posted November 09, 2013 08:09 PM            

I saw your message.

I'm really sorry about the situation you went through, that must be really hard, but I feel that you are just fine and going to be very happy!

I feel like your attraction to this person was very very very strong--was he someone who was the life of the party? Strong, charasmatic? Did you feel like you were under his spell a bit and that it was difficult to be away from him even when you were together with him? The cards say he sees himself as a strong character.

For you, I feel like this whole situation is actually a blessing in disguise. I would look at it like a rebirth, a chance to experience life with fresh eyes again, feel young, carefree. I know engagements are very serious, naturally--but was there something about it that made you feel weighed down a bit as well?

Regardless, for the future, I see you balancing your emotions and your needs--The Sun, Temperance and Strength! These are all positive cards showing that your happiness will come with time, patience and gentle determination.

There are going to be opportunities for your to learn to be independent, strong willed and determined. Those memories or thoughts of that relationship come back, but you are sharp enough to see through them and see the situation as it really was.

posted November 11, 2013 08:12 AM            

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Originally posted by lotus_flower:
Hi Flower!

I saw your message.

I'm really sorry about the situation you went through, that must be really hard, but I feel that you are just fine and going to be very happy!

I feel like your attraction to this person was very very very strong--was he someone who was the life of the party? Strong, charasmatic? Did you feel like you were under his spell a bit and that it was difficult to be away from him even when you were together with him? The cards say he sees himself as a strong character.

For you, I feel like this whole situation is actually a blessing in disguise. I would look at it like a rebirth, a chance to experience life with fresh eyes again, feel young, carefree. I know engagements are very serious, naturally--but was there something about it that made you feel weighed down a bit as well?

Regardless, for the future, I see you balancing your emotions and your needs--The Sun, Temperance and Strength! These are all positive cards showing that your happiness will come with time, patience and gentle determination.

There are going to be opportunities for your to learn to be independent, strong willed and determined. Those memories or thoughts of that relationship come back, but you are sharp enough to see through them and see the situation as it really was.

Is this person someone that is in the same circle of friends as you? Or someone who comes up often?

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Good morning Lotus,
Thank you so much for taking the time to do this amazing reading for me!

I'll give you my feedback sentence by sentence this way I'll be sure not to miss anything.

"I feel like your attraction to this person was very very very strong--was he someone who was the life of the party? Strong, charasmatic? Did you feel like you were under his spell a bit and that it was difficult to be away from him even when you were together with him? The cards say he sees himself as a strong character. " ---YES, all the things you mentioned are very true, he was my first true/ real relationship and he had the biggest impact on my life out of any other people I'm surrounded by (other than my parents). He is strong and charismatic, his physique is very tall and he is good looking, he is kind and helpful and many of his friends love him. I did feel like I was under his spell, but maybe that's because he was much older than me (9 years) and therefore I trusted his with his life experiences and general wisdom he possessed. And he does see himself as a very strong character, he's also a physician, so that gives him an extra ego to spill around. (I'm one as well)

"For you, I feel like this whole situation is actually a blessing in disguise. I would look at it like a rebirth, a chance to experience life with fresh eyes again, feel young, carefree. I know engagements are very serious, naturally--but was there something about it that made you feel weighed down a bit as well?---- YOU ARE SPOT ON! I can not tell you how many new things I had to learn due to the fact that I had to face the world, and life in general, on my own, without any guidance. I have grown a lot more stronger, it's ironic but I also have gained a lot more confidence in myself and the feeling that I can get to where I want without him ( like that Whitney Houston song...) I'm enjoying many different things in life that I never did before, for example I go to the concerts, spend more time with my friends, build new friendly relationships with new people I meet etc. I never did these things before, even thought i'm probably busier now than ever!

"There are going to be opportunities for your to learn to be independent, strong willed and determined. Those memories or thoughts of that relationship come back, but you are sharp enough to see through them and see the situation as it really was." ---This definitely rings the bell with me, i already see this happening in my life, and i absolutely embrace it, learn every lesson there is to learn, and be grateful for it. I think that my biggest mistake in that relationship was that i hid my true self from the world because of this relationship. My voice was never heard, my needs were hardly met, and I just couldn't stand up for myself. After the break up there was an opportunity for me to rediscover my true self, get stronger and much more determined. I think that I was to week for the relationship with him ( I was only 19 when I got engaged) but now, I'm much more defined, much more confident, and I know what my weaknesses are.

I think that all of these lessons were important for me to learn, and if he has learned his lesson the way i have mine, than I feel that if we were to start over again, this relationship might have a potential to lest a life time...