posted March 03, 2015 01:29 PM            

My friend farah has not contacted me back in a few days. She goes through bouts of depression and I dunno if this is what it is or what. Her birthday was a few days ago, I said happy bday...and she's like l woke up to a message from my bank tell me I have insufficient funds, is what my life is like.

So I kept talking o her and then she said she's going over to a friends house for a birthday dinner.and I texted her a couple of times since then but I haven't heard from her. And this is normal that she does this stuff. I'm dating someone and she's one of those people that will try to when your joy because she doesn't have any. So I don't know if that's why she's not responding. Its like misery loves company but I refuse to be in her company when I'm in a good place in some she notice that....idk. maybe she was badmouthing me to her friend and her friend was like just forget about her, because I feel she bad mouth me anyways. Ok so sorry that's so long but even though its normal for her to withdraw....I feel something a little bit different about it this time so can you pick up anything

posted March 03, 2015 01:49 PM            

also
what might you see in this month or what do you pick up next for us?

Thank you

posted March 03, 2015 01:57 PM            

I don't see much change for you two. there's reservations and hesitations into jumping into this. I will look at it more as if you are gaining a good confidant almost like a best friend I say this because if its going to turn into a relationship its going to be a while. Now I don't know if either of you have cheated in the past because I don't understand what this reservation is into getting into a relationship but it seems like a lot of trust and comfortability needs to be established... And didn't you to date in the past? So again if you really want this don't get discouraged with the amount of time that's going to lapse...so for now it's just talking and texting. I'm not sure about a meetup its like I can almost feel it and see it and its plan so its not you to running into each other, but maybe that's more like a month or so passed. It's definitely not right now. Have you talked to him about getting back together? Do you know if that's something he's willing to think about? Because at some point the flirting and the talking needs to stop and action needs to happen and I mean actually love you too getting coffee going to lunch going to dinner, dating.

how much time are you going to give him to either be fully in or fully out... Is something that you're going to have to think about

QUOTE]Originally posted by intuitivefish:
my Q is - what are As feelings/ thoughts after our little chatting yesterday?
( it was flirty and I opened up a bit )

also
what might you see in this month or what do you pick up next for us?

Thank you

I'll be back with yours[/QUOTE]

posted March 03, 2015 02:01 PM            

For your friend -

Actually to be honest I skimmed through what you wrote, I didnnt want too much of your opinion get in the way of what may come to me but I understood what you wrote.

I feel like all she wants is everyone to keep asking her how she is and to keep giving her attention and she feels like a baby to me, just screaming and kicking for attention. So I do also feel half of what is going on is her acting and its not as bad as it seems. She knows she will get the attention she needs as to feel better about her self. I do feel that she is sad but its more to do with things like you dating and she is not, you having fun and she is not.
So she is now being sulky and trying to make herself seem more depressed as she is. I do feel she is sad and yes she does seem genuine when she says her life isnt great. Its not true, but again, she cannot depend on others to keep making it better for her.
I also feel that she expects you to rescue her and when you dont she goes deeper into hiding. I feel she took it personal on her that you are dating almost like you did it to hurt her, thats how she sees it. I do feel she needs a good talk and to know you love and support her but also cannot be used to make herself feel better all the time. your energy is not to be wasted

On Ian -

posted March 03, 2015 02:05 PM            

well the hesitation comes I think from 2 things, our past together and him dating right now. Yes we need to build up on everything to even consider going into anything although I dont think the girl he is dating is so much "in the way" more as he himself is in the way.

And yes he is very slow and takes things slow.

No we have not talked about dating, only right now has the communication become better, so it got from none, to once a month, to 2 times a month to now every other day.
SO there has been movement and for him I think its big, for me too.

posted March 03, 2015 02:13 PM            

yeah I would say that you nailed her. I used to say I can't stop living my life just because she refuses to get one. But I've learned I can't share many things with her such as n cooking for me and stuff like that. But it can't keep rescuing her she's gotta help herself. But yeah I know she wants me to but I just can't live like that anymore.