posted August 21, 2014 02:20 PM            

I have a burning question wandering in my mind... If someone could please try to look into this for me, I'd be so thankful! I will exchange with you aswell, so hopefully I can return the favor.

I'd like to know... Will A. ever contact me again? The last thing he told me was "I haven't given up on you. Just so you know.". This was over a week ago. I responded to him the day afterwards, showing willingness to have an open conversation with him about what was going on, and he just hasn't said anything ever since. This is the longest we have spent without talking to each other and I guess it might be over for him, I don't know... This is all just really confusing for me. I do realize the healthiest thing for me to do is to move on, and I will, eventually... However, the fact that he didn't give me closure feels like a knife on my chest that I just can't ignore. I was hoping he would reach out to me just so I know what's going on his side, regardless of whether we would work things out or not, romantically.

posted August 21, 2014 03:02 PM            

Okay, here's what happened in a bit of a more detailed version... Basically I felt he was being different towards me, so I told him that. He was barely talking to me in recent days (among other stuff that happened) and I just assumed he was done with me, by the way he was acting. I told him he could have been a bit more upfront with me. I was pretty blunt in some of the things I said. He replied days later... Basically he said I had no idea how unfair I was being and he gave a lame excuse for not having talked to me (I just don't buy it). Then, he said he hasn't given up on me. I replied the day afterwards saying that he has been leaving me in the dark and I just can't possibly guess what's going on with him or his life to know the reason why he wasn't contacting me... And I told him I didn't want to force my presence in anyone's life. I also said he was right, I had no idea how unfair I was being because, again, I had no idea what was going on. But I didn't feel I was being totally unfair, to be honest. The last thing I said to him on that day was "But I'm here to listen to you. Am I wrong when I say that you're acting different towards me?". Silence, since then.

posted August 21, 2014 03:58 PM            

I have two questions though, they're deeply related, so it would be better if the same person would do it.
So, I'll see if he'll ever contact you again and have another spread to try to understand what are his issues for keeping a distance, if I have your permission, of course.

My questions are:
1) Why did F (man) stopped contacting me when he was in the US?
2) What happened between F and ELB (woman) back in the US?

My initial is just E.

posted August 21, 2014 04:30 PM            

Will A contact you again?
Page Pentacles Rx - 7 of Pentacles - 4 of Swords

So, the page is clearly showing that lack of communication in the near past. Right now, he might be seriously contacting you again, the 7 of pentacles indicates rewarding from efforts, you've tried hard to make things right and clear with him, so you DO deserve an explanation for what's going on. But, unfortunately, in the near future he'll keep on having this behaviour, being silent and idle. I think he'll need this more than you think though, so give it to him and hopefully in a wider time range he'll come back.

Why is A keeping a distance from you?
4 of Pentacles Rx - Sun Rx - Knight of swords

Surprisingly, it's about work.
He's been spending a lot of time and making huge efforts regarding his career, not so much focused on relationships of any kind. Now bad news are that these efforts are not being successful, and as a result he's having a hard time dealing with it, coming close to a depression state. However, he's not going to quit, and keep fighting fervently for his goals. The bad side of this is that it might turn into an obsession, and keep on neglecting the emotional side of life.

posted August 21, 2014 05:09 PM            

Ok, the first feeling I got is that his life was running miles an hour. Everything was happening very unexpectadly and fast. His mind was going through many different directions... And that applies to his thoughts of you, aswell. I strongly feel he did have a new love interest there... I don't feel he was "in love", per say, but there was certainly someone there that caught his eye and he was interested in getting to know better. I don't know if it's the woman you refer to in question 2), but I'll look into that in a moment. You were still very much present on his mind, but I think he wanted to keep a distance from you at the time to know where that other connection could lead (I'm so sorry, I know this must hurt). For confirmation, I pulled a Goddess Oracle Card - Sulis: Bodies of Water. To me, this clearly shows him wanting to step aside from your connection, taking some time out. I also pulled the 9 of Wands, which leads me to think of his unsureness in making any definite moves that would create an objective outcome... Therefore keeping a distance, but not really explaining why. Making everything very "cloudy" and subtle, so he could easily get in or out of the situations, if he wanted to.

2)What happened between F and ELB (woman) back in the US?

Hum, I don't see them getting to the point of physical involvement. At all. Also, this woman feels to be problematic... She'll make a storm out of anything. F. has a more calming, grounded nature... Not really compatible with hers. Someone was starting to get too attached to the other, probably the woman. I pulled Bast: Independent, along with the Page of Pentacles here... Basically, I believe this confirms that nothing happened between them, besides conversations.

posted August 21, 2014 05:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Leoeve:
Ok, here's what I got:

[b]Will A contact you again?
Page Pentacles Rx - 7 of Pentacles - 4 of Swords

So, the page is clearly showing that lack of communication in the near past. Right now, he might be seriously contacting you again, the 7 of pentacles indicates rewarding from efforts, you've tried hard to make things right and clear with him, so you DO deserve an explanation for what's going on. But, unfortunately, in the near future he'll keep on having this behaviour, being silent and idle. I think he'll need this more than you think though, so give it to him and hopefully in a wider time range he'll come back.
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I hope you're right and he does contact me... It isn't easy to let go when there are so many unresolved issues. I guess he must feel that too, if he really had feelings for me like he said he had (I second guess everything at this point, even his intentions). Yes, I think it's so unconsiderate of him to just leave me in the dark like this after everything that happened between us... I don't understand this attitude. I will say so, if he says something. x

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Originally posted by Leoeve:
[b]Why is A keeping a distance from you?
4 of Pentacles Rx - Sun Rx - Knight of swords

Surprisingly, it's about work.
He's been spending a lot of time and making huge efforts regarding his career, not so much focused on relationships of any kind. Now bad news are that these efforts are not being successful, and as a result he's having a hard time dealing with it, coming close to a depression state. However, he's not going to quit, and keep fighting fervently for his goals. The bad side of this is that it might turn into an obsession, and keep on neglecting the emotional side of life.

I hope this helps Adimi, let me know if you need a clarifier.[/B]

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That could be it, you know... He doesn't really like to share his "work life" with me yet, so it's possible that this may have something to do with that. He has mentioned to me a few times that he didn't really have luck in life (and then said I was the "luckiest" thing that have happened to him in a long time), but he never explained it and said he would only do it when we got to know each other better. So who knows. I'm sorry I can't give you much feedback on this one, but it does fit!

posted August 21, 2014 07:29 PM            

It does resonate, the first question. I knew he had something going on there!
No, it doesn't hurt anymore, I'm over him. I'm just curious, now he's back and he has been very comunicative, I don't know, I thnk he's thinking about reconnecting or something. I was suspicious of that ELB girl because of the photos online. But I don't know what happened there, and I don't want to ask, so I can't give you feesback on that one.

posted August 23, 2014 09:59 AM            

Could you please just see if there's any other female that A. might be interested in at the time being?

posted August 23, 2014 10:29 AM            

Again, about F, right now is there another girl he's giving attention to, or is it just me?

posted August 23, 2014 10:49 AM            

Judgement - Star - 4 wands

This doesn't clearly show another woman in his life, but it does indicate he's reflecting in order to take a decision regarding someone, and I think this might be you. He's weighing all the positive and negative things and when he'll be done he'll probably reflect some more, and the key here is a compromise, whatever it may be, but given the last reading this might mean a compromise between his personal goals and whether he can fit in there a relationship.
GOOD news is, with the star, he will be successful in doing, meaning your relationship has a future ahead, a good one, because the next card, 4 wands, is a marriage! Yes! So, this doesn't necessarily mean you'll be getting married, but that the relationship will have a nice warm feeling, like a married couple would have

posted August 24, 2014 10:33 AM            

Is there another girl F's giving attention to, or is it just me?

posted August 24, 2014 11:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Leoeve:
[b]Is there any other female that A. might be interested in at the time being?

Judgement - Star - 4 wands

This doesn't clearly show another woman in his life, but it does indicate he's reflecting in order to take a decision regarding someone, and I think this might be you. He's weighing all the positive and negative things and when he'll be done he'll probably reflect some more, and the key here is a compromise, whatever it may be, but given the last reading this might mean a compromise between his personal goals and whether he can fit in there a relationship.
GOOD news is, with the star, he will be successful in doing, meaning your relationship has a future ahead, a good one, because the next card, 4 wands, is a marriage! Yes! So, this doesn't necessarily mean you'll be getting married, but that the relationship will have a nice warm feeling, like a married couple would have

Finally, something good I'm so happy![/B]

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That's wonderful! I was afraid that maybe he was developing an interest in another woman or trying to move on from our "thing" by doing that.
I'd be so so happy if we could work things out... Your reading really put a smile on my face! I do see potential with him, but things are so complicated... We'll see!

Also, I have some news. I know I said I wasn't probably going to contact him again if he didn't reach out to me, and I was pretty certain on that, however I got myself thinking and tried to put myself in his shoes... So I sent him what I thought was maybe going to be my last message to him the day after our exchange. I felt I needed to apologize to him... Not exactly for the things I said, but because of how I said them (I was really blunt). I was not sure of how he would feel if I contacted him again, but I did it anyway, just so I could have some sort of closure. I wrote him a few things about how I was feeling but not too much... And that I just wanted to get things clear between us... I did what I could and now I just had to accept this outcome. Finally, I said I enjoyed getting to know him and I hoped he would find someone who would truly make him happy.

Much to my surprise, he replied the day afterwards, so yesterday (you were right! ). He told me how he felt... Basically, he feels that I don't believe he is being serious with me. He said the insecurities pushed him away. Also, he says he's been out of town... He wants to try. I get the feeling that he is afraid that I don't believe in our relationship anymore... Later on, he sent me another message, telling me to answer him as soon as I saw what he wrote, please. I still haven't... I will soon, I just needed this time to think. I need to be careful with my words with him. I don't want to create any more misunderstandings and tension. We need to understand each other and I really want to take my time in explaining my side to him... Hopefully everything will turn out for the best, as you saw in your last reading.