posted November 08, 2012 11:10 PM            

First of all thanks to anyone who takes time out to help me. I need all the help I can get right now.

One thing I have always noticed about myself is-I tend to get toooooo serious about things and tooooo emotional, for no reason at all. Things deeply affect me. For eg.-I go to a party and see someone not finishing all the food on their plate, it will give me a sleepless night! So see, I know there is something wrong with me mentally, I just don't know how to stop being so serious and intense.

Anyway, that is not my problem. The thing is-I was in love once. And since I have already told you how deeply my heart gets affected, you can imagine how insanely I was in love. Things didn't work out and we broke up in 2008. That sent me into depression and made me very introvert, something I am still struggling with.

However, all this while, I had someone by my side-my bestest friend on this planet. We met in August 2001 in High school, then we went to college together, then he went to navy, off to high seas for months together-but strangely enough even through all the distance, our relationship just grew stronger and stronger. Nothing romantic. But its unbelievable how close we have always been. No secrets, nothing, just been there for each other. Meeting after 6 months, felt like no time had passed. You get the drift?

But for past 10 months or so, we have had a lot of arguments. We were both sworn vegetarians, teetotalers and suddenly he has started drinking, eating everything under the sun, kinda became angrier and so on. So we had a few arguments over these and he brushed these off as related to job stress. Anyway, our relationship continued as before, with minor glitches ofcourse.

Now on 22nd October 2012 he said that he has met someone who he thinks could be his life partner. However, he is also confused because somehow, I guess at the back of our minds, we always thought we would end up together. And trust me, from the day I have heard this, I have had constant fever, headache, stomachache and a raging fit of jealousy and rage -against God Knows What! I mean, I get how stupid this sounds. I have never been serious about marriage. In fact I always thought that marriage is kinda constricting. But now, the mere thought that he could marry someone else is tearing me apart. But I don't want to say anything reckless unless I am absolutely sure.

On one hand, it feels like I will actually die if he gets married to someone else. On the other, It feels like I met my soulmate and still I am scared, what if he is better off with this other girl? I don't want him to be unhappy and I definitely don't want to be trapped in an unhappy marriage. What if he is not my soulmate-but even thinking this gives me extreme pain. What if I am just confusing a decade of togetherness for love?

posted November 09, 2012 02:41 PM            

Composites and synastries are not set in stone. They're more like a "map" to see how you both interact with each other. It doesn't tell you whether you will marry someone or not, it will tell you how well you would both interact in the marriage, etc.

Saturn in the 7th house gives me a feeling that if you get married, you will stay in the marriage even while feeling that the love isn't there any longer. However, this is only a "feeling".

You shouldn't really count on a synastry, composite, etc to tell you how to live life.

Composite/synastry are only "guidelines" to see how you will act with one another. These can still be wrong. Having no planets in the 7th house or any house doesn't mean "this will happen and this won't" etc. It's kind of ridiculous to think everything is black and white. It's the same as saying everyone with planets in the 7th house composite are destined to marry, or that everyone who gets married has planets in the 7th house..that's absurd.

Go with your gut, that is never wrong.

posted November 09, 2012 04:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Rosalind:
The synastry shows karmic relationship and with Saturn in 7th I cannot see marriage at all.
The Composite shows only friendship. In fact the lovely YOD is pointing the 11th house where is Mars. So Mars is the focus planet. But since its in 11th house I cannot see the relationship as a romantic one.

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posted November 09, 2012 04:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Rosalind:
The synastry shows karmic relationship and with Saturn in 7th I cannot see marriage at all.
The Composite shows only friendship. In fact the lovely YOD is pointing the 11th house where is Mars. So Mars is the focus planet. But since its in 11th house I cannot see the relationship as a romantic one.

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posted November 09, 2012 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Rosalind isnt 11th house important for later-in-life aka more mature marriages? Just like the 7th house is important for a first marriage; 9th house is important for a second marriage.

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posted November 09, 2012 05:10 PM            

just thought i'd point out your squares have nothing to do with intensity.

the mars squares indicate impatience, lack of structure and capacity to strategise, energy channelling problems. which tends to collapse and result in a nervous disposition.

add to this venus square pluto - a desire to control lovers, friends etc., violence at the level of feelings

and there you go, the solution to all your problems

acknowledge other people's freedom, they do not exist for your pleasure, but for their own. and learn to strategise, set yourself intermediate targets to obtain results.

posted November 13, 2012 03:56 AM            

Can u please post the composite though? And also copy n paste the compatibility for lovers reading from grupovenus.com
I am very interested in what is going on here.

posted November 13, 2012 04:55 AM            

I think what is going on in your chart is with mars in negative aspect to saturn and neptune your will feels thwarted, like other people are against you. With moon afflicted by mars and pluto, as well as venus being afflicted by pluto, your feelings can easily become distorted and overdramatized. It makes it hard to see things objectively and makes you certainly ruled by your emotions and finding it difficult to be objective. So I think the combination of all those things would make you feel like you want to reform people's actions which you feel are opposite your own values and ideals. Like you get too personally vested in people's lives

posted November 13, 2012 05:04 AM            

Mine's Sun in Saggitarius and His's Sun in Leo

Warmth, enthusiasm, vitality, and joy are kindled when the two of you are together, and there is great magnetism between you. Mine draws His out, evoking the more light-hearted, fun-loving side of His. Mine also keeps His from getting stuck in a rut, introducing new ideas and experiences that His enjoys. This is a mutually beneficial relationship which promises lots of good times and a very active life together.

Mine's frequent indifference or obliviousness to others' personal feelings can result in blunt comments that wound His's easily hurt pride. His is also more loyal than Mine is, who tends to wander (in actuality and fantasy) more than His does.

Mine's Moon in Taurus and His's Moon in Aries

His wants action and stimulation, and enjoys the challenge of a new environment, whereas what Mine wants above all else is domestic tranquillity, stability, and security. Mine puts down roots and gets emotionally attached to a familiar place, but His is much more eager to change and uproot when conditions feel stagnant or a new opportunity presents itself.

Where His is volatile and expressive, Mine tends to be calm, steady, and impassive. Mine is usually understanding but unperturbed by His's occasional outbursts of indignation, impatience, frustration, etc. Sometimes His may long for 'a good fight' or a stronger emotional reaction from Mine, but most of the time Mine's even temper and calmness have a soothing, healing effect on His.

His's first response to any situation is action (whether appropriate and helpful or not); Mine's is to wait-and-see, or to let the situation resolve itself in its own time.

Chapter 2
Major Themes in the Relationship: What Brought You Together

Sun Mutually Aspects Uranus

Excitement, upsets, and unpredictability are major themes in your relationship. If either of you is looking for a stable, secure, predictable, conservative relationship, then you will be very disappointed. Be prepared for an unusual relationship that does not fit any of your stereotypes. You need to also give each other a lot of freedom and independence; if you try to 'own' each other, you will both become extremely uncomfortable, eventually causing the relationship to explode apart. You spur each other to be more creative, inventive, and original. You inspire each other to be less inhibited, to experiment more, and explore new possibilities. This is a relationship that will never be boring! The constant excitement and changes may leave one, or both, of you feeling a bit frazzled and disoriented.

Moon Mutually Aspects Mars

As mentioned below several times, the physical and sexual attraction between you is strong - so it is not surprising that a sexual relationship has developed (or is developing). However, there is an aggressive quality to your relationship as well, which will need careful handling to prevent outbreaks of hostility. You must strive to be patient with each other and also have lots of creative, dynamic outlets together - working together or engaging in competitive sports are good outlets. There is a lot of 'fire' in your relationship, which can manifest as sexual drive, anger, or ambition - and usually as all three.

Mine's Sun conjunct His's Uranus orb 0° 38'

You inspire each other to try new things, experiment, and investigate alternatives. You may have met each other, for example, during a time period when both of you were breaking free from traditional values and exploring new possibilities. There is a lot of excitement and spontaneity in your relationship. The two of you may find it difficult to settle down into a stable life style - there will always be surprises and unexpected turns in your relationship. You encounter lots of new ideas, unusual people, adventure, and exciting times together. You both enjoy a good measure of freedom and independence in this relationship, but either of you may wish that there was more commitment, devotion, seriousness, warmth, and closeness.

Mine's Mercury conjunct His's Neptune orb 0° 24'

There is a poetic, fanciful quality to your conversations. His brings out the poet and dreamer in Mine. Communications on practical matters, however, may suffer and you both need to be wary of exaggerating, hiding, or deceiving each other. When with His, Mine is often confused, less clear and less precise than usual.

Mine's Mars opposition His's Sun orb 1° 20'

The physical and sexual attraction between the two of you is very strong. You are attracted to one another's strength and integrity. You may also enjoy competing with each other in games. However, be wary of a tendency to become rivals or adversaries, trying to out-perform each other.

Mine's Sun trine His's Sun orb 0° 3'

Your basic aims and approach to life are in harmony, and the mutual respect you feel forms the basis of an excellent friendship or partnership. You feel understood, appreciated, recognized, and affirmed by one another. You stimulate, vitalize, motivate, and believe in each other.

Mine's Sun trine His's Moon orb 0° 5'

You have a strong affinity with one another, an instinctive rapport that enables you to know one another very well, almost from the start. A basic compatibility exists which helps you to overcome the stressful or problematic facts of your relationship. You have a natural sense of belonging with one another, and partnership of some kind is likely to develop and flourish.

Mine's Sun sextile His's Jupiter orb 1° 36'

Your relationship has an upbeat, friendly positive quality that makes it fun to be with each other. You help each other laugh and take life less seriously. It is not unusual for the two of you to have a great deal of fun playing games or even while engaging in daily activities such as shopping, etc. You allow each other considerable freedom; you respect each other's independence, and are more interested in enjoying a good time together rather than dominating or smothering each other. This astrological influence is a positive one that helps enormously when the more stressful and difficult influences described elsewhere in this report make themselves felt.

Mine's Moon square His's Mars orb 1° 0'

The physical and sexual attraction between you is strong, but the tendency to frustrate each other and rouse each other's wrath is equally strong. Although the attraction between you is powerful, you should think carefully before making a long-term commitment, because the tendency to argue and nag each other is an undesirable side to this relationship that both of you will need to contend with. The sexual aspect of your relationship has an almost aggressive quality to it. Some couples who have this astrological influence enjoy wrestling as a form of foreplay! Try not to be too pushy or demanding with each other, as this quickly precipitates arguments and hostile feelings.

Mine's Mercury sextile His's Pluto orb 1° 18'

You enjoy deep, probing conversations with each other. Your conversations are rarely light and superficial - you enjoy digging beneath the surface and you make an excellent research team, investigators - or possibly gossips who cannot resist discussing every one else's business!

Mine's Mars sextile His's Moon orb 1° 17'

You arouse one another's feelings and desires, and both of you feel it is easy to express what you want from your partner in an open, direct way. You enjoy sports, active play, or other vigorous physical activities together.

Mine's Mars sextile His's Uranus orb 0° 45'

You inspire confident, assertive, dynamic feelings in each other, and together you enjoy being daring, acting boldly, making definite decisions and following through on them. Your partnership is a positive, dynamic one that will help both of you reach your goals. You encourage one another to be inventive, to try new approaches and this recharges and vitalizes your sexual relationship as well as your life in general.

Mine's Jupiter square His's Moon orb 1° 56'

You enjoy joking and kidding each other, and you spark each other's sense of humor. In fact, it is sometimes difficult to be serious with each other; the tendency to be light-hearted and jovial is too irresistible. Also, you are very supportive and encouraging to each other, but you tend to be overly optimistic about each other and make promises that you cannot fulfill. You encourage each other to be extravagant, sometimes too much so.

Mine's Saturn square His's Mercury orb 0° 4'

Mine is often critical and coldly analytical of His's ideas, and His is likely to feel belittled by Mine. If both of you are able to offer criticisms and comments with a helpful, positive attitude, then this astrological influence need not be overwhelming, but the tendency to feel blocked and frustrated in your communications is very strong. You must make sincere efforts to listen receptively and sympathetically!

Mine's Uranus trine His's Sun orb 0° 16'

Playfulness and a zest for newness infuse your relationship. You really spark each other's imagination and creativity. This quality is especially welcome in a long-term relationship because you will not fall into a lifeless routine. You spur each other to explore, take risks, and develop new creative outlets. You encourage each other's independence. There is an electric, spontaneous quality between you , and your sexual relationship is lively and exciting as well.

Mine's Uranus trine His's Moon orb 0° 14'

There is an upbeat, enthusiastic, spontaneous quality to your relationship. You spark each other's imagination, creativity, and wit. You feel loose and uninhibited with each other, and you enjoy exploring life and sharing new experiences. Also, if you both enjoy dancing or playing music, you have found a wonderful dance and/or music partner. You spark each other's sense of rhythm, and you can work together very spontaneously, yet gracefully - an indication of sexual compatibility and satisfaction as well.

Mine's Pluto trine His's Venus orb 0° 32'

The romantic love and sexual attraction for each other is very compelling and deep. You wield a powerful, charismatic influence on each other and your love affair is a powerful one. This could be one of the most fulfilling, all-consuming relationships of your life!

Mine's Moon square His's Ascendant orb 0° 11'

Irritations over relatively minor incidents and situations, combined with a tendency to have differing tastes, preferences, and interests may make an intimate, long-lasting relationship difficult. You do care a great deal for each other, though, and both of you feel exceedingly bad after a quarrel. If you can be tolerant of each other's differing attitudes, interests, and lifestyles, the negative tendencies of this astrological influence will be minimized.

Mine's Ascendant square His's Sun orb 1° 35'

Although the two of you are strongly attracted to each other, you often 'rub each other the wrong way'. Your personal tastes and interests are frequently different. If you try to convince each other that your life style, tastes, and interests are better than your partner's, then you will frustrate each other and fail to appreciate and really understand each other. You must accept the fact that the two of you are different people with your own unique qualities. Don't try to force each other to adopt your own tastes, hobbies, and interests, as it will only make matters worse.

posted November 13, 2012 05:16 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Can u copy n paste the compatibility for lovers reading from grupovenus.com too

I think what is going on in your chart is with mars in negative aspect to saturn and neptune your will feels thwarted, like other people are against you. With moon afflicted by mars and pluto, as well as venus being afflicted by pluto, your feelings can easily become distorted and overdramatized. It makes it hard to see things objectively and makes you certainly ruled by your emotions and finding it difficult to be objective. So I think the combination of all those things would make you feel like you want to reform people's actions which you feel are opposite your own values and ideals. Like you get too personally vested in people's lives

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posted November 13, 2012 05:17 AM            

One is venus in hard aspect to moon (conjunction or neg aspect) in synastry or composite with venus aspecting pluto in composite.

The other is the love stellium with some personal planet aspecting pluto in either synastry or composite (usually a double whammy when in synastry)

The third is all or almost all planets being conjunct in the composite

You have two of those in the composite. The moon is loosely conjunct venus in composite, and opposite pluto. You also have a loose love stellium. So, obviously this is going to be a passionate relationship. The problem is that the synastry, though full of "fiery aspects" (Mars, Uranus, Pluto and Jupiter aspecting personal planets) is mostly negative. A moon-mars and sun-uranus double whammy are horrible for stability. It might not be as big of a problem if your composite didn't have moon afflicted by uranus and sun afflicted by mars, and especially mars afflicted by pluto which shows a seething tension underneath the surface.

Unfortunately, though this relationship is quite passionate, it has a lot of problems as well. Definitely arguments (mars) and long periods of not seeing each other or not knowing where the relationship is headed (uranus). I can totally believe that he has found someone who is a better match for him. And you should believe that too. I'm sorry. :/

posted November 13, 2012 05:27 AM            

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YES! Absoluetly right! I get too invested in everything, even in strangers' lives and actions and I often feel like I have to point out others' flaws and reform them-I have often been told I am like a natural evangelical!

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Yup, this is your pluto afflictions at work. Pluto wants to reform and uproot ideals, change people's lives from the inside out and makes everything life or death. With mars (your will, and ability to feel effective and listened to in the world by other people) afflicted by saturn and neptune, that makes it worse because it's likely to make u more radical since you feel that people will not listen to you/will generally ignore you. So you overcompensate by being more radical and stubborn in what u think. You have to try to feel a little bit more accepted and seek people who make u feel loved and understood so that u are less radical and worry about reforming people less. Because in a way, you are doing it so that you can feel heard and valued. It's kind of like a "fine you won't listen to me or pay attention to me. then I think i am better than you"----attitude.

posted November 14, 2012 12:36 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Okay, so there are three configurations that I consider "love of your life" setups.

One is venus in hard aspect to moon (conjunction or neg aspect) in synastry or composite with venus aspecting pluto in composite.

The other is the love stellium with some personal planet aspecting pluto in either synastry or composite (usually a double whammy when in synastry)

The third is all or almost all planets being conjunct in the composite

You have two of those in the composite. The moon is loosely conjunct venus in composite, and opposite pluto. You also have a loose love stellium. So, obviously this is going to be a passionate relationship. The problem is that the synastry, though full of "fiery aspects" (Mars, Uranus, Pluto and Jupiter aspecting personal planets) is mostly negative. A moon-mars and sun-uranus double whammy are horrible for stability. It might not be as big of a problem if your composite didn't have moon afflicted by uranus and sun afflicted by mars, and especially mars afflicted by pluto which shows a seething tension underneath the surface.

Unfortunately, though this relationship is quite passionate, it has a lot of problems as well. Definitely arguments (mars) and long periods of not seeing each other or not knowing where the relationship is headed (uranus). I can totally believe that he has found someone who is a better match for him. And you should believe that too. I'm sorry. :/

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Thank you for this I gave this a lot of thought-and I have been doing a lot of meditation and stuff-so I am feeling a lot calmer and better Your help is appreciated. If you don't mind, may I ask you to help me some more?

Now I am actually kinda done with thoughts of marriage and all with him-if he is happy with someone better, I am happy for him. But I am intrigued with the way you analyzed the composite and so I have been reading around. And the more I read, the more confused I get.

See, I already had a failed love affair in 2008. I was very close to this guy and he cheated on me. We were together for 4 years and then one day I got to know what he did behind my back. So that was a huge blow. At that time, I had no idea about astrology and stuff. Then, this guy is the second closest person in my life and now I feel like I am losing him too. So you can see how I might feel 'unlucky' in love So I was just wondering if you could tell me more about synastry and composites.

Say, if you got these charts as 2 strangers you don't know. You don't know how long they have known each other or whatever their situation is. What would you say about their relationship based on these charts? Passionate but troublesome. Apart from that? Is it one of the impossible alliances? When I read around, there were frequent articles on how these charts basically show the areas one might choose to work on. Of course,there are millions of couples on this planet, each with their own set of problems and what not-so what I am saying is-do you see a couple through these charts who might choose to work on their problem areas and maybe still make it together based just on the strength of their conviction in their love?

I am asking this as a general question-partly because I need something to believe in, even for future reference-I don't want to be unlucky in love a 3rd time Have you, in the course of your readings etc. seen any couples/ situation who might have had bad synastry/composite but still make it through because maybe they feel something higher power working on bringing them together?

I am actually thinking about free will versus destiny. Is it all destined-I am going to be with someone or not be with him no matter what? Or does free will also come in? I know these are my problem areas and I am going to work on them and not let them bog me down?

Have you encountered such real life examples? Or in the end, destiny wins?

posted November 14, 2012 12:41 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Okay, so there are three configurations that I consider "love of your life" setups.

One is venus in hard aspect to moon (conjunction or neg aspect) in synastry or composite with venus aspecting pluto in composite.

The other is the love stellium with some personal planet aspecting pluto in either synastry or composite (usually a double whammy when in synastry)

The third is all or almost all planets being conjunct in the composite

You have two of those in the composite. The moon is loosely conjunct venus in composite, and opposite pluto. You also have a loose love stellium. So, obviously this is going to be a passionate relationship. The problem is that the synastry, though full of "fiery aspects" (Mars, Uranus, Pluto and Jupiter aspecting personal planets) is mostly negative. A moon-mars and sun-uranus double whammy are horrible for stability. It might not be as big of a problem if your composite didn't have moon afflicted by uranus and sun afflicted by mars, and especially mars afflicted by pluto which shows a seething tension underneath the surface.

Unfortunately, though this relationship is quite passionate, it has a lot of problems as well. Definitely arguments (mars) and long periods of not seeing each other or not knowing where the relationship is headed (uranus). I can totally believe that he has found someone who is a better match for him. And you should believe that too. I'm sorry. :/

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Thank you for this I gave this a lot of thought-and I have been doing a lot of meditation and stuff-so I am feeling a lot calmer and better Your help is appreciated. If you don't mind, may I ask you to help me some more?

Now I am actually kinda done with thoughts of marriage and all with him-if he is happy with someone better, I am happy for him. But I am intrigued with the way you analyzed the composite and so I have been reading around. And the more I read, the more confused I get.

See, I already had a failed love affair in 2008. I was very close to this guy and he cheated on me. We were together for 4 years and then one day I got to know what he did behind my back. So that was a huge blow. At that time, I had no idea about astrology and stuff. Then, this guy is the second closest person in my life and now I feel like I am losing him too. So you can see how I might feel 'unlucky' in love So I was just wondering if you could tell me more about synastry and composites.

Say, if you got these charts as 2 strangers you don't know. You don't know how long they have known each other or whatever their situation is. What would you say about their relationship based on these charts? Passionate but troublesome. Apart from that? Is it one of the impossible alliances? When I read around, there were frequent articles on how these charts basically show the areas one might choose to work on. Of course,there are millions of couples on this planet, each with their own set of problems and what not-so what I am saying is-do you see a couple through these charts who might choose to work on their problem areas and maybe still make it together based just on the strength of their conviction in their love?

I am asking this as a general question-partly because I need something to believe in, even for future reference-I don't want to be unlucky in love a 3rd time Have you, in the course of your readings etc. seen any couples/ situation who might have had bad synastry/composite but still make it through because maybe they feel something higher power working on bringing them together?

I am actually thinking about free will versus destiny. Is it all destined-I am going to be with someone or not be with him no matter what? Or does free will also come in? I know these are my problem areas and I am going to work on them and not let them bog me down?

Have you encountered such real life examples? Or in the end, destiny wins?

posted November 15, 2012 02:15 AM            

I have not yet figured out what it is that makes people stick together beyond all obstacles. I've had saturn, both positive and negative, with a few people, and lemme tell ya, even though it made us trust each other more, it didn't make us stick thru things at all.

Personally i think its probably something more subtle, like vertex placements or maybe ascendant connections to personal planets in synastry. I really don't know. But you should believe in free will, because certainly ive seen many problems being overcome though it is pretty rare (as long as there IS that basic compatibility, aka those three configurations that i mentioned, plus variations of the aspects i mentioned in those configuration but still the same planets, for example instead of a square a trine or sextile--diff aspect, same planets.)