posted November 19, 2011 08:08 PM            

I am sort of at some career crossroad and maybe you could help read what would looks like a good career focus for me or what kind of home/career balance would resonate with my natal characteristics.

I love my job, but it requires a lot of travelling and I need to be away from home a lot. When a few years younger, I felt the excitement of all this out-of-town travel/extended stay abroad, but now, at times I feel tired and miss family & friends. Yet, with the current economic conditions, to stay in my current work I would need to accept the travel or even transfer to another office.

Another aspect is, at this point, if I give myself a push, I could get to the next level. However, up to now, I have not been too proactive in it, because there are things in the next level that I am uncertain about my suitability (though there would likely be good money & prestige).

In my job I have both selling and delivery/execution responsibilities. As I go up, the proportion of selling would increase and selling means sales quota *ugh*. Also, for the next level, I will no longer be strictly an employee, but part of a partnership business.

The reason I am not asking horary is that I think I would like to make a decision myself based on what would suit my inborn characteristics and karmic life goals etc, even if the path will be tough

posted November 20, 2011 11:24 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
OK, yuting, fantastic description of your situation and one that fits your natal chart perfectly.
With Mars, NN and MC all in the 9th house of travel and foreign cultures (I see you use the equal houses system) opposite your DC and Venus the ruler of your ASC AND Sun the ruler of your 4th house of home/roots/family life, it's no wonder you are in this dilemma.

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Thanks so much. Certainly helps me put things in perspective. I have an inkling I need to find my future away from home, and my home home is my emotional strength, which when I am really tired, I come back to recharge. So while home & friends are my dilemma, I have pretty much accepted it (except when really stressed). But because of all the travelling, seems like hard to find a bf. Believe or not, I didnt have my 1st serious relationship till I was 37.

Yes, I am using equal house now. Used to use placidus, but with my travel pattern and the fact that I have many foreign friends and exposure, I think 9H Mars & MC seem to fit better. As for Sun & Venus, both 3H & 4H could work. And actually, I feel more like a 5H mercury (per placidus) than a 4H mercury (per equal). But I think the 9H characteristics are too strong to ignore.

posted November 20, 2011 11:35 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:

You mentioned the stress with selling quota if you accepted the promotion and so I looked at Mercury. Merc rules your 2nd house of income so it's clear you can be successful in sales. ...

...One question I have is what kind of "product" you currently sell. If it's related to home in any way, your chances of big success (in line of the above analysis) are good. Mercury is your friend and one of your talents, so don't be afraid of selling and be creative about it. You have Venus (art), Sun (spotlight) and Merc (communication) on your side.

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I am a management consultant, so I sell services. Certainly using a lot of mercury, cos creative solutions to business problems is the game.

I know I am not too bad at selling if I have to (not cold call type though), but I do not enjoy it. I really prefer delivery (ie actually working on the projects I have sold or others have sold), esp project management. Because that is the way I can actually see the actual benefits. So if I get promoted, I might not have as much opportunities for this kind of satisfying involvement. Thus the dilemma.

I think responding quickly to changes and finding practical solutions to handle crisis appeal to my Uranian side. Somehow I feel Uranus is strong in my chart. What do you think?

Also, if I move up, it will not be the normal management post. It will be becoming a partner in a partnership. From my chart, does it look I am suited for involvement in a partnership?

posted November 20, 2011 11:37 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:

Mars in Aqua is all about intellect. Can you improve your studies taking a course abroad?

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I got my degree in US and did home stay in Japan before

Now, every project is learning for me anyway.

posted November 20, 2011 11:40 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:

The NN is your destiny to strive for in this lifetime. It's the opposite of the SN which is your "comfort zone", the easy route, one you have learned to do over several previous lifetimes. The way to reconcile the two is to use the skills of your SN in order to serve you in your striving to reach your NN.

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Love this. We are of like minds here. I dislike it when people say all these bad things about SN. But without the SN, what can we leverage to go forward. Every one needs support and rest from time to time, even as we pursue our goals. No one can focus on NN alone, with no rest. It is just a matter of balance.

posted November 20, 2011 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
Cooking, traditions, home-making, anything that Venus and Sun like are your talents. Use them to achieve success in the fashion that a NN in Aqua in the 9th house would require.

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I am not quite making a home abroad now. As the projects are in different places, so even if I move to one city, I will still likely have to travel to other places often.

I think I see how it is working out is whenever I am on home trip, I'd like to invite people to my home for good food and wine. I also like all kinds of traditional festivals and celebrations. As for home-making...well I hate housework :P

Venus and Sun...well, I love the performing arts, both as audience and as participant.

posted November 20, 2011 01:56 PM            

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Originally posted by yuting:
I am a management consultant, so I sell services. Certainly using a lot of mercury, cos creative solutions to business problems is the game.

I know I am not too bad at selling if I have to (not cold call type though), but I do not enjoy it. I really prefer delivery (ie actually working on the projects I have sold or others have sold), esp project management. Because that is the way I can actually see the actual benefits. So if I get promoted, I might not have as much opportunities for this kind of satisfying involvement. Thus the dilemma.

I think responding quickly to changes and finding practical solutions to handle crisis appeal to my Uranian side. Somehow I feel Uranus is strong in my chart. What do you think?

Also, if I move up, it will not be the normal management post. It will be becoming a partner in a partnership. From my chart, does it look I am suited for involvement in a partnership?

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Yes, Uranus rules your 10th and trines your 9th house Mars/NN and your MC.

Uranus is in Libra, a sign that thrives in partnerships. Also Cap rules your 9th and Cap is good with leadership positions.

Your 7th, the house of business and other partnerships, is ruled by Virgo, which is ruled by Merc. I know you don't enjoy selling as much but Merc works in your chart. Merc is not only about selling. Communications, being the go-to person is Merc as well. Can you talk to your mentor at work about the specific responsibilities you will have as a partner. I feel this is such a great opportunity to just pass by.

posted November 20, 2011 02:01 PM            

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Originally posted by yuting:
I am not quite making a home abroad now. As the projects are in different places, so even if I move to one city, I will still likely have to travel to other places often.

I think I see how it is working out is whenever I am on home trip, I'd like to invite people to my home for good food and wine. I also like all kinds of traditional festivals and celebrations. As for home-making...well I hate housework :P

Venus and Sun...well, I love the performing arts, both as audience and as participant.

Hmmm...I love the outdoors in nature too, esp when there is sunshine. (very literally the Sun )

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posted November 20, 2011 02:02 PM            

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Originally posted by yuting:
Thanks so much. Certainly helps me put things in perspective. I have an inkling I need to find my future away from home, and my home home is my emotional strength, which when I am really tired, I come back to recharge. So while home & friends are my dilemma, I have pretty much accepted it (except when really stressed). But because of all the travelling, seems like hard to find a bf. Believe or not, I didnt have my 1st serious relationship till I was 37.

Yes, I am using equal house now. Used to use placidus, but with my travel pattern and the fact that I have many foreign friends and exposure, I think 9H Mars & MC seem to fit better. As for Sun & Venus, both 3H & 4H could work. And actually, I feel more like a 5H mercury (per placidus) than a 4H mercury (per equal). But I think the 9H characteristics are too strong to ignore.

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posted November 20, 2011 06:20 PM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
Yes, Uranus rules your 10th and trines your 9th house Mars/NN and your MC.

Uranus is in Libra, a sign that thrives in partnerships. Also Cap rules your 9th and Cap is good with leadership positions.

Your 7th, the house of business and other partnerships, is ruled by Virgo, which is ruled by Merc. I know you don't enjoy selling as much but Merc works in your chart. Merc is not only about selling. Communications, being the go-to person is Merc as well. Can you talk to your mentor at work about the specific responsibilities you will have as a partner. I feel this is such a great opportunity to just pass by.

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7H ruler is Merc? I thought it's Mars/Pluto. But I guess Mars drives my work, so would still be partnership in work?

I am attaching myself to a boss who's good at selling, so he can be my mentor as well as work together on sales (so I dont need to go it alone). I know I've been avoiding talk about how and when of promotion with him cos till now, I still have reluctance to push myself in that selling part :P

posted November 20, 2011 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
You simply sound burned out to me. You sound like you have been working very hard. You absolutely need the balance of home in order to achieve your goals effortlessly i.e. from a happy place.... Btw, making friends other people who are like you i.e. travel a lot is critical for your emotional well-being too.

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Me work too hard? hohoho, I think I am one of the laziest in my work. But maybe a bit burnt out from living 80% of my past 2.5yr in hotel rooms.

Will definitely try to make friends every where I go

posted November 20, 2011 06:27 PM            

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Originally posted by yuting:
7H ruler is Merc? I thought it's Mars/Pluto. But I guess Mars drives my work, so would still be partnership in work?

I am attaching myself to a boss who's good at selling, so he can be my mentor as well as work together on sales (so I dont need to go it alone). I know I've been avoiding talk about how and when of promotion with him cos till now, I still have reluctance to push myself in that selling part :P

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posted November 21, 2011 01:41 AM            

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Originally posted by anongrl10:
Sorry, yeah, that was 5th house, not 7th.
It's very late for me right now so good night!

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Hmmm...maybe why my 4H Merc also feels like a 5H Merc to me.

posted November 21, 2011 01:46 AM            

I'd like to be a bit greedy...could you help me look at the synastry of me and the guy who's making me feel in a limbo and who's chart links strongly to my SN, please?