for replying....but I would like to ask you that after reading everything what do you think that dont I deserve even one chance ??? I mean is it only my fault or both of ours fault?????

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posted November 16, 2009 05:24 AM         

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It's possible that she believes that you don't deserve a second chance, so what you or other people think about the situation don't matter. I'm not saying that she won't change her mind, but I don't think it's wise to pressure her. That's why I said to give her time. In the meantime, have fun and do things that take your mind off her. It's an energy dynamics thing: as long as she "unconsciously" and "psychically" feels that you are too interested in her, she won't pay you any attention. (I've seen this thing happen countless times). You have to withdraw your energy from the situation and focus all of it on yourself. When you do this people will be attracted to you, and hopefully she will feel the change in your vibes and be drawn back to you.

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posted November 17, 2009 12:39 AM         

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Thanks a lot !!! But you no what,,,, we get to meet each other every single day.same college and same tutions and how much ever I try not to focus on her, it just happens.It hurts me to see her talking and laughing with others just as once we did and I know that these people dont like her.They try to avoid her but she cant notice all that.I really feel bad for her.I dont want her to be hurt.and I really dont know what to do.im sure she still has feelings for me but she just tries to hide them.and somewhere down in the heart she knows that whatever may happen , i will always be with her. I cant make out what should I do at this momoent. but I really miss and love her a lot.

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posted November 17, 2009 06:10 PM         

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forgive me mamta_narsaria but are you a boy or a girl?

because i don't understand; why you would need to invent pragati in the first place?

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posted November 18, 2009 03:43 PM         

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"I have found a desire within myself that no experience in this world can satisfy; the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world." -C.S. Lewis

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posted November 19, 2009 03:22 AM         

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HI Pire,,
I am a girl...n even I dont no why I did what I did...Its just that I have a friend called Pragati truly n Shilpa wanted to talk to her..But pragati and me are not so gud friends that I would have let Shilpa talk to her..So I just msgd her once n then it continued..I tried to stop myself and confess everything many times but I really feared loosing my best friend..
And Randall I could not make out what you had written....

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posted November 19, 2009 10:49 AM         

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do you love her like a friend or in another type of way? more intimate?

i hope i don't shock you.

just know that here on Lindaland you will be accepted either way

take care

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posted November 22, 2009 01:49 AM         

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Please be sure its only as a friend.... Can't we care for our friends ????

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posted November 22, 2009 03:03 AM         

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yes we can;

truly sorry for making the wrong assumption.

i think deux-antares'opinion is very wise.

don't blame her, nor yourself; sometimes we make mistakes

do you have other very good friends like her?

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posted November 23, 2009 11:55 PM         

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no niether do I have and nor does she have...And this is the reoson why I miss her even more...Because I can feel that loneliness and gap in my life...I have tried everything but maybe her ego is coming in between ... I just want to clear out all the misunderstandings and make her realise how important she is for me....

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