posted October 02, 2014 06:02 PM            

I am new to this forum. I came to this site because I always liked Linda and her writings.

Coming to my request for personal readings, let me tell a bit abt myself. I am an Indian origin settled in abroad since almost a decade. My life until now has been with ups and downs, mostly downs i wud say. I have faced humiliations, felt degraded among my relatives. Hence, I always felt isolated even when so many people were around me. I never had been in a relationship because I am from dysfunctional family (as my parents dont get along, my dad and brother dont get along), I have always seen them quarrelling. I hardly remember the last time I enjoyed my life fully. But, inspite of all these I tried to stay strong, stay happy but I think sometimes I fail to do so and I start feeling low.

This matrimonial alliance actually came a month ago through a relative. I met him twice and spoke a few times on phone. He seems to be very careful and cautious while speaking expresses his interests but the problem is with me I am not able to be open to him, not able to share anything. And he did kind of said that I am speaking very less. I know I am supposed to but since all these years (even now) I had lot of tensions/stress at home and staying abroad I loose connection with all my near ones, I am falling short of words to speak to him.

What my main concern was that will we be happy together? How are we both compatible? I am not scared of adjustments but scared of heartbreaks. I know every marriage has ups and downs but, I wanted to know If I am the one who will be more problematic in this relation. then i will control myself.

What is his personality like, in aspect of mentality, relationship, physical relationship?

his chart: http://imgur.com/aziL4p0
my chart: http://imgur.com/Yafunmu

posted October 02, 2014 09:49 PM            

He has sun/moon/mercury square mars/saturn/pluto

she has mars in capricorn square his saturn/pluto. Scary.

posted October 02, 2014 09:50 PM            

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Originally posted by ifaf:
Welcome, noorie.
I don't do readings and was going to start my own thread when I saw your question.
At a very quick glance, looking at both your placements (without looking at the synastry, as I don't know his birth details and am not good enough to be reliable yet) I think that he may like you more than you like him?
Is it possible that he's a lot more serious about this, too?
It's doesn't seem completely awful though, and again, I don't see the synastry or composite.
I'm more concerned about your well-being than his and I hope you do whatever's best for you.
Here's something you may want to check out, if I understood your situation correctly http://www.fmp-acsa.ca/faq

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Hi Ifaf,

thanks a ton for the first reply and concern. Thanks for the link. Haha. Let me assure u that I am not being forced into this marriage. Let me assure you again that though this marriage is arranged by my parents, I have been given the full authority to say yes or no. After all they want me to be happy after marriage. I had full authorization to evaluate him. And, I did do the evaluation in this one month. I know this may seem short time for you all. But this is how arrange marriages and again we are not getting married until February next year. So we do have time.

posted October 02, 2014 09:59 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
He has sun square mars exact.

He has sun/moon/mercury square mars/saturn/pluto

she has mars in capricorn square his saturn/pluto. Scary.

Her Sun is in Libra activating all this.

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Oh wow. I'll refrain from commenting in the future, until I get used to mentally mapping out the synastry.
I'm glad you got here on time then.
Then again, that's the kind of synastry I've usually had, so it would seem tolerable for me in the beginning..

posted October 02, 2014 10:02 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
The man would be very difficult. He would be very hard on you. I don't see this connection being good and i would avoid it at all costs.

The man has anger problems and being with you would bring them out like crazy!

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Thank you athenegoddess for the reply.

That is interesting. Because all this while I found him as a virtuous person. While speaking to him, I learnt that he has a broad outlook, outgoing, he likes exploring things- he likes travelling and he goes for hiking often. Soft-Spoken.

posted October 02, 2014 10:34 PM            

Could I please add that your knowledge of this guy is very limited, based as it is on a few conversations! Firstly, you are being expected to base life changing decisions on this very limited contact - that is completely unfair and wrong. From the sound of it you haven't been treated well - nurtured and cherished by members of your family.

Secondly, seemingly nice character traits can go hand in hand with 'bad' ones. He may not even be aware of his anger issues, or if he is, he may believe that he can control them. This doesn't have to be a matter of deception. I was married to a broad minded, intelligent, honest guy, who when he got angry, was something else altogether.

You sound as if you may be too adjusting and giving - those qualities would make you tolerate poor behaviour on his part. You would not know how to establish boundaries, to say what is acceptable or not.

posted October 03, 2014 10:58 AM            

I thank everyone who have contributed to my query. Appreciate it.

posted October 03, 2014 03:40 PM            

You mentioned the part about travel in your conversation with this man. His natal Jupiter sits in your 9th house conjunct some of your planets including your Moon and Mercury lending to emotional fulfillment through travel and broadening your horizons, which is what makes it hard for you, since you feel his other energy, too--the cautious side--Cap in his 7th house. As Caps get older, they actually get younger (most of them) in attitude. Also, since you are asking us about him, doesn't that make you cautious, too? The Mars square Pluto aspect (can be explosive) you both share would be felt if you couldn't talk about difficulties that would arise in your relationship. Instead of doing all the listening next time, try asking him some hard questions and if he gets huffy with you, then you'll really know where you stand. He is here to learn about relationships and dealing with others and interestingly your chart seems to be a teacher of that.

posted October 04, 2014 02:18 AM            

HI Spring.

That is interesting to know. And, will surely ask him some hard questions next time when I meet him and see his reactions. I do have some in my mind.