posted May 18, 2013 08:24 PM            

The card at the top left represents how you see yourself. Queen of Swords: The essence of air behaving as water, such as a refreshing mist: A person gifted with both keen logic and natural intuition, giving them uncanny powers of perception and insight. One who easily sees past deception and confusion to the heart of a matter, and understands both sides of any argument. The embodiment of calm, forthrightness, and wit, in the face of even the most trying circumstances.

The card at the top right represents how you see your partner. King of Wands, when reversed: The dark essence of fire behaving as air, such as lightning: An exciting and reckless leader who inspires others to irresponsible acts. An artist whose depraved love of chaos causes him to take hold of destructive ideas and make them appealing to the masses. One who is charismatic and intimidating, using demonstrations of his own skill to dupe others into accepting responsibilities beyond their ability. A dashing and magnetic personality, appearing and disappearing with great suddenness, and leaving upheaval in his wake.

The card in the center left represents how you feel about your partner. Queen of Cups, when reversed: The dark essence of water, such as a deep and foreboding lake: Discomfort with the worlds of mind and matter, leading to a retreat to the spiritual. The embrace of negative relationships, driven by the desperate fear of being alone. Devotion to fantasies and daydreams, to the exclusion of practical skills or the pursuit of knowledge. Insecurity leading to dishonor, vice, and undue susceptibility to outside influences.

The card in the center right represents what stands between you and your partner. Four of Pentacles (Power): Cleaving to earthly power in the desperate fear that it will be lost. Making yourself an obstacle to progress due to lack of originality and a desperate fear of change. Believing that security and identity are based primarily on the possession of material things. Coveting things and people. Living in a cloud of suspicion and prejudice.

The card in the lower left represents how your partner sees you. Five of Swords (Defeat): A success earned through personal degradation. Separation from friends brought about by an unfeeling and coldly calculated act. Temporary victory tainted by dishonor and providing fuel for eventual defeat.

The card in the lower right represents what your partner feels about you. The Tower, when reversed: Unexpected upheaval leading to a positive change in life. Catastrophe survived or narrowly avoided. A new lifestyle and enlightenment. May indicate a broken relationship, divorce, or failure in business or career.

The card in the center represents the present status or challenge of the relationship. Six of Swords (Science): Trusting in intelligence and intuition and setting off into the unknown. Leaving an untenable situation and charting a new course. Passage from difficulty and progress towards a solution. The road to recovery. Travel and exploration.

posted May 18, 2013 08:57 PM            

So, I am sorry. but take a cue from him..be a little bit selfish and seek out other men who will be good for you, make you laugh, entertain you, etc. Around 6-7 months time, all this that you are putting yourself through, will be gone!!!

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Originally posted by flower:
If anyone if in a good mood today and has some free time, would you be willing to pull a few cards for me. It's been almost a year, but the wounds are still open, will I ever heal... All I honestly want is a simple conversation, it's hard being ignored by someone who means so much to you, very hard...
I'd appreciate any help, I wish I could a reading in return but I never done one.

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posted May 18, 2013 09:03 PM            

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Originally posted by threepoolsoflight:
Flower, this is the reading that I received for you:

The card at the top left represents how you see yourself. Queen of Swords: The essence of air behaving as water, such as a refreshing mist: A person gifted with both keen logic and natural intuition, giving them uncanny powers of perception and insight. One who easily sees past deception and confusion to the heart of a matter, and understands both sides of any argument. The embodiment of calm, forthrightness, and wit, in the face of even the most trying circumstances.

The card at the top right represents how you see your partner. King of Wands, when reversed: The dark essence of fire behaving as air, such as lightning: An exciting and reckless leader who inspires others to irresponsible acts. An artist whose depraved love of chaos causes him to take hold of destructive ideas and make them appealing to the masses. One who is charismatic and intimidating, using demonstrations of his own skill to dupe others into accepting responsibilities beyond their ability. A dashing and magnetic personality, appearing and disappearing with great suddenness, and leaving upheaval in his wake.

The card in the center left represents how you feel about your partner. Queen of Cups, when reversed: The dark essence of water, such as a deep and foreboding lake: Discomfort with the worlds of mind and matter, leading to a retreat to the spiritual. The embrace of negative relationships, driven by the desperate fear of being alone. Devotion to fantasies and daydreams, to the exclusion of practical skills or the pursuit of knowledge. Insecurity leading to dishonor, vice, and undue susceptibility to outside influences.

The card in the center right represents what stands between you and your partner. Four of Pentacles (Power): Cleaving to earthly power in the desperate fear that it will be lost. Making yourself an obstacle to progress due to lack of originality and a desperate fear of change. Believing that security and identity are based primarily on the possession of material things. Coveting things and people. Living in a cloud of suspicion and prejudice.

The card in the lower left represents how your partner sees you. Five of Swords (Defeat): A success earned through personal degradation. Separation from friends brought about by an unfeeling and coldly calculated act. Temporary victory tainted by dishonor and providing fuel for eventual defeat.

The card in the lower right represents what your partner feels about you. The Tower, when reversed: Unexpected upheaval leading to a positive change in life. Catastrophe survived or narrowly avoided. A new lifestyle and enlightenment. May indicate a broken relationship, divorce, or failure in business or career.

The card in the center represents the present status or challenge of the relationship. Six of Swords (Science): Trusting in intelligence and intuition and setting off into the unknown. Leaving an untenable situation and charting a new course. Passage from difficulty and progress towards a solution. The road to recovery. Travel and exploration.

I know this is going to be tough, but it sounds like he is "closed for business" as far as you are concerned, and you might not ever get the answers you are looking for from him. The last card suggests that your best option is to move on and not look back. He seems like he was awful, quite frankly...I asked for some advice for you on how to get over him and the 6 of cups came up. Maybe you have an old friend who can help console you? I'm sorry for your pain and hope things can turn around for you quickly.

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posted May 18, 2013 10:48 PM            

It's over. He's not mad at you b/c u didn't understand him, he's mad at the unpleasantness of this all. If he could simply walk away and never have to deal with hthis (or u) again, that would be perfect. Of course that is not reality and as a women you are emotional and want to get it all out. However, to him, he just wants it all done and over with as he is on his next chapter in life.....are you talking about it to people who know him?....if so, i feel this is wher he is getting angry. I know your not done with this (i totally get it as I have been in ur shoes) but he is done and he just wants to live a seperte life. Enough with talking to him, or trying to b/c he is micing his words. It's not his goal to hurt her, but I feel you will never hear the full truth from him. He is trying to lessen the blow, so to speak.

Yes, I do see you moving forward and you will feel joy agian in your life.

Is he happy? Right now he is working thru being irrated and a bit angry/fustrated. But yes, he has hopes and goals for this new chapter he is embarking on.

U have to do that also. get excited about what ur new life has to offer you. Start taking some classes-perhaps a hobby ur interested in.

While u two are moving foward, only u are feeling unhappy and unsettled. So please, do yourself a favor and get new experience into your life. Go on match and something to bring some positive changes (and do something fun) into ur life. Your spirit is calling out for that!!

ps. stop wondering how he is doing. Its only making u think of things with him. U need to recover from all of this. He is 5-10 steps ahead of u in healing...so pls, do it for yourself! Are u drinking sometimes at night, alone? stop that. no more crying. I am not express enough how u have to be selfish right now...really it's not selfish but putting urself first!

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Originally posted by flower:
thank you so very much for taking the time give me some insight threepoolsoflight and cherful24. Your words are so kind and healing. It's a struggle, it so unbelievable that the person who i was so close to for so long would turn out this way, it was a serious relationship, we were both adults and spend 6 years living under the same roof. I hope I learned the lesson the Universe wanted me to learn, and I will forgive but I don't think I will ever forget...

Cherful, I hope you're right...and I hope he's happy too... Is he hurt in some way? mad/angry at me? did I not understand him?

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posted May 19, 2013 03:32 PM            

7 months time, you will be in a diff. phase in ur life. It will be mostly roses!!! The rollar coaster of depressed feelings will left and be gone!! You'll be on track in life and know what your aming for...maybe not have landed the perfect job at that point but in progression to...it's like ur working on ur last step and then a few months later u will have gotten the perfect job for u! I'm telling you, your life will be so different! also, I see outside cafes and sun and tha tis in the 7 month time. Don't know what that means. Does San Fran., CA mean anything to you or will it in 7 months?

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Originally posted by flower:
Hi cherful, everything you said is starting to make sense. I can see how he would be selfish like you said, it's something he's always been, maybe that's why it's so much easier for him to just get up and leave. I don't talk to him, nor did I try contacting him, nor will i ever do. I'm not talking about my feelings to anyone who knows him either, maybe they are talking to him about me, but there is nothing coming from my end.
His sister though contacted me several weeks ago and apologized for all the BS her and her parants made me go through, she said she was blaming a lot of things on me, but now that I'm not in the picture anymore nothing has changed ( I think her relationship with him is very bad), and she just wanted to let me know that she and her parents have realized that I had nothing to do with it and that she misses the times when we used to live close by each other. I was surprised she reached out to me since we never were close but she did and I thanked her for that.
Maybe she or his parents told him something about me, I don't know...maybe that's what's irritating him, but i personally don't have any contact with him. If there's ever going to be some kind of contact I would want it to come from him, i wouldn't call him.
I will take your advice and start to do things that interest me, i don't drink at night but I do cry sometimes. I'm about to get my graduate degree and start my own life, it's something to be happy about and look forward too.
I"m very thankful for your time cherful, if there's anything I can do for you please don't hesitate to ask and if you could maybe give me your email i'd send you a little gift to express my appreciation, thank you...

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posted May 20, 2013 09:13 PM            

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Originally posted by flower:
Hi cherful,
Again i appreciate your comments and time. What you said about a different phase in my life is very motivating, makes me want to keep going...I'm applying to postgraduate programs right now, so i think i will hopefully get into one that is in the nice and warm place like you are describing, i would be the happiest person alive if I did
And I just wanted to tell you that everything you told me made me think about him and the relationship I had with him, and in all honesty I think Im happy it happened the way it did, I wasn't completely happy with him, and everything that happens happens for a reason. Still wish him the best, but I think now I should hold control over my life, I will try at least.
Thank you once again, you have an amazing talent, and God bless you

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