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Topic: Extreme/Violent Synastry Aspects
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Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 12:15 PM
  
I have never posted to a blog before, so if I do this wrong, please be gentle ;-)I’ll get right to it – had a very quick (4 month) “relationship” (it can’t even really be called that, but it’s the easiest term to use) that turned extremely bad, extremely quick. A majority of it was verbal/emotional abuse with a spattering of physical abuse peppered in under the guise of “play”. We got very close, very quick and it had a super heavy vibe of “meant to be” and, quite frankly, this blew any other person I knew previously right out of the water. And sad to say, even though it was horrible, I learned a lot and I do miss our conversations. It’s over now, and I’ve taken the necessary precautions but my curiosity is piqued – this is a man that has many many many friends that are women and is also friends with most of his exes and also (normally) has around 8 month long relationships. I'm also friends with some of my exes….So I’m wondering if there’s anything in our synastry that points to us escalating bad behavior in each other? It’s like I have to figure this out to be able to move on :/ I also can’t help but wonder if he’ll actually leave me alone…everything feels very unfinished. I can’t find any info on synastry aspects that point to reconciliation though…? Below is our info; there’s a boat load of hard Saturn aspects and conjunctions, etc. But if there’s anything that stands out to anyone, please let me know and also thank you for reading. Have a glorious day! Me: Asc: Aries
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Aquarius
Mercury: Cancer
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Virgo
Jupiter: Taurus
Saturn: Leo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
True Node: Scorpio
Vertex: Libra Him: Asc: Libra
Sun: Capricorn
Moon: Taurus
Mercury: Aquarius
Venus: Aquarius
Mars: Libra
Jupiter: Scorpio
Saturn: Libra
Uranus: Sagittarius
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
True Node: Cancer
Vertex: Taurus
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Tofu addict
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posted January 14, 2013 12:30 PM
Can you post the charts , that will make it a good bit better to get the picture of what goes on.IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 01:06 PM
I'd love to - but, um, how do I attach pics? I have them saved from astro.com but don't see how post them? ....IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 14, 2013 01:53 PM
You post through a hosting site, like tinypic.com, imageshack.us, photobucket etc or any other of your choosing. You upload the pictures there. In your message box you type the Forum code the site provides for your image. And that's it! IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 02:09 PM
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Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 02:10 PM
Wohoo! Thanks for the instructions on how to do this ;-)IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 14, 2013 02:19 PM
It would help if you could also post the synastry and composite for the two of you. If you can also add asteroids like Nessus (7066) and Dejanira (157) it might help, they've been linked to abusive relationships.
btw..
 WELCOME TO LINDALAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 02:35 PM
Thank you for the welcome! Here's the Composite:  And Synastry:  I was able to add Nessus but not the other... IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted January 14, 2013 04:43 PM
Simple answer: Mars conjunct Pluto.IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted January 14, 2013 05:03 PM
Looking at your 7th house ruler, it's interesting you have it in the 4th house conjunct Sun, & Mercury, with Saturn close by. This guy is younger than you, but a Capricorn. Still can't wrap my head around what role the Sun would play...perhaps someone strong, authoritative, protective. So clearly he's your type.His 7th ruler is Mars, buried in the 12th, but same sign as Saturn & Pluto. ???? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted January 14, 2013 05:26 PM
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Simple answer: Mars conjunct Pluto.
Naw... I have this aspect with someone & it's exact (in Scorpio) - but we almost never argued. We have trine Mercuries though. I would say it's partially the fact that you have incompatible Mercury/Venus placements.. Cancer and Aquarius are quincunx so there is no real understanding.
PLUS - Mercury square Uranus and Mars square Uranus.. both very volatile aspects. This can lead to quick and violent arguments. You also have some nice aspects though... It's hard to say what will happen next. I'm not so sure that he'll leave you alone either. I have a feeling you'll get back in touch because you have a strong connection going. IP: Logged |
Lotis White
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posted January 14, 2013 07:10 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Naw... I have this aspect with someone & it's exact (in Scorpio) - but we almost never argued.We have trine Mercuries though. I would say it's partially the fact that you have incompatible Mercury/Venus placements.. Cancer and Aquarius are quincunx so there is no real understanding.
PLUS - Mercury square Uranus and Mars square Uranus.. both very volatile aspects. This can lead to quick and violent arguments. You also have some nice aspects though... It's hard to say what will happen next. I'm not so sure that he'll leave you alone either. I have a feeling you'll get back in touch because you have a strong connection going.
I was just about to mention the Uranus/Mars square! IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
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posted January 14, 2013 10:01 PM
Mars square Uranus was one I had not noticed; found this interesting link : ) thanks everyone for your input! http://starscopestoday.wordpress.com/2012/11/09/bad-sex-synastry/ IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted January 14, 2013 10:13 PM
The Nessus and Dejanira asteroids. Find them and plug them in. This is how these asteroids, often, manifest  ------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted January 14, 2013 10:14 PM
I didn't even look. Nessus conj the ASC on the Comp.------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted January 14, 2013 10:15 PM
In synastry, your Venus conj his Nessus. Many woman come to me with a version of your story. It has, always, turned out to be a Nessus/Dejanira relationship--without fail, so far.------------------
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Ami Anne
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posted January 14, 2013 10:16 PM
Dejanira is asteroid 157, I think. Plug it in and see what happens.------------------
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hikoro
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posted January 15, 2013 02:19 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
In synastry, your Venus conj his Nessus. Many woman come to me with a version of your story. It has, always, turned out to be a Nessus/Dejanira relationship--without fail, so far.
i concur with this.
i didnt think it is the mars-uranus.
...i remember a very good astrologer telling me about nessus and dejanira and real-life experiences of his clientele.
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Hera
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posted January 15, 2013 06:42 AM
There's also a Saturn-Venus dw.. Not indicative of violence and abuse, but definitely intolerance and nonacceptance. IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
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posted January 15, 2013 11:10 AM
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Originally posted by Nine:
Looking at your 7th house ruler, it's interesting you have it in the 4th house conjunct Sun, & Mercury, with Saturn close by. This guy is younger than you, but a Capricorn. Still can't wrap my head around what role the Sun would play...perhaps someone strong, authoritative, protective. So clearly he's your type.His 7th ruler is Mars, buried in the 12th, but same sign as Saturn & Pluto. ????
Houses are not something I've learned yet so I'm not sure....? IP: Logged |
Wookeesaurus
Newflake Posts: 12
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posted January 15, 2013 11:14 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Naw... I have this aspect with someone & it's exact (in Scorpio) - but we almost never argued.We have trine Mercuries though. I would say it's partially the fact that you have incompatible Mercury/Venus placements.. Cancer and Aquarius are quincunx so there is no real understanding.
PLUS - Mercury square Uranus and Mars square Uranus.. both very volatile aspects. This can lead to quick and violent arguments. You also have some nice aspects though... It's hard to say what will happen next. I'm not so sure that he'll leave you alone either. I have a feeling you'll get back in touch because you have a strong connection going.
I also share the Mars/Pluto conjunction with various family and friends – have never experienced it on an intimate level before though. Exhausting, haha. Thank you (again) for mentioning the Merc/Mars and Uranus aspects. I tend to forget about Uranus when I’m looking for answers.
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Wookeesaurus
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posted January 15, 2013 11:16 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Dejanira is asteroid 157, I think. Plug it in and see what happens.
Well, I was finally able to get Dejanira, below is what it shows for both of us. I'd have to take some time with it, but it looks like a lot of cross conjunctions between his Nessus and my personal planets, and my Dejanira and his Mars/Saturn and ASC. I have no idea what that means though (lol) Him:
Nessus: Cancer
Dejanira: Capricorn Me:
Nessus: Cancer
Dejanira: Libra
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Wookeesaurus
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posted January 15, 2013 11:18 AM
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Originally posted by Hera:
There's also a Saturn-Venus dw.. Not indicative of violence and abuse, but definitely intolerance and nonacceptance.
From what I've read the square is supposed to be "sticky" ie, hard to shake each other. I'm keeping my fingers crossed this won't be the case (lol) IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted January 15, 2013 11:34 AM
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Originally posted by Wookeesaurus:
From what I've read the square is supposed to be "sticky" ie, hard to shake each other. I'm keeping my fingers crossed this won't be the case (lol)
It depends. Sometimes the relationship doesn't even start. It is one of the signs for unrequited and impossible relationships. At least the one I have noticed most frequently in those cases. It can make people very intolerant towards each other. I can't stand the planets my Saturn squares or opposes. Irks me to no end. Every little detail about said planet in them annoys me and have to bite my tongue not to criticize them into oblivion. Definitely would not stick to someone like that. It doesn't happen *every* time. But when it happens, that is usually the case. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted January 15, 2013 11:44 AM
Welcome! Moving this to Personal Readings.------------------
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