Posts: 1182
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009

posted May 23, 2013 07:51 PM            

---

So, one day at my job, I lay my eyes on this guy.

He is pretty cute but he just stands out and there are several people around him, but I notice him.

He's not particularly handsome, although he is cute. he reminds me of someone I would've had a crush on in my early 20s. Plus, he is a bad boy. Tattooed and a real bad boy.

It started out with him just telling me about some issues he has going on, things I take care of where I work. Then it evolved. He said something the other day that no one can help him, he just comes there to see me. I thought he was just being charming (because he is a real charmer) but he comes in and talks to me 4 out of 5 weekdays. He even started bringing me tea because I "seem like a tea person" (and I am!). Interestingly, he is an Aquarius and if you've ever read a post of mine I usually don't like them at all. But that aloof thing, is a trait we both have, me being an Aquarius rising person. I don't know if he is interested in me in that way. This would be all well and good and I would probably make a move if he hadn't already but, and this is a BIG but:

If this is pursued it has the potential to ruin my reputation and career. This guy is not someone I should be thinking of having a relationship with. I mean, I usually date business owners and lawyers and this guy is, well, neither one of those, that's for sure. But I am so attracted to him. I don't know. I don't even know if he's attracted to me, or using me for something or if he's just one of those "nice Aquarian boys". Blech. All I know is that I want him to take me to a dark room, push me against the wall and kiss me with those beautiful lips of his...

People are noticing at work too. My boss even told me, out of nowhere, about his past relationship with someone in a position similar to my own - she didn't know his background and when she found out she went "running for the hills". My co-worker said that she notices that he's always at my desk "just talking and talking". I told her it was nothing but she kinda side-eyed me.

We would have to keep it a secret, for sure (his Venus falls in my 12th) or this might be, as my co-worker says these things are usually "illusions" (say it with a Spanish accent "ill-loose-ee-OHNs" - again, Venus in the 12th)...

I am a "good girl" and I have two masters degrees and he is a bad-bad boy but he is so smart, funny and sexy. Very boyish. He seems a decade younger but he is just two years younger than me. He reminds me of an ex I had long ago...

Tell me what you think (although I don't have his birth time Moon was in Scorpio all day)...

IP: Logged

Posts: 26
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 24, 2013 08:36 AM            

---

Hi downtomars,

I've only been reading tarot cards for a few weeks, so plz take the following with a grain of salt (and others, please chime in). I did a Two Paths reading for you and here is how it turned out:

1st possible outcome: 2 Swords rx
2nd outcome: moon rx
Force drawing you to 1st outcome: ace wands rx
Force drawing you to 2nd outcome: page pent rx
Critical factor that decides what comes to pass: 10 wands rx

So the first outcome represents you pursuing a relationship with this guy, and the 2nd is you putting your job first and not acting on your feelings. It seems like the basis of your feelings for this guy is that you have a conflict within yourself that you need to work out (and you said he reminds you of your ex, so maybe that is one clue). Also, a relationship with him could start a crisis situation that could lead to the loss of your job, as you have suggested (ace wands rx representing the crisis, page of pents rx representing your concern over the loss of your job). What happens depends on how well you can manage and channel your conflicts and desires and get to the bottom of what this guy represents to you. Nothing appearing in this reading suggests that this relationship would be good for you, other than the fact that it could bring to the surface issues you aren't confronting right now.
"All I know is that I want him to take me to a dark room, push me against the wall and kiss me with those beautiful lips of his...."
I know how tough it is to manage such strong desires, having just gone through this myself. It really can be a huge battle. I think you need to consider the possible end point of not having a job at the end of this.
How do you feel about your job and your life right now?
I hope this has been helpful. Good luck and stay strong.

IP: Logged

Posts: 1182
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009

posted May 25, 2013 04:47 AM            

---

Thank you, threepoolsoflight! I think your reading is very accurate. I don't know if anything will happen but it is just an interesting fantasy (Venus in the 12th, again). I think what's missing is excitement - I like my job but the rest of my life is pretty boring. This guy is a "bad boy" and I am a "good girl", so typical, lol. I just really need to choose head over heart (and other areas)...

I would still like to know how this looks though. Is it one-sided? I mean, I would be flattered (it would feed my ego) if he was interested. Maybe I also have that need to be desired...

IP: Logged

Posts: 1182
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009

posted May 25, 2013 04:48 PM            

---

We have a lot of sexual placements though - Mars-Mars-Moon & Mars-Mars-Pluto grand trine completion. We also have that Venus-Pluto square double whammy (yikes) and Moon conjunct Pluto (hmm...).

Interesting that his Sun is conjunct his South Node, that explains a lot about him, and my Sun is conjunct his North Node. I wonder if he idolizes me, or thinks I am something to "work towards"? Or maybe he thinks I can help him in some way?

IP: Logged

Posts: 554
From:
Registered: Sep 2011

posted May 25, 2013 05:58 PM            

---

from personal experience.. not all work romances go bad and opposites can definitely be together if the placements are right. i met my VERY opposite bf in the workplace several years ago and despite everyone saying 'don't do it' we did. i was (still am) his supervisor, but the chemistry was too strong. we kept it a secret for 2 full years and then slowly told people. he is also very opposite to me in terms of culture, ethnicity, age, sexual experience, finances, etc. - every trait you expect to have in a partner didn't fit with this guy, and yet it did. so don't let that be a deterrent. i have a masters too and a strong career but he was respectful of my position in our workplace and that i was in supervisory role, so your guy has to be on board with keeping it on the low-down; you don't want a player or a gossiper for a workplace bf :-)

anyway... for your synastry, i see initial attraction both ways because of that aqua asc. you have. three of his major planets - sun, mars and mercury - are falling into your 1st house/aqua asc, so there is no way you're going unnoticed by him and vice-versa - 1st house contacts put you front and center with someone, and as an aqua he's going to really like friendship/conversation with you. 1st house are very good placements for attracting the attention of a partner and holding their interest for a while. the trouble i see is his moon in close conjunction to your uranus and his venus sitting in your 12th house and squaring your moon. in a love relationship you (generally) want things to run smoothly, and uranus is a very disruptive energy; the square with the venus and moon is close; it might mean that emotionally there'd be a disconnect and waning of interest. that moon-pluto contact is very nice, and very strong; the conjunction is almost exact and the moon person (you) will feel very caring towards this guy, it really brings out the caring side of the moon towards the pluto person - like compelling the moon to be better than you nomrally are as not to hurt the partner. i wouldn't call moon-pluto a sexual connection, but a deep caring one, and something more akin to a fated energy. you also have venus trine uranus at a very close degree, so imo that might be the aspect causing you to want something sexual with him - the square to pluto is too wide at 6 degrees, imo, for that to be effective right off. i think you'd be able to get something going with him romantically, but if it means risking you career then i wouldn't - it doesn't strike me as a compelling chart for lasting love ... interest from both sides given many oppositions and squares though. when looking at the synastry chart the orbs should be 3 degrees or below to 'count' - orbs beyond that range are generally not felt... at least not for a while, and many of your aspects are too wide

IP: Logged

Posts: 26
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 25, 2013 06:13 PM            

---

Here are a couple more cards for you:

How does he see you? Queen of Swords
Is he attracted to you? Strength, 4 Pents

He definitely thinks highly of you, values your mind and likes being with you. The strength card made me laugh because of the image of the "puritanical" maiden taming the beast. I think he's attracted to you, but somewhat hesitant or insecure about acting on it. He could be concerned about the effects on his job too, which the 4 of Pents might be indicating. It could also be that he's afraid that you might not see him as strong enough for you...like, despite his bad boy image, he is vulnerable underneath.

IP: Logged