posted January 29, 2015 02:40 AM            

If a person tell you they want you to hang around despite you telling them you want them to step up: CUT IT OFF. It's not healthy for your mental state to be put in a limbo for god-knows-how-long, and it's unfair for him to tell you to wait when his actions do not meet his words.

I know some people around me who have been in a state of limbo for over a year, and it's eating at them, night and day. They are unable to cut through anything and it causes so much mental anguish which I can feel just by talking to them. It's the worst feeling not to be certain about this.

At this point, it usually comes down to respect and taking a stance. Are you willing to respect your sanity enough to make this tough decision? Will the pros outweigh the cons in your case? I am not familiar with your situation, but something is telling me you know the answers to the questions.

If you choose to cut it off, remove all his contact details. ALL of them. It will hurt for a while, but then it will lead you to a better mindset and will force you to set standards when it comes to flakey men.

Men usually have many different excuses when they act in an unreliable way- usually that 1) they have too much going on, 2) they don't want a relationship and just want someone to have sex with, 3) they are depressed and are looking for people to talk to in order to vent, 4) he's just not ready to commit to that specific person. In all 4 scenarios, it's almost as if the person will use the other are a crutch without giving anything in return.