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Topic: Pls. help with my Cappy
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Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 14, 2011 06:09 AM
  
HiI'm new here and after I spent 4 days reading most of your post I dare to ask your help. I met Cappy man online and the first month together was heavenly ... after almost 20 days spent together, the night b4 my departure, he wanted to kiss and while I was willing to respond, I stupidly asked why he turned the music off...he backed off and claimed that I rejected him...I said it's not so...but he kept acting nervous...we went to bed without a word... In the morning, after he made love to me...I tried to explain that he has always this kind of insecurities and that I could never reject him ...he said I should not decide how he feels in a certain situaion... I went to shower and when I stepped down he was vacuum cleaning and trying to delete the traces of my presence in his home...I felt offended and I told him that he shouldn't coz I feel that he wants me out... he asked me to stop the fight but I was too nervous...I kept going and he answered...more and more rude...till he offered to show me to the airport sooner coz we have nothing to say anymore... All the way to the airport I kept silence...he didn't try to speak either...so...we made up somehow at the check in ( I did...he barely answered)... Ever since then ...during august...he was moody...starting arguing out of the blue and all went back to the kissing issue...
3 weeks ago he dumped me...I did not answer to his next messages...and when I finally answered he said that he doesn't know if he still wants to be with me...he needs to think... I let him think...I only sent a few messages during 1 week...and when we talk again, he was almost ok for 2 days and then he vanished again... Another 2 days passed and he spoke to me ...first tender (he said he loves me but he can not put the walls down)...and after that he started the fight again ...he said I didn't changed...I never listen and that he will never be submissive (this was something new)... He had so much anger and madness...I started crying...I told him that I proved my love by my deeds ...and I can not bear this treatment anymore...so...i wished him good luck and apologized for all my bad...and finished the conv. Already 3 days and no contact...
I don't know if I should wait anymore he is january 4 1964 at 4 am...i am august 9 1967 at 1:30 am  any advice will be mostly appreciated
thank you all
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Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 14, 2011 06:11 AM
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Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 14, 2011 06:12 AM
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 20454
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 14, 2011 08:40 AM
Hi Carmelita  ------------------
Do You Think This Psychic Is Cute?
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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mintgirl123
Knowflake Posts: 585
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posted September 14, 2011 09:11 AM
It looks like although he's a pretty intense individual and will crave closeness, he fears it too and needs freedom (the moon conjunct pluto conjunct uranus)He wants that serious relationship, but when someone gets too close, he feels the need to distance himself. He can be pretty detached when it comes to relationships. IP: Logged |
Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 14, 2011 11:28 AM
Hello & thank you!Yes, everything went ok until we discussed about a future life together.
First, he was the one who said that he has nobody in his country and he will move to mine since I have my son and my mom. Later on he said that we fight a lot during August and he doesn't see us together...but, everytime I tried to let go he didn't allow me. I felt like he was playing...talking about break up every night and when I took it seriously and wanted to set him free, he was flipping again... It's really hard to understand how can he be so tender/loving/sweet one month and then turn to mean/cold/insensitive...no matter how much I asked him to let go and not hold grudges, declaring my love and support...he kept blaming and fighting me Is there any chance he will change mood? IP: Logged |
mintgirl123
Knowflake Posts: 585
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posted September 14, 2011 08:56 PM
No. I would let the guy go.IP: Logged |
Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 14, 2011 09:44 PM
yes!....my brain agrees on letting him go...but, but, but...what should I do with my heart?it used to be sooo good... I dare to ask...is there something wrong in our charts? IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 11635
From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 14, 2011 11:10 PM
Welcome!------------------
I have CDO. It's like OCD, but the letters are in alphabetical order, as they should be. IP: Logged |
Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 15, 2011 04:05 AM
Thank you for your welcoming me. I'm happy to meet/read u all.I'm going through all topics for almost a week now and I feel better...I'm not alone and not crazy. TY again! IP: Logged |
Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 19, 2011 11:03 PM
now...this is very confusing!he sent me an empty email...i sent a ?...and we started talking... but...only casual talking...
i said i missed him...he asked me money...
i was nice and sent him 250...the he went silent again for a week, after another fight... then he initiated contact again...only to start talking about his debts...now he needs 2500 euros
i said that i might help him monthly...but he wants all the money at once...it seems to me that after i will send it...he will disappear again... is scary...i'm so disappointed...
can anyone tell me if it's in his chart...or it's a cappy thing? sorry...i don't really know what i'm typing...
how is this possible?
my good heart is telling me to help...but, on the other hand i feel used IP: Logged |
Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 20, 2011 05:18 AM
what's wrong with this guy?he initiated conversation and being nice for 2 days, just to ask me some money...
after I've sent 200 euros...
then... he was mean and offended me and dumped me again... now, after another week of silence...he sent a link...no words...i answered with ?...and here we go again talking... i told i missed him...he said he is sick and worried about his debts of about 2500 euro... i said i can help...monthly...but not all amount at a time...
he answered that he can not pay in shares coz he will have to pay interest... my good heart is telling me to help...but my brain says he will dump me the next day i will send him money... i'm so confused and disappointed
is it something in his chart that explains this? IP: Logged |
fireopal
Knowflake Posts: 202
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted September 20, 2011 05:47 AM
My gut instinct is saying he's playing you. Get out now before he messes too much more with your head. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 20454
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 20, 2011 08:39 AM
Hi Carmelita
I am glad you posted.I will look.------------------
Do You Think This Psychic Is Cute?
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 20454
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 20, 2011 09:23 AM
In the synastry,your IC goes to his MC. Your deepest part you bring to his most social part. I will look, slowly, today.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 20454
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 20, 2011 09:52 AM
Ok,first, I am gonna see what is wrong with this guy.
I am gonna look at his chart.
I am gonna move it to it's own thread,if that is OK.I like a fresh canvas.I will prolly ask you to add Asteroids, too.------------------
Do You Think This Psychic Is Cute?
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Carmelita
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted September 20, 2011 02:03 PM
Hi Ami Anne and thank you!u r treasure! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 20454
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 20, 2011 02:08 PM
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Originally posted by Carmelita:
Hi Ami Anne and thank you!u r treasure!
You are welcome.I have been there, with that yearning and not knowing! ------------------
Do You Think This Psychic Is Cute?
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ceridwen
Knowflake Posts: 497
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted September 20, 2011 02:56 PM
Synastry aside, I must agree with fireopal, it sounds like he is taking (financial) advantage of you. Definitely NOT a good sign, especially with all his erratic behaviour before.
Actualyl I was surprised to see his age, from what you were describing I was thinking he was in his early twenty`s.IP: Logged |
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