posted March 20, 2013 08:15 PM              

Synastry for Guy 1
We have been together for 7 years

Composite for Guy 1

Synastry for Guy 2 We are best friends

posted March 20, 2013 09:20 PM            

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Originally posted by shylioness07:
I love one and I'm in love with the other. Guy 1 and I have a family together ( kids, cat, business together the whole 9 yards . Issues we have: possessiveness, competiveness, jealousy and ego) Guy 2 ( we have never been together in a relationship. We have this love/thing going on. Issues I notice with us: possessiveness, competiveness, jealousy and ego. Issues with communication. Emotional )

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The first thing I should say is welcome to the site, sis. I am relatively new to the site myself but have grown to love it quickly.

posted March 20, 2013 09:49 PM            

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Originally posted by shylioness07:
@ E sounds cool. Something different. Thanks for welcoming me. I think one guy is the love of my life and the other I consider my heart

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I feel like there is an element of hurt in this relationship you have with this guy. Like you feel that he won't fully commit even though there is the car, kids, and the pets. That you two have all that but even with this, you feel a lack of warmth and comfort. It seemed like initially that is all you could see was that fire and warmth (most likely due to the fire trine that your main guy has) but even though, you feel that warmth is gone you stay because it looks good for you to keep him around. You really don't have the desire so you pretend to have it for others. It isn't that you don't love this guy. He is your first in a lot of ways hence why you've kept him for as long as you have but somewhere in you, leaving is inevitable in your opinion and the friend who has came in seems like the right person to start it with because you love him BUT this is most definitely something that should STAY platonic as the warmth that you seek really is something that you should look for within you. You like to overanalyze everything in your relationship and your man doesn't like it much but he stays because he loves you and he wants to build with you. He just shows his love much differently than you want him to. You have a fixed idea on what love should be like while his is more fluid in tons of ways. I think what you need to do is really look at Moon aspects and signs. Your love styles are most definitely different but are most definitely workable. You need to realize that. You're quick to step out because he no longer seems tender has he was initially to you but please understand that this is where astrology comes in. I saw that we're dealing with some Mars aspects that may not be so promising in the synastry between you and him. I honestly thin there needs to be time away from them both but since you live with him, a good conversation about what you want is necessary especially since it is probably you that is feeling the wrath of Scorpion Mars that he possesses which is why you feel all of those characteristics. And if there is an age difference, that could also play a role but what I am seeing is that there is some kind of illusion going on here. I will look into that a little more but, I want some feedback.

posted March 20, 2013 11:10 PM            

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Originally posted by shylioness07:
@ E there is a age difference of ten years between me and guy 1. You are right. I got with him for the wrong reasons. I stayed because I see us building together but honestly my heart isn't in it anymore. I'm not in love with him. I'm secretly in love with guy # 2. I don't know what it is about guy # 2. Guy # 1, hates dealing with emotions. He has a temper problems and can be selfish at times. I know he loves me. Do I share a karmic or twin flame connection with anyone of these guys? Guy # 2, I feel like our friendship maybe over and I dont know why. Guy # 2 has me where I can't focus, it's like I monoplize him in my mind. I have never felt this with anyone. For the life of me, I don't know why I can't seem to focus on fixing what I have. I don't want to leave guy # 1 but I'm unhappy. I'm tired of feeling his wrath. Everything I do is to make guy # 1 happy. He can be so controlling, that I feel like a kid in my out relationship. If nothing goes his way, his temper wins. I don't know if there is even a future with guy # 2. We discussed feelings and it went horribly wrong. I told him that we need to remain friends and he said it hard for him. I want things to be simple like they were in the beginning. We were such good friends and I don't know what changed that for us. I just want my friend back. I want to friends with guy # 2. I just need to have him in my life it scary because, I don't know why I feel like that.

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posted March 20, 2013 11:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Virgo36:
I'm scared to leave guy #1, i love him and he is an idealist and he is a great guy truly, but his temper is making me turn away from him. I can't communicate with him, he always think I'm trying to compete against him. Guy#1 supports me and I support him. I'm not trying to step out on him. I feel that guy# 2 is making this hard for us. I think there's a lot of secert feelings that he won't confide. I think he's hiding how he feels instead of just dealing with them. I think he is trying to run away from dealing with our situation. I think he is distancing himself away from me. I feel like guy # 2, hurt me. I put so much into building our friendship.

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posted May 05, 2013 06:39 PM            

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Originally posted by shylioness07:
@ E there is a age difference of ten years between me and guy 1. You are right. I got with him for the wrong reasons. I stayed because I see us building together but honestly my heart isn't in it anymore. I'm not in love with him. I'm secretly in love with guy # 2. I don't know what it is about guy # 2. Guy # 1, hates dealing with emotions. He has a temper problems and can be selfish at times. I know he loves me. Do I share a karmic or twin flame connection with anyone of these guys? Guy # 2, I feel like our friendship maybe over and I dont know why. Guy # 2 has me where I can't focus, it's like I monoplize him in my mind. I have never felt this with anyone. For the life of me, I don't know why I can't seem to focus on fixing what I have. I don't want to leave guy # 1 but I'm unhappy. I'm tired of feeling his wrath. Everything I do is to make guy # 1 happy. He can be so controlling, that I feel like a kid in my out relationship. If nothing goes his way, his temper wins. I don't know if there is even a future with guy # 2. We discussed feelings and it went horribly wrong. I told him that we need to remain friends and he said it hard for him. I want things to be simple like they were in the beginning. We were such good friends and I don't know what changed that for us. I just want my friend back. I want to friends with guy # 2. I just need to have him in my life it scary because, I don't know why I feel like that.

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posted May 05, 2013 06:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Virgo36:
I'm scared to leave guy #1, i love him and he is an idealist and he is a great guy truly, but his temper is making me turn away from him. I can't communicate with him, he always think I'm trying to compete against him. Guy#1 supports me and I support him. I'm not trying to step out on him. I feel that guy# 2 is making this hard for us. I think there's a lot of secert feelings that he won't confide. I think he's hiding how he feels instead of just dealing with them. I think he is trying to run away from dealing with our situation. I think he is distancing himself away from me. I feel like guy # 2, hurt me. I put so much into building our friendship.

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