posted August 12, 2014 10:25 PM            

I'm upset right now about my situation with my dad. I'm mad at him because he's trying to suppress my freedom. I don't like staying in the house because I get bored a lot, so I go out from time to time. But when I go out, I also do important things. I've been looking for a job and attending events that will help me with my future career. I haven't even hung out that much with my friends. I got home really late a few nights ago and he started accusing me of always being out (which is not entirely true) and being unproductive and lazy. He even compared me to other kids, which really pushed my buttons even more. I don't like it when people compare me to other people. I know that everybody is different and it just really made me mad when he said that. The thing is, I have been helping around the house when I'm not out and like I said, trying to get a job. I don't see anything wrong with what I'm doing. I'm not even on drugs like other kids. I only got home late because I had to walk home due to certain circumstances. So I sent him a message saying I want him to go back to our home country and go with his mistress if he wants. I even told him I didn't want him around. I haven't talked to him since that night. Me and him are really close, but right now, I'm just really mad at him. I have other reasons to be mad at him, too. He has a mistress whom he got pregnant. He's so full of pride and he thinks he knows everything. He's still pushing it what a useless kid I am and saying I am ungrateful and all that.

I honestly don't know what's gonna happen to my family. I know my home life is gonna be upsetting this year because of my SR chart. Uranus is in my SR 4th house square Pluto and Venus. I'd really like to know what's possibly gonna happen. Will things change for the better or will things stay the same for the worse?

Willing to exchange with zodiac card reading or horary reading.

posted August 15, 2014 08:15 AM            

He has his issues and trying to take them out on you. He is prodding and you're taking the bait. Into one ear and out the other.

If you haven't had a conversation with him face to face and only with him, then I would urge you to that. Also if you have done that, tell him he's pushing you away by doing this. If may help temporarily.

Oracle card I pulled to lift your spirits:

posted August 15, 2014 10:00 AM            

I am so grateful, that I found LL forum and that there are people who gave me some really important advice/insights/readings so far. Really, thank you so much everyone here!

I have quite complicated relationship with my father. When I was teenager, my parents divorced. I had to stay with him, because I had to take care for household. My mother moved into smaller apartment so there was not so much space for me and my sisters.

At the age of 14 I practically ran our household by myself. I cooked, cleaned, studied, worked so I had enough money to be able to study and to give some money to my sisters too… But nothing and I mean n-o-t-h-i-n-g I ever did was good enough for him. When I did something really great, he didn’t even notice it. Or even worse – he was looking so long until he found one mistake or something to complain about. So yeah… I was (and still do) feeling so unworthy of living…

Today (I am 25) I still live at home, just finished my degree and I look for a job (in our country kids usually move out around my age) and even though people around me (neighborhood, friends, people I work with on projects) give me compliments on daily basis (they say I am smart, beautiful, well-spoken, well-behaved etc.) I am still yearning for my father’s approval, that what I did and do is good. But nowadays I am much more confident in me…

I needed time and I needed someone to explain to me, why my father reacts the way he reacts. My mother explained to me how extremely hard, painful childhood he had, than she explained to me his natal chart, our composite chart… and slowly I started to see why and where we collide.

But it is still so hard and it still hurts when you do everything in your bests to become someone, to get a job, to earn money, you work late in night – and at the end of the day your own father doesn’t appreciate you and even tries to convince you that you are just another lazy, unworthy kid or – what is even worse, at least for me – tries to convince you that every other kid is better than you.

I had huge emotional battles with my father. If I look back (into my diary) I can see how I even had days when I wanted to be death because I felt so unworthy. I even wanted to kill myself once in front of his eyes, when I was 16. But I had faith. Faith saved me so many times. When I was totally emotionally down, when I had no one to talk to… I just started to breathe deeply and then I started to pray for a better day. I mean… I honestly don’t think that I would still be alive today, if I haven’t had faith in God, in something bigger than mankind.

I am no astrologer (trying to learn astrology though) so I cannot give you an ‘astrological answer’ to you question but I can tell you what to/how to handle things do based on my experiences.

Write down, what you want to tell him; how much he hurt you, your feelings and then tell him that. Or just send him a note, if you are not ready to speak with him yet. Teel him, that you love him but that you are so disappointed on how he treats you; he is your father who should support you (at least emotionally if not also financially) and tell him that you are not boxing bag for him so that he can beat you with his harsh words when he has had a bad day. You are there for him if he wants to talk, not to yell. You might even tell him, that you will always love him but you won’t allow him to humiliate you.

And…write diary; write about which his words hurt you the most, what he did that upset you etc. You need to do this so that you don’t keep this inside of you.

Now I know that what I just wrote might sound just like an superficial advice from some magazine, but I have honestly written it based on my experience, based on how I handled the most heart-ripping fights that I had with my dad.

I hope your relationship with your father will be better soon. But mostly I just hope that you will look yourself in a mirror now and that you will see this amazing, extraordinary person in it. Person who will handle anything because she CAN handle anything. Have faith in you and in your better future.

posted August 15, 2014 05:07 PM            

Thank you so much. I know my worth and I didn't let his words get to me. Of course, this thread was posted almost a week now and a lot of things has happened today. I'd say my relationship with my dad has only gotten stronger even though he's leaving.

Again, I really appreciate it I agree with LostSoulRebecca. LL has been nothing but good company for me in times of trouble. I'd love to do a quick reading for you, Mincey.

@tphoenix5
Yes, I am definitely expecting a move. But considering my SR Uranus is square Pluto, the changes happening in my life have a deep profound effect on me. It makes sense, as my dad is moving back to my home country and my mom is applying for single mom status. Really hoping the new place we'll be living in will be great. Thanks.

@LostSoulRebecca
I'm really sorry you had to go through all that with your dad. It must've sucked growing up like that

posted August 16, 2014 08:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
I do write down the things I wanna tell him, but today I told him upfront and it has been great. Thanks so much

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I am so, so happy for you!!!