posted May 15, 2003 02:33 AM           

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ANYONE EVERYONE I NEED YOUR HELP,IM A CANERIAN GIRL MADLY IN LOVE WITH MY AIRES BOYFRIEND OF 1 AND A HALF YEARS our problem is that he loves to chase while i want to feel safe and secure whithin the relationship.He is very commited to me in what he says ,he speaks of marriage with me and that he sees me as the mother of his children BUT as soon as i reciprocate these feelings he feels as though im not a challenge anymore...how can i be loving and feel secure at the same time yet still make him feel like im still challenging enough?
ive done our natal charts ive even been told that we were once cousins and that he was my protector,but i just cant seem to find that balance..help!

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posted May 16, 2003 11:03 AM         

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Ignore him. See him occasionally, but develop other interests. Stay cordial, but don't be clingy. Watch what happens.

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"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark

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posted May 17, 2003 02:19 AM           

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Thankyou randall i have already strated doing so and il keep you informed!

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posted May 17, 2003 04:07 AM           

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Oh Randall knows his arian friends

I must admit, my cancer boy was very off hand with me to begin with. He kept me on my toes and never let me feel as though I 'had him'. I think it was his insecurity about starting a relationship or his 'I need freedom' attitude.

Basically, treat 'em mean keep 'em keen rings true with us. Not mean as in nasty, just cool, stand offish, aloof, could care less..etc...

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posted May 18, 2003 08:20 AM           

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yeah you guys are right! but i geuss being a cancer girl with a leo ascendent (both our moons are in aquarius) i just want to let go,be myself and not hold back! i want to tell him how much i love him ,how much he means to me without him feeling like hes lost the urge to chase.
thats the name of the game i geuss,it makes me sad inside tho to think i allways have to be cool and stand offish ,its not in my nature ,im a very intense ,sometimes dramatic ,emotional person...weve been together for almost two years now,were both 21 yrs old, i just get tired of holding back...but its the only thing that works!

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posted May 19, 2003 01:17 AM         

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He won't always be that way. But you have to reel him in first.

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posted May 20, 2003 06:16 AM           

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Randall,

Perfectly said!

Lets go fishing.

Blue

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