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Topic: @ Cherful or Redshoes
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tgem
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posted July 27, 2014 02:28 PM
  
Hi! I was hoping maybe one of you would be so kind as to give me some guidance. I know you're quite intuitive and hoping you can accurately pick up on my situation because I need advice about something I swore I wouldn't do but I'm having second thoughts. There is a man in my life who is definitely a soulmate...with a very high probability of being my twinflame. We had a good friendship but have been out of contact for over two years. I miss him terribly and told myself a long time ago that I would put the ball in his court and let him contact me again if he wanted to resume anything. However recently I have had indications that maybe I should contact him but I am scared of what will happen. Could you please give me some guidance? His initial is D. Can you feel/see how he might react or if it would be welcome? Is it possible you could feel/validate if he even is my TF?I really would appreciate any help/insight you could give me about him as our journey/relationship has been a painful one. I don't have much to exchange as I don't read tarot but I am learning horary and I'm pretty decent at reading compatibility if you'd be interested. Thank you for your consideration ❤ IP: Logged |
cherful24
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posted July 27, 2014 03:41 PM
Yea def contact him. Warmth and welcoming is what im feeling from him.....at the very second he heard from u....it's more of him being frozen, on edge to see what this call is all about.... so from the very start you needs to be a very pleasant.I can't see a relationship coming out of this. but I do think a healthy friendship IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 27, 2014 03:54 PM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
Yea def contact him. Warmth and welcoming is what im feeling from him.....at the very second he heard from u....it's more of him being frozen, on edge to see what this call is all about.... so from the very start you needs to be a very pleasant.I can't see a relationship coming out of this. but I do think a healthy friendship
Oh thank you so much for this...do you have any insight as to when would be a good time to contact him? IP: Logged |
cherful24
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posted July 27, 2014 10:39 PM
honestly now is a good time to contact him. there is no right or wrong time. He'll want to know how your doing.he'll just be suspicious of why u were contacting him in the beginning so again that's why I suggested you open up right away. but overall I feel a sense of relief from the talk that you too will have so i dont kno if things where closed to where there was no baggage left but I feel things are going to be talked about IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 27, 2014 11:48 PM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
honestly now is a good time to contact him. there is no right or wrong time. He'll want to know how your doing.he'll just be suspicious of why u were contacting him in the beginning so again that's why I suggested you open up right away. but overall I feel a sense of relief from the talk that you too will have so i dont kno if things where closed to where there was no baggage left but I feel things are going to be talked about
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cherful24
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posted July 27, 2014 11:57 PM
.... did you do something to hurt him or he felt rejected? and I don't mean rejected in a sense of a love relationship or just being rejected because you weren't interested in his personality there's something to wear I feel he felt hurt and a little bit to where he disapproves of you a little bit something you did... to where he was not in agreement with you, he did not liked it..... I guess it's more of an act of something you did... does that resonate i feel like he want explanation but also like you needs to be told from you that he's a good guy?? IP: Logged |
cherful24
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posted July 27, 2014 11:59 PM
I think he's going to tell you that he's been waiting for this.... he needed this anything happy that this talk, explanation has occurred. it seems like he felt he lost a good friend ..... I'm not picking up anything like a love interest so I know people say twin flames as a love interest but I'm picking this up with the best friend brother sister really good strong relationship but not loversIP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 28, 2014 04:46 AM
Yes..there was definitely some miscommunication between us and I did hurt him..I had no ill-intentions, but it was just all stemming from mis-communication as I fell for him like i haven't fallen for any other man and got scared he didn't feel the same way. He never told me how he felt about me (just friends or otherwise- I was getting too many mixed signals.)I actually contacted him over a year ago xplaining this to him so it surprises me he still has these feelings as I apologized and gave reasoning for my behavior but I never heard back from him. We had EXTREMELY strong chemistry. I am very nervous to contact him as my feelings for him are still very strong and I'm scared (again) they won't ever be recipricated....either way, yes we had a very good friendship so to say he feels like he lost a good friend is true. However, the pain of losing him period has been quite painful. It makes me sad that your don't see a future between us but it sounds like this needs to happen to put a closure on some unfinished business. Ya know I had to come back and edit this post as I have been thinking about it. The bottom line I think to this is I'm miserable without him in my life...somehow. We had just such a good thing. I've had to ask myself this question numerous times over the past couple of years, "would I be happy with just a friendship? Could I accept that?" I have come to realize I have..if a friendship is all we'll ever have, I'll take that over never having him in my life again. No expectations right? That's what they say TF's are all about and I'm still convinced he is mine.
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redshoes
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posted July 28, 2014 06:58 AM
hi tgemI too have been in a similar position...very strong chemistry with a guy..5yrs seeing each other but there was a lot of issues between us, so i finished it. Three months after i had a yearning to call him...so glad i did, it seemed he had moved on so quickly and slept with other girls only a few weeks after we split (i am still celibate after almost one year) What i would say to you is, be careful with your heart. I know i was meant to contact him and he was honest with me and now i think of him in a very different way..wont say what i feel out of respect, but suffice to say, i do not want him in my life again. If you contact him for the RIGHT reason and not become deluded or have high expectations, i would say do it. I would also be very wary over the *friendship* thing. When we have strong feelings for a man, do we still want to be in his life, to know he is with other women...i know i wouldn't...letting go of the past, is healthier to my mind and  . I was miserable without my ex too, but it was only for a period of time..i know he didn't want the same things as me and i was deluding myself over him....i am now SO RELIEVED!! Good luck and keep us posted (((hugs)))
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tgem
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posted July 28, 2014 07:21 AM
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Originally posted by redshoes:
hi tgemI too have been in a similar position...very strong chemistry with a guy..5yrs seeing each other but there was a lot of issues between us, so i finished it. Three months after i had a yearning to call him...so glad i did, it seemed he had moved on so quickly and slept with other girls only a few weeks after we split (i am still celibate after almost one year) What i would say to you is, be careful with your heart. I know i was meant to contact him and he was honest with me and now i think of him in a very different way..wont say what i feel out of respect, but suffice to say, i do not want him in my life again. If you contact him for the RIGHT reason and not become deluded or have high expectations, i would say do it. I would also be very wary over the *friendship* thing. When we have strong feelings for a man, do we still want to be in his life, to know he is with other women...i know i wouldn't...letting go of the past, is healthier to my mind and . I was miserable without my ex too, but it was only for a period of time..i know he didn't want the same things as me and i was deluding myself over him....i am now SO RELIEVED!! Good luck and keep us posted (((hugs)))
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@ Redshoes - thank you so much for posting and sharing your experience. You have VERY good points. I ended the friendship because my feelings were so strong I felt I could not maintain a platonic friendship..I figured if he wasn't available (which he wasn't...and still technically isn't) it was best for both of us to move on to alleviate any more complications. So I understand about being leery about the "friendship" thing. I want to do the right thing but I don't want to be delusioned either...I'm highly Neptunian and a hopeless romantic. I'm sorry that things didnt work out with your guy but it sounds like it was for the best. Yes, I definitely want someone who wants the same thing as well. Will surely keep you posted...did you get any additional feelings/vibes about "D" that might additionally help me? If not, that's ok IP: Logged |
redshoes
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posted July 28, 2014 07:23 AM
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Originally posted by tgem:
@ Redshoes - thank you so much for posting and sharing your experience. You have VERY good points. I ended the friendship because my feelings were so strong I felt I could not maintain a platonic friendship..I figured if he wasn't available (which he wasn't...and still technically isn't) it was best for both of us to move on to alleviate any more complications. So I understand about being leery about the "friendship" thing. I want to do the right thing but I don't want to be delusioned either...I'm highly Neptunian and a hopeless romantic. I'm sorry that things didnt work out with your guy but it sounds like it was for the best. Yes, I definitely want someone who wants the same thing as well. Will surely keep you posted...did you get any additional feelings/vibes about "D" that might additionally help me? If not, that's ok
Guess what? My ex was *D* too lol...D..for disaster with me haha. I am highly Neptunian too! It took me a long long time to take off the *rosy* tinted specs....so with that energy in ones chart, care is needed! I will do some tuning in later and pull some cards when i have more time xx
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redshoes
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posted July 28, 2014 07:25 AM
What sun signs are you both? IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 28, 2014 07:26 AM
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Originally posted by redshoes:
Guess what? My ex was *D* too lol...D..for disaster with me haha. I will do some tuning in later and pull some cards when i have more time xx
Oh man! That's funny!! Thank you so very very much for taking the time..I know how busy you both are and truly truly appreciate you "tuning" in for me ❤ IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 28, 2014 07:33 AM
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What sun signs are you both?
I'm a Taurus and he's a Cap!! IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 30, 2014 09:39 AM
Bumping for Redshoes ❤❤IP: Logged |
redshoes
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posted July 30, 2014 06:21 PM
Hey i did try tuning in but just got that this guy is very stubborn and private and doesn;t want to open up. Anyway i received a new deck yesterday, so will pull a couple about himHeal
Rebuild
Listen He is taking some time out to heal something in him that was either hurt or broken? He seems to be rebuilding his life and i feel listening to the inner voice and messages that are being given to him. Is this guy quite intuitive i wonder? It seems you aren't meant to know much more at the moment. You could maybe start to say an affirmation to send him some light, if you are able...even saying you let him go with love and light and then see what happens IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted July 30, 2014 07:07 PM
Thank you so very much for this! Yes, I do believe he is intuitive and I do hope he is listening to his heart and the messages he is being given..I really appreciate you pulling for me ❤❤IP: Logged |
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