posted April 18, 2012 10:30 AM            

Anyway, I observed the chart briefly - I can come back to continue reading more later. There were some things right off the bat that I noticed for a not so great union between two people. And also what could explain bizarre behavior from him.

One is Venus quincunx Uranus. This leads to one partner having sudden changes in feelings and perspective that can dramatically alter the relationship. Maybe this aspect is what lead everything to go sour for you to start with. You saw him as someone you could be an understanding friend to... and then suddenly, he plunges into this relationship with the ideals that you two should open up to one another, bear it all, be devoted, etc. etc.! That's weird. Especially if you haven't actually known each other for too long. This Venus-Uranus aspect makes you probably think that he is very strange romantically, that's obvious (and justified!). He has bizarre and erratic actions in the relationship between you two, which is essentially what the harsh Venus-Uranus aspect in your synastry seems to say.

Another reason this guy is probably very into you sexually and telling you to 'loosen up' and just stop being so defensive is because of the Mars-Sun conjunction in Gemini. A Mars-Sun conjunction indicates that one partner feels totally physically attracted to the other; usually this is the Sun partner, and appropriately it is his Sun on the outside conjunct your Mars. And I've read that in this scenario, it's usually the Mars person who is accused of being too defensive or distant from seeing how the Sun feels that hot spark of chemistry. I don't always like this aspect in synastry when the others are BAD, because in your case it seems like he is almost trying to fight fire with fire, Sun against Mars- to bully you into seeing how 'hot' you two could be together, to the point that he's calling you a nun! Ridiculous. How do you feel about this interpretation?

To make matters worse, his Uranus squares YOUR Venus. This is called the 'divorce aspect' I've heard. How does this relate to you? It shows that this guy, is the one who is jostling and upsetting the relationship near constantly with odd behaviors like calling at weird times and accusing you of weird things, and then switching to his alibi of claiming to want to bring out the playful side of you and thinking you're 'sexy'. Usually in a marriage gone bad there is a partner who acts inconsistently through either odd behaviors or cheating, hence why this is named the Divorce Aspect. In your case you'd obviously never make it that far with him, but he is still doing the same thing. Hot and cold, on and off. It indicates a lack of stability. I think because this guy's Uranus makes so many stress aspects to your personal planets, including Mercury, you see him as erratic and definitely unstable. You're seeing the dark side of Uranus in this guy.

Another thing that stands out is Moon square Pluto - his Pluto squaring your Moon. Do you feel he is emotionally controlling over you? Or maybe you feel like your emotions are just messed up from being around him? Pluto exerts obsessive control when it makes a harsh aspect. His Pluto seems to have a negative influence over your Moon, your heart; you might feel like you cannot emotionally tear away or maybe you are afraid to. This aspect can lead to INTENSE power struggles mostly from the Pluto person's presence... a poor psychological connection because of how dark it can get. Not a good aspect to have between two people for harmony.

So although originally you said 'synastry for stalking' I think this is better suited to be called 'synastry for bizarreness'. Yes, there is definitely a few things here that show he is obsessive but overall it's just... bizarre. He isn't really stalking you, just harassing you. I think it's a lot of intimidation and bullying, which is shown here, and a lot of his weird attitudes oppressing your emotional stability and love nature. You have NO Idea what this guy is about in love... nothing about his love nature makes sense to you, and it even freaks you out. He doesn't seem like the type of guy who would come and attack you or threaten you in order for you two to get together - I'd think that would be more represented by harsh Venus-Pluto aspects coupled with other negative aspects in the chart. Venus-Pluto can also indicate stalking.

So... what do you think about this? We can communicate more about it!