posted August 31, 2010 06:46 PM            

I'm recently entered a long-distance relationship w/a guy I met online about a year ago. A synastry reading would be great, if you're still doing them that is. Thanks in advance!

Me:

19 Jan 1990
10:29pm
Exeter, England, UK

Him:

posted September 07, 2010 08:53 AM            

There are a few different themes I'm seeing here...

There is a theme of anger and friction. This stems from his Pluto square your Mars/Neptune - and most importantly his Mars (Sun’s dispositor) square your Sun. The tension could potentially be translated into sexual attraction and perhaps "burn out" if this was a sexual relationship. This is a possibility. But in my experience with these aspects they are too aggravating to lead to fulfilling sex and they may also be too aggravating to overcome and have a normal friendship. You often feel challenged by him and this might irritate you. He feels a little emasculated at times, because the Sun is usually *stronger* in a Sun/Mars square. Your Mercury (ruler of your DC) is conjunct your Sun, so it ties into this square. You could easily have some loud verbal disagreements (at least loud from your end, while he is planning his slippery fish escape). You could see him as a potential partner, but only if he made some serious changes to his behaviour.

Playing a role in the 'anger/friction' theme is the fact that you may mutually accuse each other of being deceptive. As above your Mercury in Sag is uneasy about his Pisces Mars. His actions seem less then equitable at times. There are other aspects that indicate deception or "perceived" deception is a problem for you guys: His Neptune square your Moon, Your Neptune square his Pluto, Your Neptune square his Jupiter, His Pluto opposite your Jupiter in Pisces. There may be no deception here as such - but it seems you both suspect each other of it.

There is a second theme that could counter the above. This is actually the first thing I noticed looking at your charts. This is a "healing/nurture" theme. His Ceres is closely conjunct your DC. Your Jupiter/Ceres conjunction is conjunct his Chiron. Your Chiron is conjunct his Sun. I think the healing here is mutual. You both have the ability to understand facets of each other, past heartaches and pains you have been through – that others may not understand or be sympathetic of. You also have a way of giving the other person advice that truly helps them. That being said - it may be difficult to get to a point where you sit down and open up to each other. The Mars-Pluto-Sun aspects above could be stronger and more immediate in your interaction. I would like to think you can handle the friction here and become close enough as friends (or lovers) to let other sides of the relationship develop and discover this healing/nurturing aspect.

A third theme that could counter the negatives is one of "stability and mutual respect". His Saturn is widely conjunct your Moon in Aquarius. His Saturn is also a singleton in air and dignified. For this reason I think it gets added strength in his chart – it feels more personal to him - and I wouldn't worry about the orb here being too wide. There are things he has achieved in his life that you respect and look up to. Your appreciation means a lot to him. On the other hand your Saturn is square his Sun. This is traditionally a negative aspect, but in this relationship I think any Saturn-influence is welcome because it will help stabilize the other aspects and keep you two together long enough to really get to know each other. With this aspect you are critical of him but would never betray his trust. He might have the occasional angry outburst and walk out the door – but once he cools off he does appreciate the fact that he can *count* on you to be there.

Finally there is a "Friendship" Theme. Your Sun/Mercury is trine his Uranus (which could considerably balance out the Sun sq. Mars energy). Your Uranus is opposite his Venus and trine his Jupiter. Your Venuses are trine in earth. Your Mars placements are rather similar. He has a Pisces Mars. You have Mars conjunct Neptune in a mutable sign. There may be enough common ground and understanding here to get past any friction. Due to the Uranian influence – in particular your DC ruler trine his Uranus – I’d venture to say that you see this guy as a friend and not a lover. I would also imagine that if someone is sexually attracted and wants a romantic relationship it is him, not you. However, this isn't set in stone. You have an Aquarius Moon, so it's possible that your idea of romance is kind of "friendly" anyway – so maybe you interpret Uranian energy as romantic.

There is one last thing I should mention which could make you feel unsuited to each other at times. I think there is a discrepancy between where the two of you are at. DD – you have very strong transpersonal influences. He has "some" - He has a transpersonal streak but overall he is more self-centered, which gets to you on occasion.
This is most obvious on an emotional level with your Aquarius Moon and his Taurus Moon. Ultimately what makes you tick emotionally are very different things.

So I'd say this is a "complicated" relationship with ups and downs and occasional mixed messaged that can only work if you are both willing to learn from each other and to use the positive points to counter the occasional friction/drama of some of the negative aspects.

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posted September 07, 2010 08:54 AM            

S_iL

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im new here so im not sure if youd want to take a look at this synastry for me or no

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I'm happy to give interpretations to all the new people who posted.

posted September 07, 2010 11:47 AM            

8/9/49 7.20pm(daylight time) nyack ny.
and
8/5/74,11.45pm,san francisco, ca

posted September 08, 2010 10:39 AM            

thank you for doing this. The reading was awesome. So great in fact, that I am tempted to ask for another one.
Hey what can I say? I am an insatiable Sagittarius!

You are speaking very much "my language"; I hope you know how I mean t hat.

The "relationship" was not a relationship at all, actually, or well, very lopsided. Actually this is with the singer I have liked for 20 years.
But it never was easy, I wouldn`t say I am a fan. Though we of course did never have a relationship, I related to him, and through my emotional experiences I became the person I am today.

His Pluto squaring my ASC/NEptune / Mars / NN, was a very painful process, as through him my whole world (of ideas) literally was shattered, and I learned that fate is just laughing about my little Ego, and what I want.
It doesn`t give me what I want but what I need. Just what I need wasn`t what I wanted. At least I thought so for a long time.

"and most importantly his Mars (Sun’s dispositor) square your Sun."
What orbs are you using?

" The tension could potentially be translated into sexual attraction and perhaps "burn out" if this was a sexual relationship."
Well, it could have been, especially since his Mars is exactly square my Venus/Mars-mp; probably it translated into my enthusiasm for his creativity.

We are of course not close enough to have arguments, though sometimes he makes me feel pretty irritated, which I cannot explain, as it comes out of the nothing, and sicne we have no relationship of any kind, there is no real ground for any emotional response on my side.

"here are other aspects that indicate deception or "perceived" deception is a problem for you guys:"
LOL Yes, for quite some time I have been feeling "guilty / ashamed" of my selfdeception or lack of perception. Somehow I failed to notice 20 years ago, that he was gay. :

" This is a "healing/nurture" theme. His Ceres is closely conjunct your DC. Your Jupiter/Ceres conjunction is conjunct his Chiron. Your Chiron is conjunct his Sun"
I think that may be the reason that my psyche got stuck on him somehow, emotionally. Almost like I was meant to have that "secondhand experience of hurt and healing" through him.
My 8th house ruler, Moon, is on his South Node, too. (his 8th house ruler squares my nodal axis).

BTW why do you use CERES as only other object in the analysis? Because it is a dwarfplanet like Pluto?

"His Saturn is also a singleton in air and dignified."
I have a question on singletons. Would you consider my Venus and Saturn being singletons, too?
Venus, because it is the only planet in earth; Saturn because it is the only planet in Western hemisphere of the chart?

Looking at this, I seem to have a very "isolated" chart.
With Moon and Uranus being peregrine; Sun and MErcury being part of a duet (No other aspects except to each other).
Venus and Saturn probably peregrine.
If it weren`t for the angles, I would hardly have any aspects!

"There are things he has achieved in his life that you respect and look up to. "
yes. definitely.

"Your appreciation means a lot to him."
Yes, it actually seemed so. I made the experience with some performers, that whenever I expressed my appreciation for their work, it seemed to somehow register with them "more" than when others said that. It was in the way they suddenly stopped in the middle of their ways and took a look and seemed to really see me.
Maybe it is just that I never say: You were great. I love you, but that I usually describe what I liked and why. I can`t deny the teacher in me. lol

posted September 08, 2010 06:07 PM            

I was wondering if you can take a look at the synastry for me and one other person. We're not together.

05.09.1988
76e13, 10n31
11:30 am/Universal Time: 5:30

other person
10.17.1982
76n39, 12n18
2:00pm/ Universal Time: 8:30

posted September 08, 2010 08:43 PM            

Me:
3/11/89
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
9:24pm

Him:
2/28/89
Long Island, New York
8:11am

posted September 16, 2010 11:06 AM            

Jane (me)
Born 2/17/1978
8:30PM
Boston, MA

Jack (him)
Born 2/26/1979
3:00 AM
Columbia, MO

posted September 18, 2010 02:19 PM            

ME:
28 July 1988
11:04 PM
Worcester, MA

Her:
18 April 1990
3:31 PM
Houston, TX

Many thanks

posted September 22, 2010 03:36 AM            

I have been looking so much forward to hearing your interpretation on our relationship.

posted October 08, 2010 05:26 AM            

i hope you ll try these charts for me!

girl(me): 24 july 1991; 4 10 am
gauhati ,assam,india

guy: 12 12 1991; 4 20 am
dehradun, uttaranchal. india

posted December 11, 2010 06:22 AM            

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Originally posted by LanaofAugust:
I wonder what really happened to Dy-na-me-tee / vapor-lash...

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posted December 12, 2010 05:39 AM            

I just wish Dy-na-me-tee had had the courtesy of doing it herself, though - after all she first gathered a lot of personal information from many of us and then failed to deliver.

posted December 12, 2010 05:13 PM            

If you put up a synastry chart (with picture), I'm sure someone will take a look.

posted December 13, 2010 03:58 AM            

I don't think bad of Dy-na-me-tee at all, I just wished she had said something instead of disappearing.

Happy Christmas wishes to everyone,