posted March 29, 2013 11:03 PM            

Will J choose Beijing07??

Red = Yes & Black = No.

Jack of Diamonds: Yes
2 of Hearts: Yes
7 of Spades: No
Ace of Clubs: No
8 of Clubs: No

What I immediately sense with these cards is that hope isn't entirely lost between you two. This is a no, however it isn't entirely impossible for things to improve between yourself & J. It looks like there is platonic love, or a friendship between you two that is still resolvable.

I do see a lack of communication, and someone trying, or will try to communicate (rather I say, should - perhaps you should take the initiative to keep in touch with him if you want things to tilt to your favor). There's free will involved here, so you need to make the right decisions if you want things to improve & work on your favor.

Suits

Diamonds+Hearts: Happiness & success, comfort & security
Hearts+Spades: Physical, or emotional healing
Spades+Clubs: Increased difficulties, problems with work
Clubs+Clubs: Action & increased activity, taking control

Numbers

11+2: Thoughts+Cooperation
2+7: Conflict+Stagnation
7+1: Stagnation+Ending
1+8: Ending+Imbalance

Okay, so I sense some type of loss of communication, or actions. Things are currently not moving in a sense in your friendship/relationship and these cards indicate that you should take things into your own hands to stop this unbalance. You will be the one that needs to take the wheel & get things moving between you two. He will not do this on his own. There's a lot of free-will & hard work involved here that you will need to do in order for J to react, in a sense. Sadly he will not freely choose you
although there is a slim hope that your friendship/platonic relationship (2 of Hearts) may be salvaged.

Is it something like, one of you wants friendship while the other wants a relationship type of deal? You will have to make things clear & agree. There's an imbalance here with the relationship. One of you wants one thing, while the other wants another. You need to sit down and converse with him. Initiate contact if you already haven't.

I hope this makes sense, and I'm sorry for the disappointing news. Wish I had something much more positive to say, but I do hope I'm wrong about it..

Honest feedback is appreciated.

posted March 29, 2013 11:21 PM            

Do keep me updated if you can..

posted March 31, 2013 08:08 AM            

Hi,
I did a reading for you. I'm going to type while looking at the cards.

What I see for him is that he actually looks at the relationship as very promising. He does see the potential in it for the future. However his behaviour at current is that of letting go, but in the core he sees it as a possible promising and for it to be a for filling relationship. But he will not act on this right now. The current state of your relationship is that of being wary to one another. Rather defensive and taking distance. The message seems to be: 'don't get to close right now'.

How it got this way: I have the 9 of swords in this position which means to me that mostly' thoughts and the nightmares that live in one's mind brought the relationship to this state. Since I put the cards for you I referred this explanation to you. Meaning: it's mainly your fear and worry (and perhaps you spoke your mind about this) that turned the relationship 'defensive', makes him back off.

The instignator of this situation is a focus on devastating circumstances. But I would like to point out most of these 'nightmares' exist mainly in the head. They refer to fears, worries, shame, depression, etc which one can feel completely overwhelmed by. It also points out to me that the focus on this makes him pull away (his behaviour card was the death). Most likely you also project your feelings of fear on him, while not all of your worry is correct.

The basics of the relationship (what brought you together) shows me you actually have a rather fun and playful relationship (page wands) in which you are very fond of each other. It could also be that the way you treat and see each other is 'young'. But perhaps you both are teens or in early 20's?? Or perhaps the relationship started at a young age (one of your first loves?)

What I see for you is that you have the tendency to be very loving. You are literally overflowing with love (ace of cups) and want to surround him with that. Most likely in this case it's too much for him. You are currently smothering him.
Do you see the relationship you have with him as extremely precious? Like it's you two against the world? I also see you would like to hold on to it and are afraid of changes occurring within the dynamics between you. You would like to keep everything the same and hold the love you have close to you.

That brings me to the advice of the cards:
In the near future I see the need for rest and the need for withdrawing. What I also saw in the rest of the cards is you have a tendency to push things at this point. The cards are saying not to do that. I know this can be hard, but he seems to need his space to go through this process alone. That’s also what I see in the outcome position for now. A time needed to be alone (4 of swords).
The advice card was the hierophant. Meaning you should get a higher perspective of the situation. So not to only look at what this means for you and the future of the relationship, but to also look at the overall picture and not to let your emotions take the best of you. He needs to do this on his own and needs the time. The cards are advising you to step back for now. Try to see the full picture (and his side of the story) and be patient. Because patient is what is needed.

posted March 31, 2013 10:31 AM            

The first card was the 9 of Wands, right?

That sounds like you drew three 9's. Definitely telling her to keep her distance.

posted March 31, 2013 11:13 AM            

@beijing: really hope you will feel better soon. Wish you well. Would love to hear updates.

posted April 21, 2013 08:52 PM            

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Originally posted by dyedye08:
@ Empress I want you to know. That I have never asked him to choose between me and his wife. He has me in his 12th house, whereas I have him in my 11th house. I'm the one who would rather us be friends. He's the one making this difficult. I am married with kids. And if my husband felt something for another woman, and the woman wanted to interfere I wouldn't stop him. If his heart is with her, I would let him go. I can't help you feel, we can't control our feelings or what our hearts feel. Yes, I do love him, but I value our friendship a hell of lot too. I know it isn't on any of us. I have contacted him in months. I would prefer to let him come to me. Mars conjunct Pluto is known for reconciliations. So I do believe he will eventually contact me. What I fear is aspects with Neptune, which means thing will be the same. That we won't be able to discuss what needs to be discussed. I know with Saturn there are a lot of boundaries. This whole situation is complicated. I hate when other woman look at a situation and assumes the woman wants to break up a marriage. I am a firm believer in Karma, I wish him and his wife the best, I really do.

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posted April 22, 2013 01:38 AM            

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Originally posted by EmpressMendez:
Ohh kaay, good luck with everything!

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posted April 22, 2013 05:26 PM            

For me, when I first joined this forum. I had a synastry chart interpreted for co-worker. Now, as you all know people like to know the story behind the synastry.

I gave the back-story and in return all I got were rude comments and ended up being judged.

All people managed to hear was he was married, what about the fact that I choose my husband.

What about the fact that we were friends, doesn’t that count for anything.

Every other person that read the thread all they wanted to was past judgment.