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Topic: I need advice plz!!
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Nerwin
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posted May 19, 2003 01:17 PM
Im 21 and ive never been in love, although ive been in many relationships. I dont believe in love at first sight, but i met this guy and it was unlike anything i have ever felt before. We kept bumping into eachother until we finally talked. we instantly fell in love, we had so much in common, we completed eachothers sentences Things were going great until he suddenly stopped answering my calls. To my friends he claims its because he thinks im still with my boyfriend, who I left for him. Now he won't talk to me, if he sees me somewhere he hides, I have done EVERYTHING but its no use. My friends say he probably met someone else. Maybe he did, i dont know but were so RIGHT for eachother. Its been more than a month and i still cry when i remember the 2 months we spent together. I just cant get over him. Im a pisces female and hes a male virgo. What do u think?IP: Logged |
Lunargirl
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posted May 19, 2003 06:40 PM
Hi Nerwin,The best place to post your message is in the Soul Unions forum, which is about love relationships. You're more likely to get responses there. It's too bad this guy is treating you so poorly. Even if he really believes that you are still involved with your old boyfriend, it is sad if he is allowing his fear of being hurt to override the common decency of communicating with you. Is this the way you deserve to be treated? Now that you see more of his true character, are you really sure you can trust him to treat you well? Whatever you do, I would stop listening to your friends, because you are living on their second-hand news, and their speculation, and what you need is the truth, from this guy. Maybe you could write him a letter and tell him you want to see him to understand why it's over. Good luck,
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Blue M
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posted May 20, 2003 06:01 AM
Nerwin,I have had the same thing happen to me a couple of times and what I have learned is when it comes to relationships all the world is a stage and it is how you play your part. Of course I am stealing a phrase from Shakespear, but it is true. I don't know what is is about the male species, (of course not all men) but that which is easily conquered has lower valued than that which sought after and longed for. I am not an expert and this is just my opinion and even at my age it seems like I still have to learn this lesson over and over. I believe you keep taking the test until you pass it. Men like a challenge and they test us all the time. He may controlled by fear of being too close too soon or the fear of being hurt. Sometimes being in love or like is close to worship. Never idolize, or worship or project a person because they truly cannot deal with the power that was not meant for them in the first place. The best thing about love is free-will. Sometimes we love someone so much we just remember that we want to be with them but if they have chosen another path for whatever reason then the best love is letting go. I don't know how old you are but I remember at certain stages in my life when someone gave me this same advice I thought I would not ever meet anyone again and even now I still have doubts after every break up. But I have meet other guys who were great who I loved and they loved me deeply but our season ended. I also learned the importance of patience. If it is meant to be it will be but not by force, only by time and patience. I hope I help a little 
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Nerwin
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posted May 20, 2003 09:10 AM
Thanx alot for the replies..
Lunar girl, i did write him a letter plus a card and messages, i sent him flowers at work, i went over to his house, but even there he wouldnt see me, i tried everything but it just made things worse.. thanx anyway for the advice
i guess ur right Blue M (btw im 21 yrs old) if its meant to be then itll happen no matter what i do.. i guess all i can do is wait but the period after break ups is just so hard u cant be patient..
oh, and i liked what u said about not worshipping a man because he wont be able to handle the responsibility, ill keep that in mind next timeIP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 21, 2003 02:01 PM
Us guys get a little apprehensive when a girl comes on too strong.  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted May 22, 2003 11:57 AM
Try doing the opposite. ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
LMB
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posted June 04, 2003 11:54 PM
"If you remember things that are only in the past just remember that the wrong things aren't supposed to last"-- Mary Chapin Carpenter IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 05, 2003 04:07 AM
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