posted July 09, 2014 11:51 AM            

About your romantic style/ needs:
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Queen of Pentacles
3 of swords (who on earth needs the 3 of swords? :eek
HERMIT

I`d say you might be a bit of a recluse romantically at the moment; however you need a sensual down-to-earth approach, feeling secure in a relationship and having to feel like you can give and receive tangible affection; along with a bit of space. You will need to be able to withdraw now and then to meditate and think about things.
Alternatively the Hermit can be more about a spiritual connection that is at the bottom of it, instead of a relationship based on sexual connection alone.

Now about the 3 of swords, in the positive way I`d ay this would be about very open straightfroward honest communication, to the point that the truth will hurt.

Is that a tendency of yours? To be so honest that it might hurt a possible romantic partner?

What can you do to improve?
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Knight of Cups
9 of cups
Page of cups

lol

Be more open to your feelings, communicate them, tell you romantic partner what you feel and what you need (men aren`t usually mindreaders).
Allow emotions to flow, and have a little faith in romance as well.

posted July 09, 2014 12:21 PM            

- Yes, I feel disconnected from sensual pleasure and longing for my boyfriend is not present with me at the moment. He is coming to visit me but I still would prefer to be isolated at the moment, I am not ready to come out of my shell and embrace the pleasures of the flesh and being next to a human being intimately again. I feel very introspective and like I need more time -- and it's funny because I haven't see him in a year nor have been involved with a man for a year either.
It's not because I want to cheat on him, it's just I've gotten use to the celibacy. I guess when he comes the touchy-feely Queen of Coins will come again. I am a Venus in Gemini, after all.

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Hmm I like those cards, all cups. I should embrace my more emotional spirit and stop being in my recluse..

how is P`s relationship with M going to develop?
9 OF CUPS + QUEEN OF SWORDS + THE SUN
Interesting, it seems the female in the relationship is shown as the Queen of Swords, a woman who has hardened her heart and not allowed for anyone to see her true face. Behind her is in the 9 of Cups which she looks longingly at The Sun, right now she feels she has gotten her "wish" and feels emotionally content and vulnerable with him. Now the QoS isn't going to just let anyone get away with seeing her like that. She seems to be the main driver in the relationship here, directing it forward and going into a phase of romance and bliss. The Sun is a really positive and high energy for them -- a lot of vitality and fond memories will be made!

posted July 09, 2014 12:24 PM            

And no, there is definitely no alliance formed with me, at least not from her side.

You wrote a lot from her perspective, could you pull some cards as to how he feels about or in this relationship?

posted July 09, 2014 03:03 PM            

Why he has admitted attraction:
JUDGEMENT
PAGE OF COINS
THE EMPRESS
He came to a realization and he had to express this to you. With the Judgement card this shows rebirth and transformation of one's opinions and viewpoints and the destruction of the ego for a higher purpose. There is a strong psychic connection that easily manifests to a physical linkage that is mutual between both of the sides. You are shown as The Empress, the woman who is sensual and the one who can regain the loving and comfort in his life unlike the Queen of Swords woman. The Empress is willing and submits to her man will and his security over her while she rewards him with sensual pleasure and love.

@tphoenix
Is L going to find a better job?
JUSTICE
3 OF COINS
2 OF SWORDS
It looks like L is going to reach a conclusion about her job and have to make a decision somehow so yes, with the 3 of Coins her starting back to the basics and trying to get a job from her friends or being offered one but ultimately having to sacrifice something in order to gain another. A really uncomfortable situation for her!

**thx tphoenix

posted July 09, 2014 03:28 PM            

Preparing for intimacy means being comfortable about yourself. This means standing nude in front of a mirror and accepting what you see as beautiful. You have proven your beauty to these people on this site but you have to accept that person you see in the glass as beautiful flaws and all. No matter what you do not like about her... see her as beautiful. I have known some people (men and women) who were not characteristically beautiful yet everyone wanted them... because they saw themselves that way. No need to pull cards here. I know this one.... Well... I have physical issues... not to be discussed but you can over come. If you can be loving to you... you can be loving to anyone that catches your fancy. There is no need to regain sensuality. It comes because there is attraction. If when you see J there is no attraction... that speaks volumes...if there is attraction... that speaks volumes too.

posted July 09, 2014 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
Karka,

Preparing for intimacy means being comfortable about yourself. This means standing nude in front of a mirror and accepting what you see as beautiful. You have proven your beauty to these people on this site but you have to accept that person you see in the glass as beautiful flaws and all. No matter what you do not like about her... see her as beautiful. I have known some people (men and women) who were not characteristically beautiful yet everyone wanted them... because they saw themselves that way. No need to pull cards here. I know this one.... Well... I have physical issues... not to be discussed but you can over come. If you can be loving to you... you can be loving to anyone that catches your fancy. There is no need to regain sensuality. It comes because there is attraction. If when you see J there is no attraction... that speaks volumes...if there is attraction... that speaks volumes too.

When will you see him again?
one month is the answer I am being shown or 3 weeks...

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I am seeing him on Saturday.

posted July 09, 2014 04:19 PM            

"How he feels about this relationship:
6 OF COINS
10 OF SWORDS
8 OF COINS
He feels like he is giving more than he should with her and that she is falling below his expectations and disappointing him. She appeared as the QoS in the other spread and now this is him as the 10oS, she has slandered his character with her cold choice of words and cut him life knife and made him feel defeated. He feels vulnerable to her sharp edges and that he can easily be used for her own amusement. He sees it as a dead-end and his feelings for her are dying down much to his own depression and sorrow. With the 8 of Coins at the end I feel he is trying to see her more distantly and like a colleague or he feels he has to literally work in this relationship with no fun."
So seeing both readings together, it seems like they see their present relationship quite differently.

I must add, also, I have seen several pics of him in the last weeks, and while before he was always very jolly and smiling and had that Sag-typical sparkle in his eyes, for the last month he has looked very tired, introverted, thoughtful and sad. Not a hint of a smile, and that is very unusual.

Actually the last time I have seen him smile, was on that concert when he let it slip, that I was affecting him more than at least I was aware of, and judging from his expression, it was a sudden realization for him as well.

It is interesting, your reading on why he admitted it, fits that scenario perfectly. It was like this sudden emerging out of nowwhere. And then it was being said, and somehow became more real in a way.

Also the Empress, I could identify with her, on good days at least. lol
When I am not too much in my mind (I do have a bit of Queen of Swords in me, as well, but not the outspoken kind, more the defensive kind).
Actually I think when we met before I was quite on the defensive side and very "shut off"; well with my weightloss that started in november 2012, things have changed a lot for me. Not just the fact that I was losing weight, but I am more relaxed now, and I suppose more inclined to be alright with my sensuality. Well, Iam still quite voluptuous, so that fits the Emprss, too, but I am feeling rather comfortable in my skin nowadays (as long as noone sees me naked at least. lol), and I noticed that I tend to get a little attention nowadays, but I am rather okay with it, without getting all excited about it.
So yes, I can see this, too.

And I think he noticed the physical (and personal) change in me and he appreciated it.

Also on another level, and he most probably is not aware of this, but I am more at ease with my attraction to him. I sort of stopped trying to fight it or analyze why and to what extent I am attracted to him. It just is like it is and it is okay to feel this way. I donīt have to hide under a stone or die of shame that I like him. It`s alright. At least as long as I stick to my ethics. Liking him doesn`t mean I want to become "the other woman". No, not at all.
Still feelings are feelings, and he affects me on an emotional and probably also physical level. I am of course not going to act on this, but I feel much more at ease with these feelings now and also with the possibility that he might know I like him.
Though truth be told I was not really all that responsive I suppose. I am just very shy.
Which is a good thing, considering he has a girlfriend.

posted July 09, 2014 04:34 PM            

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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
Karka,

Preparing for intimacy means being comfortable about yourself. This means standing nude in front of a mirror and accepting what you see as beautiful. You have proven your beauty to these people on this site but you have to accept that person you see in the glass as beautiful flaws and all. No matter what you do not like about her... see her as beautiful. I have known some people (men and women) who were not characteristically beautiful yet everyone wanted them... because they saw themselves that way.

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