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posted October 24, 2010 11:27 PM         

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I just went through a similar phase in my own life. My ex came back into my life after cheating on me and dumping me to the curb. When I say that, I mean that I had no contact for 3 years. I was engaged to another woman about to move in together when she came back and I fell head over heals AGAIN. I left my fiance and dated my ex for a couple months. She left me for her ex who has continuely treated her horribly and she has once again dumped me to the curb. You need not evalute her, but yourself and your own feelings. Sometimes love no matter how strong just doesn't work unfortunately. Sometimes it does. You need to figure out what you want. My opinion is that the ex that is coming back now and treating you this way is looking for comfort. The comfort blanket will only last so long. You should really try evaluating your own feelings. Whichever is stronger is the one that you should give the chance to.

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posted October 25, 2010 12:42 AM         

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u right gijoe i figured shes just using me to make her x jealous. i hv decided to stick with my gal coz shes my life n this whole situation made me see that i guess God allows these things to happen to make us better people. will never turn my back on gal ever again

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posted October 25, 2010 12:55 AM         

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It's not my business, but I think it's pointless sticking with someone who keeps on hurting you (cheating). My suggestion is to drop them both. You won't ever find the great relationship you want if you keep holding on to a partner, who is obviously not the right one, just so you can tell yourself you have someone and that you won't be alone. The key is this: you must create and announce a "vacancy" first before you can attract ideal candidates for the position.

And I think it's also pointless to want to have in your life two people who each has only 50% of what you truly want (btw, this is a formula for a huge recurring headache). Why not look for just one who can give you 100%?

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posted October 25, 2010 01:14 AM         

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Duex makes a great point. Something I didn't mention is that if you are only giving 50% to someone it isn't right. That's why I left one for the other. It's ok to be confused but when self evaluating if you have feelings for two people neither are what you are looking for.

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posted October 25, 2010 01:39 AM         

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Thanks guys for your advice gives one something to think about. my girl has changed she tries her best to show me how sorry she is for cheating. i will give her a chance because i see the regret she feels for cheating.

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