posted May 26, 2014 11:52 AM            

just recently I have changed to being an hour outside everyday on my patio, I started a page on Facebook that's all about happiness and that takes me a good while to research everything to do with happiness. I drink water with lemon so I have one a day to build my body to alkaline state... I also try to take wheatgrass juice and believe me that does help a great deal instantly. plus I reconnected with an old friend... so that helps with my loneliness.

as far as my job goes I have totally given up. I have given in to letting the universe take me where it wants to go.... which very well could be unemployed real soon. but fighting my scenario every day was truly causing mean I was getting sick. i feels its more of a refreshing stage. stop applying stop looking stop stressing and maybe in a couple weeks restart.

posted May 26, 2014 12:37 PM            

so trust me I know how you feel and it's a struggle with me every single day. I joined a gym like 3 months ago and I've only been 5 times. like I need to lose all the weight I gained and looks like my normal natural self. instead I've been feeding my body fat and sugar and i ballooned. and I get it it's not just the rejection from my ex it's not just the sexual harassment from my boss...its every time I went to apply for jobs and I bought a new outfit and I didn't get it and it's also the rejection from the guys that I was talking to Online, I just couldn't handle any more rejection. I was seriously worried for myself for a very very long time.

posted May 26, 2014 01:31 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
MineAgain, are you near NYC?

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posted May 26, 2014 01:39 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I wish! No, I am nowhere near NYC.

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Boooooo

posted May 26, 2014 01:49 PM            

but I'm lucky I am decent with money, so the gambling did not hurt my finance.

My vice is risk taking, and now I got into a risky job and I no longer feel as empty and heartbroken. I figure this is still an unhealthy choice though

posted May 26, 2014 02:32 PM            

MineAgain, we go through these things. I've been searching for a job for close to a year and a half. Graduated from high school with a high gpa, got into a really good uni but hit some bumps which affected my performance. I have people telling me that I'm living in a fantasy land ect and it does eat away at my confidence. A lot. I feel defeated but determined at the same time to prove people wrong.

posted May 26, 2014 04:04 PM            

MineAgain - I wish I could give you a magic wand and make it all go away but I can't. And if I did, I'd be a millionaire! It takes patience, lots of it. Believe in yourself, you've come this far, that counts for something. Don't put yourself in anyone else's shoes. There's no set age when you should be successful, be married, have kids, etc. And of course you have friends, everyone on this forum! We're not here to judge you; we're simply here to hear your struggles, turn them into awesome adventures. Turn that frown upside down! Believe me when I say that I've been there, I have no reason to lie to you. My life too is in shambles, but that hasn't stopped me from getting up everyday and trying. We all have a story and it's not perfect, but it's ours. Start a journal, make a promise to yourself to do something small everyday. Take baby steps. Do you trust anyone to look over your resume? How about a Linkedin page? Sign up for alerts on indeed.com and glassdoor.com Don't give up when the journey has already started. Don't compare yourself to anyone else either. I know, easier said than done. You're just hurting yourself.

Cherful - I'm in Chicago, hit me up! I'll go to the gym with you, hell I need a running buddy, even someone on a bullhorn to yell at me to run those 5 miles. Don't hide from the world. You have much to give, you just can't see it yet.

I wish I would've joined this forum years ago, it probably would've saved me from myself, but I had to learn the hard way. One day soon, when I can sit in front of the computer and just type away without any interruptions, I'll write you my story. It's sad but also powerful. Not looking for a pity party; I just hope to show you all that eventually the dark clouds shift apart and some light seeps through. I still have clouds, but they're not dark and rainy anymore.

posted May 26, 2014 05:41 PM            

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One of the best questions I used to teach my students...(computer) is when the interviewer is about to finish up... he or she will usually ask (and this has gotten me jobs) is that anything you would like to ask me (us)? You answer should be... Yes, what is the most difficult part about this job? I usually insist the students call the job by its formal name and in IT there are a LOT of names for the same thing.... So, the question for one of my students would be "What is the hardest part about being a helpdesk technician?" This shows the interviewers you have actually thought about doing the job and MOSTLY it gives them an off the hook... to tell you .... well, the last person we had did not like to come to work on time? To which you can answer in many ways to help yourself. And yes, the students found that interviewing each other did help. They could think of harder questions than I ever did... But they were spot ON>

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Your next question should be "Do you think I have the qualifications to do this job?" That will give you an idea of whether they intend to hire you. A "yes" with a bunch of "but..." and "you don't really..." tells you to keep looking. "Absolutely. I think you'd be a great fit" means to be ready to work. They put you at the top of the list. Companies HAVE said the former and dragged their feet, but later wanted me and found I was on the next one. ::shrug::

posted May 26, 2014 08:46 PM            

Things that help me - I try to write in my gratitude journal every day, watch sitcoms/shows that make me laugh and communicate my issues to God/Angles ....

posted May 26, 2014 09:08 PM            

It stings, considering situation I am handling it well but it hurts..some days more so although I am mostly focusing on the positive which is what I do have which is a home and a supportive family thanks to my parents letting my husband and I stay with them. I am finishing my masters so I can get a better job and my husband is working on a 3d printer so he can sell parts and contribute...I would be feeling like you do most likely if I would have not found a job that actually builds up my resume although it does not pay enough for me to live on my own and support myself and husband....

I can cover my expenses and pay my bills at least...

I went to three job interviews and one of them was not going to hire me and then ended up hiring me but I wrote her an email and really sold myself and put myself out there......I do the cover letters always....

I got lucky though I could still be looking but you CANT GIVE UP, YOU HAVE TO KEEP APPLYING AND YOU HAVE TO HAVE FAITH THAT SOMEONE WILL CALL BACK AND TRY TO NOT STRESS, IF YOU STRESS TO MUCH YOU WONT ATTRACT WHAT YOU NEED.

The origin of my situation is pretty bad so I really had to find a job in my field, it was not an option not to.

You have to keep going and remind yourself that this will pass too and better days will come again!