posted July 19, 2014 05:41 PM            

How can we be so deeply connected, have the most amazing sexual relationship and practically communicate telepathically yet be so not compatible?

I really need some guidance, I love him deeply. We broke up when I got pregnant last summer and he freaked out. It ended with a miscarriage and a lot of hurt feelings between us. Is there potential for us getting back together? Things have never been this well between us, we communicate well, the physical and mental attraction is still there...

Maybe he made a mistake about his birthtime?
Please help! I cannot offer a reading in exchange as I am quite new to all his, but I am a great listener and have been told I give good advice, so I can offer that in exchange.

Here are our charts:

posted July 19, 2014 07:22 PM            

I don't know how to read charts (so we'll wait for someone who does) but if you're comfortable writing your name and his name I can check what your name compatibility is...

posted July 19, 2014 07:55 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
Hey Melodie

I don't know how to read charts (so we'll wait for someone who does) but if you're comfortable writing your name and his name I can check what your name compatibility is...

Let me know

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posted July 19, 2014 08:07 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
Just the first names (or the names you use with each other)

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... and ...

though he calls me ... sometimes,as most people do.

posted July 19, 2014 08:20 PM            

You express the qualities of romance and intimacy outwardly because of your yang duality in your Moon and Venus signs.
You do not value physical intimacy or sensuality above all. You prefer a love that is ethereal, ideological, and heavily rationalized to the point that it is almost perfect and fits in your own fantasy world. You find the communication of two minds the most simulating and pleasurable for you do not speak to your partners with your body, but through your beautiful words and verbal reassurances to them. You find yourself constantly longing for a partner even when you just got out of a relationship, and one that carefully expresses the opposite qualities of you to create a perfect harmony.
Intimacy to you is the molding of two spirits, not necessarily a sexual act but a pure intertwined connection of the most purest and harmonious form possible that is idealized to mankind.
With the square to Jupiter you are shamefully indulgent sometimes in the dating scene and enjoy the courtship over actual marriage or a long-term relationship which can make you seem fickle and easily bored by partners who d not meet your demands at the start or ones that are too passionate or clingy. Unfortunately you feel a restriction throughout your relationships and trouble expressing sexual or physical intimacy, or perhaps intertwining the two together with emotional romance.

MARS is in VIRGO trine SATURN-NEPTUNE in the 4TH
You are very prudent and well-calculated in the sex act, you do not open up easily and you can flirt and you are quite the tease. Your physical body is your main concern and it's possibly a little rectangular shaped with odd afflictions here and there. (?) You like your partner to be everything you wished for, finding yourself often turned off by the slightest disadvantage. A discriminatory sexual partner and this may result in you trying to alter your physical appearance severely to fit a ideal due to perfectionism.

A has MARS in TAURUS conjunct his ASCENDANT, while the sex drive and vigor are both in EARTH signs I feel he is more sensuous, longing for the touch, not wanting to speak much or idealize it, just simple and natural sex without all of the fancy stuff unlike how you feel. He's well shaped, maybe a little stocky and with opposite PLUTO he has a very masculine body and sexually attractive with a high sex drive. PLUTO is in the 6TH house so this can result in him being vigorous and training a lot physically to keep himself toned and up in shape.
MARS in TAURUS square a SUN in LEO
especially with the MARS-PLUTO aspect, a very potent drive and sexuality, proud of his sexual prowess and a strong ego if defeated lashes out badly. Since MARS is affected by two highly male planets (PLUTO and SUN) I can imagine that he's extremely passionate and that he may expect his woman to please him or else he will leave or find his interests elsewhere. He could be forceful, I see him as being jealous-hearted or possessive of his "property" (lol)

MOON-VENUS in LEO conjunct NADIR
Especially with that potent MARS-PLUTO-SUN aspects he is a lady killer and often attracts to affections of women, he can understand the sensitivity of woman while keeping his masculinity and strength in check. He is prone to have many relationships with women or surrounded by them all the time, especially in his home or past experiences which made him more sensitive to such things.
Since MARS is in TAURUS the MOON-VENUS acts very Tauren, extremely sensual, longing for intimacy and closely relating emotional and sexual bonding together... now time for the Synastry

posted July 19, 2014 08:23 PM            

His NN on your MOON, was made to transform your emotions and to feel like he does -- to feel the pain you put your partners through or to "feel" more, your emotional nature induced a transformation for him and he feels ready to move on.

posted July 19, 2014 08:29 PM            

There's some blind admiration at times in this relationship. Where one of you can be totally blind to the faults of the other and follow the other which can be a worry if they lose themselves in the relationship. And there's criticism in this relationship where one of you can at times oppress the other or acts a bit snobbish.
There a sense of frustration in this relationship, of non-acceptance.

On the positive side - It also shows that you have a good friendship. And good communication.

You are both intelligent people, and as such your professions are probably to do with education (teacher, instructor etc).
One of you is more materialistic and more practical whilst the other tends to talk more but not actually do much.
You both have lots of ideas but needs another person to help you get those ideas into action.
One of you is the flirt whilst the other seeks thrills.
You are both emotional but have difficulties controlling your emotions or have difficulties displaying your emotions.
Both of you have no difficulty cutting ties with friends if you have decided to do so.
One of you cares a lot about what his/her friends think about him/her and dresses appropriately whilst the other could care less about that.
You are both good advisers and one can trust your judgments - one of you is more practical whilst the other more spiritual though.

posted July 19, 2014 08:36 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:

His NN on your MOON, was made to transform your emotions and to feel like he does -- to feel the pain you put your partners through or to "feel" more, your emotional nature induced a transformation for him and he feels ready to move on.

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what do you mean by he feels ready to move on? he feels ready to move on from our relationship? or to try again? should I stop seeing him then? i just feel this pull; i want to be with him.
i just don't want him to be using me for the sexual connection we have.

I have a terrible case of using sexuality to get boys to like me, related to poor self-esteem (though I'm working on it..)

thank you so much for your reading!

posted July 19, 2014 08:42 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:

A has MARS in TAURUS conjunct his ASCENDANT, while the sex drive and vigor are both in EARTH signs I feel he is more sensuous, longing for the touch, not wanting to speak much or idealize it, just simple and natural sex without all of the fancy stuff unlike how you feel. He's well shaped, maybe a little stocky and with opposite PLUTO he has a very masculine body and sexually attractive with a high sex drive. PLUTO is in the 6TH house so this can result in him being vigorous and training a lot physically to keep himself toned and up in shape.
MARS in TAURUS square a SUN in LEO
especially with the MARS-PLUTO aspect, a very potent drive and sexuality, proud of his sexual prowess and a strong ego if defeated lashes out badly. Since MARS is affected by two highly male planets (PLUTO and SUN) I can imagine that he's extremely passionate and that he may expect his woman to please him or else he will leave or find his interests elsewhere. He could be forceful, I see him as being jealous-hearted or possessive of his "property" (lol)

MOON-VENUS in LEO conjunct NADIR
Especially with that potent MARS-PLUTO-SUN aspects he is a lady killer and often attracts to affections of women, he can understand the sensitivity of woman while keeping his masculinity and strength in check. He is prone to have many relationships with women or surrounded by them all the time, especially in his home or past experiences which made him more sensitive to such things.
Since MARS is in TAURUS the MOON-VENUS acts very Tauren, extremely sensual, longing for intimacy and closely relating emotional and sexual bonding together... now time for the Synastry

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Wow! The stuff about him is quite spot on; he grew up surrounded by women, is quite the women magnet too. Sexual stamina, forcefulness (in a nice way hahah let's say he takes initiative a lot, but he's always respectful), I've seen him lash out, he does have a bit of a violent side (not with me but gets into fights in bars, generally ego things or protecting people). As for me, the fickleness aspect is true, and though I do value communion of the minds, I am a practically a nympho. I'm surprised it's not shown in my chart..hmm.

I have a question; is it possible for us to be in a relationship with our synastry or do we have a challenging chart? Do you know any couples with diverging charts who end up in happy relationships? Should I invest myself and see where this goes... (once again?)?

posted July 19, 2014 09:10 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Actually i would of said with the Venus in 5th you are, I have this myself lol

Hmm ill hacve to look further. im kind of tired

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Hahah awesome! You get me :P

posted July 19, 2014 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
Firstly your first letters show that there is hesitation in this relationship - should we be together, should we part ways - should we do that or that etc etc.

There's some blind admiration at times in this relationship. Where one of you can be totally blind to the faults of the other and follow the other which can be a worry if they lose themselves in the relationship.

On the positive side - It also shows that you have a good friendship. And good communication.

You are both intelligent people, and as such your professions are probably to do with education (teacher, instructor etc).

One of you is the flirt whilst the other seeks thrills.
You are both emotional but have difficulties controlling your emotions or have difficulties displaying your emotions.

Both of you have no difficulty cutting ties with friends if you have decided to do so.
One of you cares a lot about what his/her friends think about him/her and dresses appropriately whilst the other could care less about that.

You are both good advisers and one can trust your judgments - one of you is more practical whilst the other more spiritual though.

**** If any of this doesn't resonate then it doesn't apply to you guys, as not everything can apply to everyone...

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Omg. Have you stalked us on Facebook? Hahah I am just joking, this is so eerily accurate. There was a lot of hesitation about our relationship, especially in the beginning, he was getting out of a relationship where he was cheated on, I wanted a clean-cut kind of wholesome guy, whereas he was a troubled artistic soul.

I lose myself quite often in this relationship, but I am working so hard to become more independent and improve as a person. I tend to care way too much what others think, he does not give a ...

I studied to be a teacher and taught for a year, crazy that you mention that. I'm a total flirt, he's a total bad boy who gets into thrilling experiences..I'm super spiritual, the only spirits he knows are whisky hahah

posted July 19, 2014 09:19 PM            

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Originally posted by melodiemelodie:
Hahah awesome! You get me :P

Thank you a million times, you are a doll! As I said I am not much use for readings as I'm super new to astrology but if you need life advice, perspective or anything of the sort I will gladly repay you!

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Thank you!

posted July 19, 2014 09:35 PM            

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Originally posted by melodiemelodie:
Omg. Have you stalked us on Facebook? Hahah I am just joking, this is so eerily accurate. There was a lot of hesitation about our relationship, especially in the beginning, he was getting out of a relationship where he was cheated on, I wanted a clean-cut kind of wholesome guy, whereas he was a troubled artistic soul.

I lose myself quite often in this relationship, but I am working so hard to become more independent and improve as a person. I tend to care way too much what others think, he does not give a ...

I studied to be a teacher and taught for a year, crazy that you mention that. I'm a total flirt, he's a total bad boy who gets into thrilling experiences..I'm super spiritual, the only spirits he knows are whisky hahah

WOW, this is quite accurate! Thank you, if I can repay you in the form of life advice, perspective, discussion, hence even writing, proof-reading or whatever in the meantime while I learn the keys to astrology, please let me know!!! It will be my pleasure!

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I'm glad it resonated! That's alright I don't need an exchange (although if you can send me a normal guy who I'll actually be interested in that would be awesome! lol)

Just be careful with your tendency to lose yourself in a relationship as there was a warning it could lead to issues with food. So just be careful with yourself!

Best of luck with this!

posted July 19, 2014 10:08 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:

Thank you!

I guess the most important question I have for you right now, is that why am I so mean to people I'm emotionally intimate (platonic or sexual) to? Why do I distance myself from them but long for their embrace. Astrologically I know this is my needy Moon in Taurus in the 3rd house conjunct my Nadir but its square Uranus and Uranus squares Nadir too.. really bad. How do I fix this?

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Could it be self-sabotage that has to do with power/control? Perhaps you need to have control over situations in order to feel safe, so by self-sabotaging relationships, being mean, you have the upper hand. A form of surrendering to painful experiences, which is ironic because you may be doing this to avoid painful experiences. "A known devil is better than an unknown angel" if you understand what I mean?

The distancing could also imply seeking a form of thrill or novelty. Creating drama and thriving on it? Maybe you need to feel intense emotions in order for them to feel valid or more real. For example, if you live a drama-filled love relationship perhaps you feel that relationship is more authentic than one the has less ups and downs.

posted July 19, 2014 10:10 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
I'm glad it resonated! That's alright I don't need an exchange (although if you can send me a normal guy who I'll actually be interested in that would be awesome! lol)

Just be careful with your tendency to lose yourself in a relationship as there was a warning it could lead to issues with food. So just be careful with yourself!

Best of luck with this!

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posted July 19, 2014 10:11 PM            

Yes this is true. I act mean to the ones I love to have control over them, it sounds horrible but they have hurt me in painful ways in the past and now I cannot completely surrender myself to them. I feel if I do then they can do whatever they want to me and crush me, as they often do.

The distancing could also imply seeking a form of thrill or novelty. Creating drama and thriving on it? Maybe you need to feel intense emotions in order for them to feel valid or more real. For example, if you live a drama-filled love relationship perhaps you feel that relationship is more authentic than one the has less ups and downs.
Haha that's true. I'm a psycho. >_<

I can go on, but I would need maybe a little more details or questions... Does all what I wrote make sense?

posted July 19, 2014 10:43 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Could it be self-sabotage that has to do with power/control? Perhaps you need to have control over situations in order to feel safe, so by self-sabotaging relationships, being mean, you have the upper hand. A form of surrendering to painful experiences, which is ironic because you may be doing this to avoid painful experiences. "A known devil is better than an unknown angel" if you understand what I mean?

[b]Yes this is true. I act mean to the ones I love to have control over them, it sounds horrible but they have hurt me in painful ways in the past and now I cannot completely surrender myself to them. I feel if I do then they can do whatever they want to me and crush me, as they often do.

The distancing could also imply seeking a form of thrill or novelty. Creating drama and thriving on it? Maybe you need to feel intense emotions in order for them to feel valid or more real. For example, if you live a drama-filled love relationship perhaps you feel that relationship is more authentic than one the has less ups and downs.
Haha that's true. I'm a psycho. >_<

I can go on, but I would need maybe a little more details or questions... Does all what I wrote make sense?

It resonates well, how do I fix this part of me ? Or at least channel it to a USEFUL energy[/B]

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Hmm.. I would recommend allowing yourself to live your anger/resentment in a positive way. Write a letter to those who have hurt you and burn it without ever showing them. (Careful though, nearly set my neighbouring building on fire on a windy autumn evening that way hahaha).

It is terrible that you have been hurt by others, and while we often have little control on how others treat us (to some extent, you can accept or not accept certain behaviours but some circumstances are just beyond our control) we can learn to control our reactions. Perhaps try to actively work on your reactions, identify which reactions are not ideal (being mean in this case), find an alternative reaction (ignoring the person, stopping 10 seconds before you speak to analyze if what you are going to say is hurtful, etc) and absolutely do not give up if you fall back into old patterns. These habits take a while to form.

Finally, I would sprinkle every one of those interactions with love and forgiveness. Try visualizing yourself sending love, your heart opening up (heart chakra) and pouring out a beautiful light you are sending to the person you interact with. Ultimately, though a beautiful concept and idea and while they person may or may not feel it, you will quite possibly feel tons of times better!

And sometimes, if you can't do this, try not to speak to the person if possible to avoid saying something mean. Example; go to the bathroom, for a smoke if you smoke, make a phone call, whatever it is.

Good luck! Let me know if this works for you!!!

posted July 19, 2014 10:47 PM            

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Could it be self-sabotage that has to do with power/control? Perhaps you need to have control over situations in order to feel safe, so by self-sabotaging relationships, being mean, you have the upper hand. A form of surrendering to painful experiences, which is ironic because you may be doing this to avoid painful experiences. "A known devil is better than an unknown angel" if you understand what I mean?

[b]Yes this is true. I act mean to the ones I love to have control over them, it sounds horrible but they have hurt me in painful ways in the past and now I cannot completely surrender myself to them. I feel if I do then they can do whatever they want to me and crush me, as they often do.

The distancing could also imply seeking a form of thrill or novelty. Creating drama and thriving on it? Maybe you need to feel intense emotions in order for them to feel valid or more real. For example, if you live a drama-filled love relationship perhaps you feel that relationship is more authentic than one the has less ups and downs.
Haha that's true. I'm a psycho. >_<

I can go on, but I would need maybe a little more details or questions... Does all what I wrote make sense?

It resonates well, how do I fix this part of me ? Or at least channel it to a USEFUL energy[/B]

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Ah also, you can not surrender completely to people and have some freedom, while not necessarily being mean. I have huge problems with that as I am generally a people's pleaser and a bit of a doormat at times, so learning to be assertive is tough. Ultimately though, in any relationship you deserve to be treated with respect. If you respect yourself others will tend to do so too.