posted May 01, 2014 05:10 AM            

Basically, I spent most of my day with P. yesterday. We were not alone though, we were always around people, socializing, etc... Still, it was generally good - we bonded, had good moments... There were times I think he was being a bit flirty, also, he shared a lot about his life yesterday, which is a great thing, as he is somewhat of a reserved person who won't share those stuff unless he feels comfortable with someone. I'm pretty much the same way, so I know where he is coming from.

However, something happened... At a certain point, we were singing a stupid song for the laughs. One of those songs that you just can't get out of your mind even if you want to. Moments after, we were checking something on the computer - I was sitting on a chair and he was standing behind me. He pats me on my right shoulder once - I don't say anything. He pats me on the shoulder again. I don't say anything. Since I didn't do anything, he pats me on the shoulder again. Then, I turn around and say one of the lines of that song that says something like "remove your hand from hump" - it's kinda hard to translate to english but that's basically what it means, lol. I said it in a playful/goofy manner, as we were singing it just minutes before, and well, I'm just goofy like that. However, he had sort of an unexpected reaction... He was like "WOW, I already knew you were strange, but now I know for sure you're really weird!". I was kind of offended by that, not exactly because of the content of what he said, but the way he said it... It was a bit hurtful, but I didn't say anything, I just ignored it and continued to laugh with my friends.

The rest of the afternoon went pretty smoothly, it was actually after that situation that he shared that stuff about his life... And there were some flirty moments aswell. SO I'm confused. I've always felt he was attracted to me etc. and then he says something like that as if he is trying to hurt me? What was going on? Why did he say that - did he interpret me saying that line as "rejecting" him? I was just joking! Is that really his opinion of me, that I'm just a strange/weird girl? Because I didn't take that exactly as a good thing and it makes me confused that he would be interested in me while thinking that... But hey, he is pretty strange himself, so maybe he resonates with it, lol. Just kidding

posted May 01, 2014 05:30 AM            

COMPASSION: examine your words and actions before you act and speak as they have an impact on people. Compassion leads you to better relationships with people. It is only when you walk in somebody else's shoes that you truly understand their challenges and motivations. As you develop compassion, you will be more aware. Being compassionate is not a weakness, but makes you wise and considerate.

posted May 01, 2014 05:53 AM            

even though you said it in a funny matter to him you ignored him several times so it came up to him that you were being a bit rude..... as if you didn't have time for him to get a sense of rejection.

I get your saying that you're confused but really he's the confused one. it would have been much better if you didn't ignore him regardless if you said something in a funny manor and he still didn't take it that you were being funny.

so is he a bit hurt yes. and I don't see him thinking he..... because he's just as confused as you are!

he said what he said because it was a defense mechanism, but also because I'm clear of what your intentions are and it kind of made you look flighty.

I don't think anything more bad is going to come out of this its just going to be brushed off miscommunication that's all!

can I ask you do you see me getting a nother job sometime soon, or when. do you see what I'll be doing.

I have a job interview today and I also have one on Monday

posted May 01, 2014 05:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Cuteleo85:
I'm trying a new deck so I' drew one for you asking your question for you:

COMPASSION: examine your words and actions before you act and speak as they have an impact on people. Compassion leads you to better relationships with people. It is only when you walk in somebody else's shoes that you truly understand their challenges and motivations. As you develop compassion, you will be more aware. Being compassionate is not a weakness, but makes you wise and considerate.

I think what it means is that you need to take a step back and look at it from his point of view, objectively. At the end of the day, no one spends considerable amount of time with someone if they think they're weird or anything negative. He's probably more sensitive than you know and simply need to be more considerate around him.

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Sorry forgot the question lol

posted May 01, 2014 06:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Adimi:
Thank you both, you're probably right... Maybe he was just trying to get closer to me and he interpreted my attitude as being inconsiderate/rejective. There is a reason why I only reacted when he insisted, but I'll leave that for another time, perhaps... I totally understand why he would be confused now. He probably thinks I'm hard to read/give mixed signals, therefore the strange/weird remark... What do you think? The funny thing is that I feel the same way about him, so miscommunication is severely present, as you can tell...

Thanks again Cuteleo and cherful I'll look into your questions in a moment!

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posted May 01, 2014 06:42 AM            

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Originally posted by Cuteleo85:
Can you tell me anything about overcoming some setbacks and turning to school by the end of summer? Thanks!

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I feel you need to look at things in a more detached/objective manner... Right now it seems you are restricting yourself from blossoming into your wonderful capacities/talents that you have. I don't think you are entirely comfortable with the situation you are in at the moment, but you need to let the fears/worries/hurts go and havea bit more trust in yourself. You are perfectly capable of overcoming whatever you'll go through in the next months.

posted May 01, 2014 06:49 AM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
can I ask you do you see me getting a nother job sometime soon, or when. do you see what I'll be doing.

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posted May 01, 2014 06:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Cuteleo85:
This has nothing do with the cards, just my objective opinion: I think it is miscommunication. When you care and like someone sometimes you do or say things without thinking because you're in the moment, which can be misinterpreted. As long as you're more aware when you're with him, you should be able to avoid any further confusion. Also, being open about feelings helps
Good luck!

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posted May 01, 2014 07:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Adimi:
I feel you need to look at things in a more detached/objective manner... Right now it seems you are restricting yourself from blossoming into your wonderful capacities/talents that you have. I don't think you are entirely comfortable with the situation you are in at the moment, but you need to let the fears/worries/hurts go and havea bit more trust in yourself. You are perfectly capable of overcoming whatever you'll go through in the next months.

I pulled an oracle card for you and it's Sige. Her small message is to take some quiet time alone to rest, meditate and contemplate the future, what you want to happen. Try to manifest the outcome that you desire. For this though, you'll have to let go fo the set backs that I was mentioning earlier... Have faith in yourself and also, don't let others influence your decisions/opinions of things. You need to do this for yourself, no one else, and you're the only one who needs to feel the approval to move forward with what you want. As long as it feels right, then it's probably the right thing to do. Good luck!

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posted May 03, 2014 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Adimi:
Feedback: He mentioned it again yesterday. I didn't think he would even bring it up again, as we quickly tried to get over that situation the day it happened, but he did. The difference is that this time his tone wasn't offensive, he was just joking around about it and teasing me a bit. It happened on Wednesday and we didn't see each other on Thursday, only yesterday, so maybe he took the time to think on what/how he said the things he did, as I felt he was a bit out of line. It really did hurt me. Perhaps that was his subtle way of apologizing. I took the chance to also explain why I had that attitude, as I didn't want him to feel rejected - like I said, I was just joking around, but I understand now it wasn't the best thing to do in that situation and I'll try to be more considerate in the future and control my silly impulses. I think we're both overly sensitive, LOL.

Thanks again girls, I think we both understand now where each other was coming from and that's the most important thing.

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