posted January 07, 2012 06:20 AM            

If you're not getting what you want from this person, if he still isn't growing up, and if he doesn't put you first, then perhaps this is not the right person or the right relationship for you.

I know that you have been together for a long time, but for him to tell you that "good times with his friends" are what's important to him, and that he "just wants to have fun", then maybe he is holding you back from your own goals of spirituality and being a beacon of hope and healing for the less fortunate. It sounds to me like his ways and yours just aren't compatible.

I'm not saying that he is a bad person, but he might still be stuck in the past, stuck in same age as when you met, even though he obviously has aged chronologically, if that makes sense. That is, he hasn't mentally, spiritually, or emotionally matured, whereas you have. He also hasn't allowed his approach to your relationship to mature.

In all honesty, you will never find the love that you seek with this person, as long as he chooses to be this way. You can't change him, either: only he can change himself.

If you want real love, then you would have to find someone who is more compatible, someone with goals and ideals and a maturity level that are suited to your own: not necessarily identical to your own, but that mesh well with yours. This relationship as it is now could be holding you back, and holding onto it could be preventing you from finding a new one that would offer you the type of mature love that you want.

Whatever you decide, I hope that you will be able to figure out what is the best choice for you and that it will make you happy.

Lastly, I don't say any of this to hurt you. I simply feel a need to be honest and to be as helpful as I can (without being pushy or overbearing or tactless).

(I'm a Libra with a Sagittarius ascendant, for what it's worth).

posted January 07, 2012 08:37 AM            

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posted January 07, 2012 10:29 AM            

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posted January 07, 2012 10:45 AM            

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Originally posted by 3blessings:
Thankyou for your insight. You described my relationship and feelings better than I did. I have even said that I feel like I'm in a relationship wth a teen ager. When I try to explain that I need deeper meaning, I need to make a difference, he says I just dont want him to have fun. The HARDEST thing is letting go. Letting go of the hopes & dreams I had for us. I'm praying for Guidance. Thanks again for reply, I have already read it 4 times.

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Glad that I could help!

I will pray for you as well, if that's OK (I'm a liberal Christian, for what it's worth).

My prayer for you is that you will feel your best self being restored as you release what is preventing you from accessing it. My prayer is that this process will ultimately bring you comfort and peace, even if you experience sadness, pain, and frustration in the short term. I will also pray that your gifts of compassion, generosity, and selflessness will be put to the best use and that the light of these gifts will shine brightly on their recipients. I pray that God shower you with many blessings and much joy.

posted January 07, 2012 04:23 PM            

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