posted March 28, 2013 12:36 PM            

how beneficial is my relationship with my boyfriend, what can i learn from it? I am confident what he thinks of me but that is your choice to tell me too!

his name is j and mine is j

posted March 28, 2013 04:56 PM            

What do you have to gain from your relationship:

The Fool
Six of Wands
Five of Wands (R)

I think this relationship makes you feel successful and gives you a sense of satisfaction. This in turn makes you feel 'lighter' and more carefree as you face the rest of the world and all it's difficulties. It makes you feel as though you are able to manage conflict (inner and outer) and turn it into harmony by using peace and compromise rather than force of will or domination.

What can you learn?

Nine of cups
Four of Pentacles
The Hanged Man

This relationship will teach you to sit back and enjoy life without feeling the need to control it or cling to happiness in case it slips away whilst you're not watching. Just enjoy the moment. You need to learn that you can be both independent and yet still in a partnership, by maintaining your own identity. There are times when the only way we can deal with life is to sit back and let whatever is happening happen, without trying to fight it. Instead of trying to contort yourself to fit the situation, just be yourself and go with the flow.

How does he feel about you?

Ace of Cups
Temperance (R)
Ace of Wands

Ace of cups speaks for itself very romantic and combined with the Ace of Wands it suggests that he is also feeling passionate and enthusiastic about your relationship. Combined with Temperance reversed this might just be a warning that perhaps his emotions are a little unbalanced and maybe he needs to just step things back a little. Over-enthusiasm I suspect!

Just another little question, I got some feeling of emotional hurt in the background to the reading, not related to the relationship I don't think but perhaps something going on in one or other of your lives at some point in the recentish past? I get the feeling it might be from him not you, but there is a chance that I was just picking up your hurt from the other guy I suppose.

posted March 28, 2013 04:59 PM            

I dont know Rhia, I was in extreme mental and emotional pain when I asked this -- I dont know why im so effected by this guy but i think its built up from people dissapointing me in general

posted March 28, 2013 07:49 PM            

I would take the advice from the cards - focus on being yourself and creating your own happiness that doesn't rely on what other people do or don't do. It's far easier to go with the Wheel of Fortune (I know it didn't come up, but still relevant!) than to try and fight it because no matter how hard you try to protect yourself there will be people and situations in the future that disappoint you. But, there'll also be the ones that surprise you in a good way and give you hope in human nature!

posted March 28, 2013 08:03 PM            

Also i think its because he misses me he said and hes been depressed