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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
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posted February 17, 2011 09:43 PM            

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I noticed you requested a reading in the closed thread. I read your situation and will try to help in the morning.

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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
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posted February 18, 2011 07:20 AM            

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Ok

Wow. I can see how that one thing put a complete damper on the relationship. His feelings haven't gone away, actually, that'd be pretty hard to do, he feels very strongly for you, you excite him sexually, spiritually, amotionally etc, but with him a relationship is a task in his situation right now, the solution will be very easy. Enjoy your time with him and apply zero pressure, he thinks you are needy and codependant to throw this on him at such an odd time in his life, he didn't think you were needy before this happened so here's you chance to show him that you aren't. Don't bring it up again with him. Wait for him to call you he will call you before the month is over but you musn't call him. He will want a relationship with you, but in HIS own time, remember, he is going through a divorce and has a negative perspective about relationships right now, he is also a one woman man so dont worry about him being with someone else or testing the waters, he just doesnt like the word or idea of relationships.
You didn't ask for one, but you applied pressure, again it is important for him to do things in his own time, he wants to take steps before becoming serious, he wants that, but only when he can give 100% of his time on it and had room to breath.
What you told him, stuck with him a little in a good way, but you appearing needy in such a rough time in his life turned him off and scared him a little

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posted February 18, 2011 08:29 AM            

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EES thank you so so much for this!!! I only just checked in to see if there had been a reply on the other thread, noticed it was closed and then noticed this! That's so very kind of you and if there's anything I can do for you in return (tarot reading perhaps) then please let me know x

That makes total sense. In fact I sent him a text yesterday (after a week of no communication) which just said "Hope you're ok and things are easing for you." He replied and thanked me for being understanding. He then told me a bit about the pressure he's under at work and it is of epic proportions to say the least! I just replied telling him that he knows where I am if he feels he wants to talk about it and left it at that.

I feel everything you say is correct. That's how he has behaved to a tee so I am content just to sit back, wait and trust. It's awkward only because I have these feelings for him which make me want to help but right now I think he just needs to go through it and emerge the other side. I won't crowd him and will just let him be. In a strange kind of way I'm almost looking forward to some time just out of relationships right now - happy to wait and work on myself a bit because there is a needy streak in me that needs looking at and working on.

Once again thank you so much! How lovely of you to do this xx

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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
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posted February 18, 2011 09:07 AM            

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You're welcome!

No favors in return, from the heart!

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