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posted March 04, 2015 05:54 PM            

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I can literally feel my heart doing a 360, I'm trying so hard to stay strong and focus on getting on with my everyday life but I seem to keep breaking down, I feel so lost without him, it's been 4 days since we last talked, when he cut me off its been 5 years since we went this long without talking to each other, I just feel like a huge part of me is missing, my best friend is gone and I just can't seem to get it together I miss him way too much.. his birthday is in 3 days too, I can't even wish him

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posted March 04, 2015 06:36 PM            

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Hello
Just giving you some friendly advice..we have all been through what you are going through...I know what ever I tell you u will probably brush it off because that's what I did when I was in your situation...the truth is you will feel like **** for a long while...but you have a choice. You can either find your true self without this man or u can stay lost without him, you are giving him so much power and to be honest that is why relationships crumble...men like for a woman to be independent and confident and not to be so clingy..the one mistake u made was to make him your everything and now you feel like nothing because he left...don't give him that power...cut the cord let him sail off to where ever he wants to go and you swim back to shore and find yourself again, hang out with your friends and family, go shopping, get a massage, try to take a trip if u can...you will only make yourself go triple crazy worrying wondering and waiting, people that truly love you don't leave...please remember that, they stay...

Also I recommend you visit Baggagereclaim.com. That site helped me so much when I was in the lowest circle of hell...
It will get better...it may get worse before it does but I promise it will. You just have to tell yourself that you are going to feel this pain for a while and that you must ride it out, unfortunately, it's one of the hard pains in life we have to endure. remember you are worth it to try and move on from this, he doesn't make not break you its you who does that. Also please do yourself the biggest favor and don't worry about whether or not he will come back...that is still giving him power and I truly believe he will feel the energy you put off...you will honestly make it easier for him to make his way back to you if you clear your energy and start being positive...TRUST ME! If he does come back the door is open for you and him to work it out...if he doesn't than its truly his loss
God bless
Vicki

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posted March 04, 2015 07:12 PM            

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I can feel your pain as I am going thru the same thing except it's been a month since we have really talked minus a few texts here and there. Then I found out last week I was pregnant and of course it's his and he now unfriended me on facebook and deleted my number out of his phone and is not talking to me at all and in fact made some nasty accusations today.

You need to focus on you. Like my mom says, fake it till you make it. Take it an hour at a time and try to think happy positive thoughts as they will eventually become the only thoughts you have over time. You can do this and will come out a stronger person! Remember....it could always be worse!

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posted March 04, 2015 07:48 PM            

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@Vivi, you're absolutely right, when he saw that I was starting to become dependent he thought it was a turn off and he would try to push me away as he was going through his own problems with his health - stress related, we just kept bumping heads and I feel if I was more independent and showed him I can do it without him we would have fought less but I had a health problem come up too which made me cling onto him, both of us hit a tough patch in our seperate lives health wise at the same time. I think its painful because he was the first guy I fell in love with, I wanted it to be him =/ when i'm busy i'm fine but when i'm home those depressing thoughts creep in, which overwhelm me and keep me from doing what needs to be done, it really is a painful process.. I wish someone can just read into the future and see if him and I are meant to reconnect again, so if not i'll just truly drop thinking about him so highly

@dustib thank you, the same goes for you he must be immature if he's making nasty accusations after you telling him you're pregnant, it must be a defense mechanism as he is probably not ready to take on with that commitment, if life was only easier for us women.. be strong it's easier said than done but we just have to work at it.

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