posted December 19, 2011 11:29 PM            

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Originally posted by aquarqueen:
this guy makes it seem like if the only way he will take care of our unborn child is if i stay with him live with him and take all his crap and thats something i dont want to do.... i dont know what to do with myself anymore =/ i dont know where to start ... i feel like if i'm just bothering everyone ..i had just got back from eating out with my him and as soon as i walked in my mom asked me if he gave me money or something... i dont really have a question so i dont know what chart to post ==/

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posted December 20, 2011 09:50 PM            

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Originally posted by aquarqueen:
U didnt write anything ami u just quoted me

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I know. I am just saying I feel you
From your fave blanco

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posted December 20, 2011 10:48 PM            

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Originally posted by aquarqueen:
lol blanca!!!! blanco is for men

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Yep, soy cansado. Blanca is verdat

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posted December 21, 2011 09:15 AM            

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Originally posted by aquarqueen:
this guy makes it seem like if the only way he will take care of our unborn child is if i stay with him live with him and take all his crap and thats something i dont want to do.... i dont know what to do with myself anymore =/ i dont know where to start ... i feel like if i'm just bothering everyone ..i had just got back from eating out with my him and as soon as i walked in my mom asked me if he gave me money or something... i dont really have a question so i dont know what chart to post ==/

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I know this isn't a reading, but from personal experience in my own childhood, and lessons as a parent, a child is happier having contact with two happy separated parents, than two miserable coupled parents.

Your child's happiness is always tied up with your own, and remember, they learn the most about relationships, self-respect and confidence, and love, from their parents.
Whatever you show them is their example and guide to life.

While neither may seem like the ideal you have in mind for your baby, a separation and consequent parental independance and happiness is much easier to get over than a childhood of unhappiness in the home with both parents.

Also, no matter how honourable the motivation and intention, that whole 'staying together for the children', and resenting eachother as a result (which the child can see no matter how cleverly it's covered up) puts a huge guilt and responsibility in the mind of the child. Many will blame themselves for their parents unhappiness, as they were the binding element.

posted December 21, 2011 09:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
a child is happier having contact with two happy separated parents, than two miserable coupled parents.

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This I agree with Voix... My parents were together for 32 years, never divorced but they dislike/hated each other throughout. We 4 children were affected deeply by this.. I honestly dun understand how they could have maintained the relationship so long when nothing positive was ever exchanged between them.

posted December 21, 2011 09:41 AM            

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Originally posted by lilithpluto:
I honestly dun understand how they could have maintained the relationship so long when nothing positive was ever exchanged between them.

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posted December 21, 2011 01:17 PM            

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posted December 21, 2011 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Still_Hopeful:
OMG
I was almost in the same position as you.
I feel for so much.
If you fell that you and your baby is better living separately, PLEASE follow your intuition.

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posted December 21, 2011 02:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Darling
This is your dark night of the soul!

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posted December 21, 2011 02:32 PM            

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posted December 22, 2011 03:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I was in an awful relationship. I asked my mother for emotional support. She said, "You made your bed, you lie in it"

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