posted February 23, 2013 04:25 PM            

Wow, this tells me it is nothing you have done, sounds like he just has emotional issues.

posted February 23, 2013 04:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Trined&Squared:
I hope you're right. No he's an Aries.

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posted February 23, 2013 05:14 PM            

ME: http://postimage.org/image/959k6c0af/

posted February 23, 2013 05:38 PM            

What did you do to him, if you don't mind me asking?

I think people with a combo of Taurus, Aries and plutonian energy in their charts have a hard time getting over hurt and moving passed past bad experiences. And seeing that he has a minor moon neptune aspect and also has sun loosely square saturn, that will make him more sensitive and innately cynical and distrusting. So I guess you really damaged him pretty badly as saturnian people don't trust easily, so when they get hurt, it leaves a deep impression.
He has a tsquare with saturn, pluto and sun, so I feel that this guy is quite stubborn and isn't one to let go of things easily. That's why it has taken him so long to process and deal with what you did to him?

posted February 23, 2013 05:49 PM            

So you disappeared and cut him off and hooked up with someone else? Or did you cheat on him then disappeared?

Yeah, I can see how somebody with his placements would take that badly. Going MIA in a serious relationship means no closure, and seeing his aspects, he's most likely alittle insecure inside and scared of hurt.

posted February 23, 2013 06:00 PM            

I do feel plutonian. Maybe its my mars opposite pluto or square my ascendant. I hold big time grudges and I have a bad temper.

posted February 23, 2013 08:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Trined&Squared:
I just disappeared. I am sorry bout what I did but I still can't imagine him feeling this way after so many years.

I do feel plutonian. Maybe its my mars opposite pluto or square my ascendant. I hold big time grudges and I have a bad temper.

I am also very uranian and too but very controlled also. I have so many contradicting things in my chart. Very difficult and why I probably made many of the mistakes I did.

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I sometimes believe women like that sort of attention. To have a man wrapped around their finngers or hurt.

It seems you must have led him on this last time. He felt duped twice. It is no wonder he is ****** at you. I think anyone would be.

I watched a show on dr.phil were the girl was married to one guy she met in the army. Then when he came back dealing with post traumatic stress disorder...instead of being there for him and understanding, she disliked the lack of attention. So she in her words, *left and sent him the divorce papers to get his attention.* He was calling her bluff and signed them.

So with all that baggage, she married another man almost immediately. I think this was more to flaunt that she was a big shot and was so totally over him.

Then while married with this new guy, she talks to her ex husband, flirts, goes out on dates, meets up,....and she has the nerve to get mad at her current boyfriend for not being loving to her.

What an immature and manipulative girl?!
She has the nerve to as that her current husband be ok and nice to her, while she is prancing around and talking to her ex husband?

She told dr phil that she could not believe that her current husband is so different and not who he was initially. She is surprised that he isnt loving and caring and mad at her. lol What a selfish brat.

The episode is torn between two husbands. Watch it.

I feel that you were hurt by him because you went out to live with him, and he wanted to finish school before fully committing, so then you...thought you would try and hurt him somehow. Trust me I know the feeling. I wanted my ex to feel the pain he caused me too.

The reason I suspect you wanted to hurt him or out do him is because there is no way he didnt contact you after you left him and disappeared. He would have wanted to make sure you were at least ok or where you went.

I feel that you stonewalled him half expecting him to come back to you on his knees. When you didnt get that you....*moved on*. And I feel intuitively that you are not happen in your life right now so when he did find you,(Or did you find him? Or friend a common friend on fb?) you felt a rush of what you felt before. And you talked to him and led him on to thinking there would be more.

Eventually, he realized you duped him again. Yes, he has all the right to be ****** off. You have no right to manipulate or play with anyone^s emotions like that.

And in love never play games. If you wanted him you should have let him know then. You may have been immature then but you had a chance to rectify things later. Did you? No.
What did you do this time? Again same stuff.

The main question is .....if you were in his position and being vulnerable and yes probably stupid for pouring your heart out after 15 years to another person only to have history repeat, wouldnt you be fuming?

I know I would.

I think the main concern isnt that he is mad. It makes 100% sense that he **** *d. It is more that you dont feel he should be. Also what about your husband? Was he just a pawn too? Kinda messed up to play games with so many. Life and love is never about you.....it was never about take take and more take. Learn to give.

Yeah, I shoot straight. People dont like being called out. Oh well.

posted February 23, 2013 08:32 PM            

You disappeared on him when he loved you, married somebody else and now when your marriage is having issues, you're back talking to him (kinda ... actually. Does your husbund know you're chatting with your ex?)

You were emailing him, yet never apologised, but say you never had the chance to before he lost it. You had 15 years to apologise, I don't get it?

If you were hard to trust and finally loved someone only to have them hurt you badly, then come back and do it again, you'd be feeling the same way. Yes 15 years is long, but some people find it hard to put bad things behind them. They hold on to it.

Even in your post after, you said how you cried at night because you knew you hurt him, yet it seemed like it's more pity at yourself than remorse at what you did to this other person.

I'm not condemning you, but I'm just saying I think you should think of other people's feelings as well. Him AND your husbund's.

posted February 23, 2013 10:01 PM            

Fifteen years ago when you dumped Aries you robbed him of the opportunity to retaliate and engage in all manner of rotten childish behavior. Now that Aries has caught up with you, surely you didn't expect him to let a 2nd chance to score pass by. Did you?

posted February 24, 2013 12:29 AM            

so agree with you.
she is not satisfied with the marriage for sure...
led her ex on again...feeling all of that rush of the past.

and now, she is thinking, 'did i do that?'

i am having a hard time believing that 'the ex returned all angry'...out of nothing.
my intuition tells me that she conversed with him to see how he would react, in other words, not direct conversation...and....
she backed off later on, and pretended that she 'had done nothing wrong'
and of course, he felt manipulated, again.

posted February 24, 2013 02:44 PM            

I am very regretful that it hurt him this bad for this many years and I did tell him that. I did not lead him on at ALL I was talking like a friend. He found me not the other way around and I just thought by being nice I could give him some peace with the situation. But he became angry when I told him I was not interested in a romantic relationship. I don't find this flattering and I am not playing games with either of them.

posted February 24, 2013 03:15 PM            

you are the cause of my suffering over the last 12 years. I ******* hate your guts. do not ever ever ever ever ever respond to me ever again. have a nice f***ing life. I hate to tell you darling but you really f***ed with the wrong person. I'm so done with you ever forever forever forever forever. you are a terrible human being for what you've done to me. goodbye for ever. you suck. f*** you. maybe 1 day you'll grow up. have a nice f***ing life with your f***ing kid and f***ing husband. you deserve every bit of punishment that is coming to you from the universe for what you've done to me and put me through. do not respond do not respond ever ever ever ever we are so done.

posted February 25, 2013 07:07 AM            

you come across first that you have marriage problems...
now, the ex is the one with problems...and you're happy....
then, you come here posting what he wrote to you...and that you feel scared?
seriously?

if the convo is over...why are you still stirring the pot and bringing this around...if you are that satisfied with your life, and emotionally?
the ex has that much power over you?

i mean...am i the only one who finds it BIZARRE that a woman who is married and has a son seems to be so focused on a silly convo with an ex...who she hasnt seen in 15 years and who has absolutely no way to harm her?

come on...
you are a drama queen and an attention seeker...
if not, then move on and let it drop.

and the fact that you posted his response...and you continue with this dealing
tsk tsk...tacky and, no, i dont believe you, i dont think you are seeking to understand where he is coming from....
nope.

posted February 25, 2013 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Trined&Squared:
This was part of his email to me:

you are the cause of my suffering over the last 12 years. I ******* hate your guts. do not ever ever ever ever ever respond to me ever again. have a nice f***ing life. I hate to tell you darling but you really f***ed with the wrong person. I'm so done with you ever forever forever forever forever. you are a terrible human being for what you've done to me. goodbye for ever. you suck. f*** you. maybe 1 day you'll grow up. have a nice f***ing life with your f***ing kid and f***ing husband. you deserve every bit of punishment that is coming to you from the universe for what you've done to me and put me through. do not respond do not respond ever ever ever ever we are so done.

Most of that is word for word in order...just a streaming spew of anger. Now can you understand why I am scared?

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Sounds like somebodys been listening to a little too much Taylor Swift lol

posted February 25, 2013 03:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Trined&Squared:
Think what you want. I know in my heart that this isn't about drama, just the safety of myself and my family. I don't have to justify anything. Making assumptions and accusations is pretty juvenile considering HE contacted me.

I am very regretful that it hurt him this bad for this many years and I did tell him that. I did not lead him on at ALL I was talking like a friend. He has every right to express his anger, I guess I just didn't expect to feel so threatened by it. If I ruined someone's life, well yes I deserve what he gave me, but I still think he sounds unstable. And that is the only reason I posted. I was scared of him and I still am.

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I wouldnt be too worried honestly. That email sounded to me like a typical Aries blow up. All my serious relationships have been with Aries men and they just have a tendency to fly off the handle when they feel wounded. Its a bit funny once you get used to it, like a child throwing a temper tantrum.