posted February 14, 2012 12:58 PM            

Happy Valentine's day for those who are celebrating. For me it usually is a sad day because I am either single, or stood up or... staying at home though I'm with someone.
I have a new bf... He's kinda hard for me to read. He tells me/sometimes shows me he likes me but I don't think he likes me that much (or maybe I'm just too insecure, that could be true). We didn't make actual plans for today, but I went out and got him a present and asked him if he wants to go out for a glass of wine. He called and said he has this big presentation for work and can't do it tonight, but maybe tomorrow...
Thing is... I understand he is a workacholic, I am one too, but I make the time for the people in my life. Especially on such occasions. Now I'm stuck with his present and all alone at home on Valentine's day... And I'm sad. I really really really don't have the energy to go through another romantic fiasco, really don't. The last two have drained me out. But if things keep up like this, him neglecting me for his job all the time... I don't quite see a future for us.

posted February 14, 2012 01:55 PM            

I will post the charts if anyone has time/energy/interest to look at them. Thank you!

My chart:

posted February 14, 2012 01:57 PM            

I understand what you're going through... I've spent many Valentine's Days by myself, too. At least this year I am single (again! lol)
But don't worry - you know what you are really worth

I can do a tarot reading for you, if you want

We could do it via email, as well. Let me know!

posted February 14, 2012 04:15 PM            

By the way, that composite is pretty scattered and venus is unaspected. The synastry is also very weak and all those oppositions and saturn thrown in there not good...i see no nice aspects other than moon square venus either. Moon square venus means you love each other a lot, but you sometimes do things for each other the other doesnt really appreciate...like when one of u feels romantic the other is just feeling friendly. And you inadvertently hurt each other without knowing.

posted February 14, 2012 08:24 PM            

Long time no see!

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Originally posted by Hera:
Hello all...

Happy Valentine's day for those who are celebrating. For me it usually is a sad day because I am either single, or stood up or... staying at home though I'm with someone.

I have a new bf... He's kinda hard for me to read. He tells me/sometimes shows me he likes me but I don't think he likes me that much (or maybe I'm just too insecure, that could be true). We didn't make actual plans for today, but I went out and got him a present and asked him if he wants to go out for a glass of wine. He called and said he has this big presentation for work and can't do it tonight, but maybe tomorrow...
Thing is... I understand he is a workacholic, I am one too, but I make the time for the people in my life.

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Haha, how come that sounds just like me over the years Anyway, dont be sad. For any real relationship, usually takes time to develop and deepen. Maybe, for him it is still dating stage, so it is something he would do when he has the time and energy. Women sometimes read too much too soon and we push for a level the guys are not ready for. Scale-back your own expectation of the pace a bit. Give the relationship more time and space to progress gradually.

Yes...I am learning all that from my significantly delayed relationship. That interest of mine is a workaholic too (and yes, I call him "my interest" cos I do not want to create the illustration/expectation that our relationship is more than what it is at this stage). And no, this is not astrology, it is advice from the author of "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus"

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I don't quite see a future for us.

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Dont "see" too much for now and just enjoy your time together when you are together. And if you do not enjoy it, dont be in a relationship just because you want to be in a relationship.

As for his chart, Taurus Asc(so close to Taurus, I see it as Taurus)/ Cap MC, tons of planets in 6H: workaholic with strong practical streak. So while he enjoys pretty things and creature comfort, he only does that when it is practical. He is deterimined and hardworking when it comes to work/career/responsibilities. Right now, when relationship is still young with you, I expect he will see his work a much higher priority as responsibility than dating, so his behavior could be expected

If you like him enough to want to pursue more with him, it is important to accept that is who he is. And with Taurus Asc, he is probably not one likely to change.

posted February 14, 2012 11:15 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Don't ever let anyone make you feel you are "just insecure," hun. There's always a good reason why you are feeling insecure. Trust your gut! I would rather be with someone who loves me tons :/. I would break up with him eventually if I were you. I'm sorry.

By the way, that composite is pretty scattered and venus is unaspected. The synastry is also very weak and all those oppositions and saturn thrown in there not good...i see no nice aspects other than moon square venus either. Moon square venus means you love each other a lot, but you sometimes do things for each other the other doesnt really appreciate...like when one of u feels romantic the other is just feeling friendly. And you inadvertently hurt each other without knowing.

Also, composite venus is very important in a relationship. When it is unaspected it shows a serious void. This relationship is never going to be romantic and you will always struggle with showing each other how much you care.

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Hun, maybe you looked at other charts, because mine are nothing like that. Look again.

posted February 14, 2012 11:49 PM            

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Originally posted by yuting:

Hello Hera,

Long time no see!

Dont "see" too much for now and just enjoy your time together when you are together. And if you do not enjoy it, dont be in a relationship just because you want to be in a relationship.

As for his chart, Taurus Asc/ Cap MC, tons of planets in 6H: workaholic with strong practical streak. So while he enjoys pretty things and creature comfort, he only does that when it is practical. He is deterimined and hardworking when it comes to work/career/responsibilities. Right now, when relationship is still young with you, I expect he will see his work a much higher priority as responsibility than dating, so his behavior could be expected

If you like him enough to want to pursue more with him, it is important to accept that is who he is. He is probably not intro astrology and with Taurus Asc, he is probably not one likely to change.

Try to relax more in your relationship. Give him and yourself time to get to know each other and the relationship.

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posted February 15, 2012 02:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Thank you for the advice, it is very wise and you are right indeed. Sometimes I do feel that I am projecting my insecurities on this relationship and yes, he is favouring that by being sort of distant and silent (most of the times) about his feelings and intentions, though when we are together it doesn't feel like that anymore.

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Feel free to vent out your frustration with us gals here. That's what gal friends are for

As long as we are aware of our own projections and learn to deal with them internally, we are entitled to our little grumbles. Can tell you have it under control. Glad you are feeling better

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Honestly, after the horror I went through with relationships, I don't know who wouldn't be insecure or expecting the worse case scenario, because in my case, it happened.

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All the more reason to take it slowly, so you could put the relationship in more objective perspective and evaluate it on its own credit.

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The new Libra is 100% Aries Asc. I have rectified his chart partially, with some of the info he provided, and his Asc might be 28 or 29 Aries, but def Aries. He looks like an Aries Asc, behaves like an Aries Asc, walks like one etc. He is nothing like ex-Libra, who was indeed Taurus Asc and kept my couch occupied all day long. Nothing at all, this one moves so fast all the time I can't keep up with him sometimes. ...
...Well, he did say he's going to clear his schedule for me today so I guess I'll see how that goes.

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Oops! That means even more driven and less romantic than Taurus Asc. But I bet he will do his best to clear his schedule for you today since he takes responsibilities seriously and he is a doer (Aries/Libra/Cap all cardinal).

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We didn't make plans or said that we're gonna celebrate Valentine's day, that is true... But I was hoping, lol. I know I need to adjust my expectations, esp with those Venus-Uranus aspects in synastry and composite, meaning expect nothing lol, but that is something my Moon-Neptune finds extremely, extremely impossible lol.

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We are entitled to that. I keep hoping about my Saturn guy too. Just need to keep the size of the hope under-control, so I will not be too disappointed when it does not happen. If there is no more hope, then there's no reason to be in the relationship

Btw, Saturn guy's sick yesterday, so easy for me to manage my own expectation.

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I don't like it one bit lol. I know that if things continue like that my eyes will eventually start to wander on other men and that is going to be the end of it. I can't stand being ignored lol, it's an Aries thing .

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posted February 15, 2012 10:24 AM            

a warm big hug...

dnt worry , i was alone at the valentine's too... hardly matters...coz we r the girls... the fairer sex.. cheer up sweetie

p.s. > i was IMpatiently waiting for u to be around here almst a month nd half back...desperately needed a reading.... so ceri sugegsted me i try with u as well.... bt anyhow , its over for now... bt felt nice to spot ur name in the posts today

posted February 15, 2012 11:31 PM            

Hun, I'm sorry it didn't work out with the Saturn guy by now. I remember the readings being very positive, but I can ask again if you want (after all, it's been a while since you asked, things probably changed a bit with you or him). We can do the reading via e-mail (I'm not yet ready to return to my Osho readings, the readings volume is a bit overwhelming right now, but a few readings via email I can definitely do). Can you please leave me your e-mail addy or I can post mine and delete it afterwards, preferably when we're both online for privacy reasons.

posted February 15, 2012 11:37 PM            

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Originally posted by start6030:
hey Hera !!

a warm big hug...

dnt worry , i was alone at the valentine's too... hardly matters...coz we r the girls... the fairer sex.. cheer up sweetie

p.s. > i was IMpatiently waiting for u to be around here almst a month nd half back...desperately needed a reading.... so ceri sugegsted me i try with u as well.... bt anyhow , its over for now... bt felt nice to spot ur name in the posts today

hv a great luck with some reallyr eally lvng caring and handsome boy ... make a wish..fast !!

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Start, I'm really sorry I have missed your request and wasn't able to help you. Due to personal problems and a demanding job I was unable to come here, starting Novemeber 2011, except very briefly and very rarely. I have stopped the readings because I didn't think I was in the best mental state to do them and actually help people, but since I enjoy doing them so much, I want to return as soon as my energy level allows it. I still have my Tarot thread that I intend to bump soon, if you still want a reading you can ask the question in there.

posted February 16, 2012 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Yuting, you're very good at astro, hun! You're very right about him. Not only did he clear his schedule, but called the minute he walked out of the office to ask me when I can meet him (he said he finishes work at 6.30, called at 6.32 ). The date was fabulous, he really made up for the missed Valentine's day. Actually, when he explained to me that his office is firing people and they do these kind of things to test people and see who they can keep, all my frustration and insecurity went out the window.

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I like to be right, esp when it is good results

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Hun, I'm sorry it didn't work out with the Saturn guy by now. I remember the readings being very positive, but I can ask again if you want (after all, it's been a while since you asked, things probably changed a bit with you or him). We can do the reading via e-mail

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When I put things in perspective, 2 mth is not short time, but neither is it that long. Anyway, it is a bit stagnant (no better no worse right now).

And thanks for offering your reading. I just love your readings. So sensitive and touching! Btw, in a remote while back I have asked if you could help me read my 1st meeting chart with him. Would like so much if you could help me read it (or in conjunction with a tarot reading to see if it prompts sth).

Seems like you are not often here. How about you post your email here since I check this bulletin regularly. I will send you email to let you know I have it so you can delete it.

posted February 16, 2012 03:55 AM            

Hera, its ok, I think many of us have to go through these phases in life because what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger and c'mon hardly ever a Ram stays down for long at the end of the day everything will be ok.

For your relationship:

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3---Man---4----Lady----5
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Man is Him, Lady is you
1 - His thoughts
2- His feeling
3- What you don't know about him
4- What can bridge the gap between both of you
5 - Future of this companionship

1. Thoughts: Clouds. Ok very clearly speaking, he is not clear in his head.He has confusions, he is direction less, his brain is not working, in other words his head is in clouds. He does not "know" what he wants from you or from this relationship.

2. His feelings: Ring- Good! He is at least devoted and committed towards you. He feels a strong unbreakable bond with you.

3. Mice : What you don't know is that he is worried. These worried can be anything related to his work, or with position 1 it can simply be not knowing which one to choose between head and heart (Clouds and Ring). This inside battle is eating him inside.

4. Fish: Fish represents soul connection, subconscious, feelings (because of water) and multiplication. You guys need to find that subconscious and very deeper feelings that need to be released. This is not going to be an easy task, but it can be done, only an effort is required. Fish represents Pisces, having the Pisces traits in your relationship, compassion, understanding, selfless love, these can bridge the gaps between you two.

5- Future: Whip. Trouble, break up, arguments. Things can get heated and there may be some arguments (Aries sun vs. Aries Asc, what should I expect ). I will not say its a good card, but at the end of the day its up to us. You can make it or break it. The Whip also represents a pattern, if you two have broken up in past, you might as well again. If you have troubles in relationship, you might have again. The trick is to stay in senses and be very careful against verbal battles. Whip is trouble, but it can be avoided. This is not the final decision card, you can always work it in your own benefit.

I wish you good luck Hera. I hope things become happier and cheerful for you

*hugs*

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Pity from an Aries is worse than their contempt \m/

posted February 16, 2012 01:03 PM            

hope you are doing well !! i was waiting to see you back on lindaland as i wanted to talk about the reading you had given me sometime back (about my spiritual journey and the soulmate if you remember?!) . there is something that i want to confirm about the same as new and strange developments have taken place since that reading and every time i get a new information i am reminded of your reading instantly . i don't know if you can spare a little time for me so i can talk about my concerns, but if you can ,please drop me a line . i really hope i will get some clarity if i discuss it with you .

i sincerely hope that i am not bothering you with this request of mine !!

thank you so much for reading and welcome back on lindaland .... !!

posted February 20, 2012 07:49 AM            

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Originally posted by yuting:
When I put things in perspective, 2 mth is not short time, but neither is it that long. Anyway, it is a bit stagnant (no better no worse right now).

And thanks for offering your reading. I just love your readings. So sensitive and touching! Btw, in a remote while back I have asked if you could help me read my 1st meeting chart with him. Would like so much if you could help me read it (or in conjunction with a tarot reading to see if it prompts sth).

Seems like you are not often here. How about you post your email here since I check this bulletin regularly. I will send you email to let you know I have it so you can delete it.

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posted February 20, 2012 08:09 AM            

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Originally posted by babycolors:
hi hera

hope you are doing well !! i was waiting to see you back on lindaland as i wanted to talk about the reading you had given me sometime back (about my spiritual journey and the soulmate if you remember?!) . there is something that i want to confirm about the same as new and strange developments have taken place since that reading and every time i get a new information i am reminded of your reading instantly . i don't know if you can spare a little time for me so i can talk about my concerns, but if you can ,please drop me a line at i_like_baby_colors@yahoo.com . i really hope i will get some clarity if i discuss it with you .

i sincerely hope that i am not bothering you with this request of mine !!

thank you so much for reading and welcome back on lindaland .... !!

best regards
babycolors

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posted February 20, 2012 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Hun, of course I remember you! Unfortunately right now is a painfully busy time for me because my work took a surprising turn with this clinical trial thing and I'm swamped in it. I will write you today because I have a wee bit of free time and answer your questions when I can, is that ok?
Hope you are well!

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