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intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 12:54 PM
  
aaaa I hope you are here??Please I need to ask something  I will exchange ofcourse.
hmm did he lie about things he said?
what is he feeling about the whole thing? how does he feel about me saying " well call her then " was that reaction good, me standing up for myself like that? IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 06, 2015 01:17 PM
I can do these in an hour or so, if you want to delete the conversation but leave your questions you can, I got the jist of it. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 01:18 PM
thank you I will edit out, I thought its good so you know what the cards/intuition might be pointing toIP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 02:36 PM
Hanna a lot has happend still, I even wrote out I wrote : " I would like it better that you were more gentle with me, its not about what you say but how you said it. I do care to have a good relationship with you. When you are like this, I think that you dont care. Be nicer to me, I admit, my reaction wasnt good but it comes from the way you aproached me. I know you mean well. You are a good man so be good to me"afterwards.. so maybe basically I wanna ask, what is going on in his head right now? what the h**** is happening ? I am confused beyond confused
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hannaramaa
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posted March 06, 2015 03:26 PM
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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
hmm did he lie about things he said?what is he feeling about the whole thing? how does he feel about me saying " well call her then " was that reaction good, me standing up for myself like that?
Did he lie? 3 of Swords - unfortunately this is a flat out yes, at the very least it shows a negative energy surrounding what he said, and such is a burden on his conscience.
What is he feeling about this whole thing? 5 of Cups - I think he is going through something right now and he doesn't care to do the right thing. The vibe I get is almost like he's blocking out words he knows to be true / doesn't want to hear it and is focusing on whatever is going wrong. To him, everything is going wrong in his life so he feels a lack of empathy. His feelings about what you said - 8 of Wands - I believe from this picture (a man on a balcony waiting for his messenger hawk with a gloved arm outstretched) it seems he thought "Ok, I will" but I also feel it means it made him mad too or he felt like arguing. The reaction - Knight of Swords / 4 of Wands - the reaction seemed to affect you more than it did him. I say that because what I'm feeling from these cards is that it was a growing moment for you where you were honest and finally felt like you won the argument or gained more power over him (not power, but control maybe? I don't mean it negatively like you want to run his life but that he would take you more seriously) My question is about A - I suggested we meet today and I feel like he is being distant because of it. I'm wondering if that's the case, and if you can tell me if he will like me physically when / if we meet. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 06, 2015 03:37 PM
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so maybe basically I wanna ask, what is going on in his head right now? what the h**** is happening ? I am confused beyond confused
It seems like a game because he still wants you to be invested in him but he is slow to invest himself. Eventually I do see him softening up to you but not for what looks like a long time due to the Pentacles cards. He needs to feel comfortable again and like there's no animosity or tension or pressure. He seems like he just has to go at his own pace. Something else I'm picking up is he is making ou wait for this sort of like a price you have to pay for messing things up (even if he messed it up, it's easier for him to blame you than accept responsibility and be done with it...)
2 of Pentacles Knight of Pentacles Page of Cups Make sense at all? IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 03:38 PM
Thank you Hanna I resonate a lot with your words, I like to ask you a lot of the times because its more realistic and it gives me a straight point of view. crazy day!! He will like you phisically yes, I get how he had less expecations about you phisically so when he sees you, it will be better than he thought, did you send him a pic? I feel like he would think you look much prettier in person than pic, pic hasnt done you justice. this is the general feeling I get about this. and about you inviting him, no I am not getting him being distant in a way that he doesnt want to see you but more, that he was a bit surprised you suggested it, too the initiative. It feels like its good you did but it threw him off a bit? not negative but more ummm "wow she did that, impresive" I feel like he is collecting his thoughts and taking longer to reply or show what he thinks/feels over this IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 03:40 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
It seems like a game because he still wants you to be invested in him but he is slow to invest himself. Eventually I do see him softening up to you but not for what looks like a long time due to the Pentacles cards. He needs to feel comfortable again and like there's no animosity or tension or pressure. He seems like he just has to go at his own pace. Something else I'm picking up is he is making ou wait for this sort of like a price you have to pay for messing things up (even if he messed it up, it's easier for him to blame you than accept responsibility and be done with it...) 2 of Pentacles Knight of Pentacles Page of Cups Make sense at all?
yes thank you, it does. when you said price I have to pay it rang true to me.
I dont even feel it be mean from him, but more the ball needing to be in his court and this is his way. I am understanding you. I do kind of think our little arguments sort of do bring us closer in some way, do they?
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hannaramaa
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posted March 06, 2015 03:42 PM
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Thank you Hanna I resonate a lot with your words, I like to ask you a lot of the times because its more realistic and it gives me a straight point of view. crazy day!! He will like you phisically yes, I get how he had less expecations about you phisically so when he sees you, it will be better than he thought, did you send him a pic? I feel like he would think you look much prettier in person than pic, pic hasnt done you justice. this is the general feeling I get about this. and about you inviting him, no I am not getting him being distant in a way that he doesnt want to see you but more, that he was a bit surprised you suggested it, too the initiative. It feels like its good you did but it threw him off a bit? not negative but more ummm "wow she did that, impresive" I feel like he is collecting his thoughts and taking longer to reply or show what he thinks/feels over this
Oh that's no problem Intuitive I know what it's like to just be so deep in a situation that it's hard to be objective about it and I don't mind helping you at all. He knows what I look like from pictures and stuff but I always worry that as a bigger girl I'm going to look thinner in pictures than in person. He's a bigger guy himself and I wonder if I'll be attracted to him in person. We've had such sweet long conversations this whole week that it was sort of surprising he went quiet the day I asked him to hang out. He did say today, however, that he fell asleep and the whole week has been hard on him (he has a lot going on with family stuff) and did that out of his own volition so I'm trying to stay positive because I think I'm just overthinking and worrying for nothing. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 06, 2015 03:45 PM
I am honestly not picking up any negativeness, I feel a good time when you do meet up so yes I do get it will happen, maybe not on exact day/time you said. But I do see it happening. So yes keep up the positive thinking IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 07, 2015 11:37 AM
You were right Intuitive! We met last night. But....it was a total flop for me. Things happened and I'm afraid he thinks I'm into him. I appreciate him as a friend but nothing more, can you see how he will take me letting him down? Will it be dramatic or just kind of go away?IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 07, 2015 12:24 PM
So I guess you didnt like him.. but doesnt matter.
Sorry I was wrong on how it went.I dont get drama, but I do get him trying to figure out why and whats the reason, he might ask you some questions or it might just be in his head, I am not sure.
As of now no I dont feel him be dramatic but yes being upset wanting to see if its him, whats the reason, could he talk to you normaly. He might try and pretend he is ok with it just to stay in touch and stay a "friend", but it would be better if you dont stay a friend friend with him, I get it could upset him and give him false hope. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 07, 2015 12:34 PM
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So I guess you didnt like him.. but doesnt matter.
Sorry I was wrong on how it went.I dont get drama, but I do get him trying to figure out why and whats the reason, he might ask you some questions or it might just be in his head, I am not sure.
As of now no I dont feel him be dramatic but yes being upset wanting to see if its him, whats the reason, could he talk to you normaly. He might try and pretend he is ok with it just to stay in touch and stay a "friend", but it would be better if you dont stay a friend friend with him, I get it could upset him and give him false hope.
That's okay! He seems to get attached really easy and sigh...ugh this is a predicament. I kind of did what all the other girls he described did to him, but I can't tell if that's something that's completely my fault or not. Yes, I could see not being able to be friends hence the easy attachment. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 07, 2015 12:38 PM
Its not you at all, he has a very needy and sorry to say this unlikable energy. He is not confident, doesnt like himself so other dont like him.
Its a reflection of how he sees himself, not anything on your end.
Try and keep contact to minimun and dont initiate, this might help him go away.Its not your karma to make this man love himself, thats on him and him only. have no regrets or bad thoughts about your energy, he actually brings it to himself with the way he thinks and how he thinks he doesnt deserve better. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 07, 2015 12:45 PM
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Its not you at all, he has a very needy and sorry to say this unlikable energy. He is not confident, doesnt like himself so other dont like him.
Its a reflection of how he sees himself, not anything on your end.
Try and keep contact to minimun and dont initiate, this might help him go away.Its not your karma to make this man love himself, thats on him and him only. have no regrets or bad thoughts about your energy, he actually brings it to himself with the way he thinks and how he thinks he doesnt deserve better.
He is very needy! Yes! I think I could have abstained, but nevertheless. Thank you for the comforting words. I just know what it's like to want to fill that void in yourself so I feel guilty I participated. But we all have to learn in our own way I guess. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 09, 2015 01:07 PM
Hey IF! Just wanted to give you feedback. I was honest with A and told him I didn't feel the same way. He actually responded better than I thought (even though I worry about his self-esteem since before this incident he had told me it was low. Makes me sad  ) he was disappointed but said he understood and that he thought I was a really awesome person and that we should keep in touch. He even remarked how at least we'd been incredibly honest with one another from the get go. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 09, 2015 01:12 PM
Hi Hanna. I am glad it went well, sure it might be a bit sad but you did a good thing and you can be proud of yourself Now you can let the worry go from your life IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 09, 2015 01:17 PM
You would think, but a part of me wonders if I was too hasty and what if I was being shallow? Do you sense what he is feeling about me at all? Or what is to come in my love life next? Leave me yours IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 09, 2015 01:28 PM
I dont see you as being shallow, the "it" factor wasnt there, I dont see why you would need to force yourself just to spare someones feelings, this isnt elemenatry school, you are adults.I see him try and be your friend but also here and there trying to get another date out of you which will get you to withdraw and I advise not to give in. I dont get such a good feelings on this guy, he is starting to feel overly needy in relationships, its not what you want or look for in a guy.
He likes you but I dont feel such an atachment actually, it feels more like infatuation, passing too, it will pass, he will fall for someone else soon. I see you "searching" a bit for right now, going on dates, maybe even dating 1 guy for longer but I am not picking up someone steady now, maybe its just the energy now, but I see you more as dating right now, not feeling the connection with anyone to take it deeper, more on the casual side. But later in a few months I see someone will catch your attention for longer. If you could check As energy now? in general or towards me? thank you IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 09, 2015 01:38 PM
Infatuation sounds very accurate. He was making comments like we were going to be in something long-term already before he even met me! Based on what he's told me about his life he prefers to keep to himself because he's lost so many people (both alive and dead). But it seems instead of those experiences maturing him they've just had a different affect. I have an odd fascination with him, like I just can't make sense of him, but not an attraction. You are right on all counts. YES I even decided I was into casual dating at the moment and not really looking for a deep soul connection, but I do love those. I hope I will go on more dates as the months go by. A's energy - King of Swords 4 of Swords 6 of Cups It seems he is very guarded at the moment. He is in thinking mode and seems to be taking a break from interacting with anybody. It almost seems like he is mad and waiting to strike but will not do so impulsively. He is nostalgic at the moment and seems to be resting indoors. Whatever relationship he is in with that girl he is not happy in it. He doesn't feel anything because of it / is not growing from it. It's almost like he is just very numb right now. IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 09, 2015 01:42 PM
Thank you Hanna I thought so too, he seemed withdrawn to me to me.
Him being mad, is that at me? *fingers crossed he is not * I do hope you go on more dates and have fun, it will give you good (and bad) experinces you will need to go through as some lesson in your life. it will make you more confident also and you will better know what you want and dont want from men and out of life. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 09, 2015 01:45 PM
No I didn't feel it waswith you. I think he is just unhappy with himself and his decisions up to this point. If anything you probably made him face that, which he needed to.IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 09, 2015 01:46 PM
ahh, makes sense.
Its good, he needed that. thanks if you need to ask more, go ahead IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 09, 2015 01:52 PM
Just 1... how will m feel about him and I if he finds out I was involved with someone?IP: Logged |
intuitivefish
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posted March 09, 2015 01:57 PM
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Just 1... how will m feel about him and I if he finds out I was involved with someone?
First I got outbirst of jealousy, then I got him hiding he is even bothered by it. It feels like he would be very bothered. I get that he would maybe try and push you away or even start an argument.
I got he might make fun of you, I dont know why. It felt his reactions would be all over the place. Mad and jealous then get cold and pull away.
Then I see him calm down but after you talk to him.
This is all hypothetical, so this is what I get right now ofcourse, it can change. He wouldnt be pleased but might pretend he is and then go pull some jealous stunts. Jelousy is all over this. IP: Logged |
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