posted May 17, 2015 03:27 PM            

Hmm...what are S's intentions with me, going forward?

posted May 18, 2015 02:31 PM            

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Originally posted by joandreamer:
I'm sorry for the late reply

As I was reading over your question I immediately began sensing a tired energy. Have you two experience a rough patch? I feel that S would like to move on from any disappointments in the relationship and start over.
I get very warm feelings from him in regards to you He cares about you very much, and finds you to be sweet/kind hearted. His intentions with you are to keep the peace, he doesn't want there to be any falling outs. He feels he needs to take things slow and not move so fast though. I am a little confused with his energy, on one hand, he wants to see where things go and how they end up. He wants the relationship to move naturally, he appreciates you and finds not only you, but your relationship with each other delicate. He does not want to ruin anything, yet at the same time, he wants to make sure that the two of you are safe and stable together. I hope I'm explaining it right because he wants you in his life for sure. I keep feeling such protective energy over you. I am feeling that he just wants to give you a hug, hold you, and tell you that everything is alright. S hopes for a stability in his life, he has had his share of rough times, and I think he is having much on his plate right now. He feels a bit stressed and tired. I think the tired feeling I was picking up on is him. You know when people are so tired but they stay up late talking to each other all night anyway? I feel this with you and him. That he may be tired and completely burnt out, but at the end of the day, jus talking to you and looking at you makes him feel at peace. He doesn't want there to be arguments and he doesn't want there to be sadness, he wants there to be peace, and love. His intentions are to bring the two of you back to harmony and feeling safe with each other. Does this make sense? I am sorry again for being late

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Second...wow... Yes, we've had a rough patch lately. Really rough. Huge argument that spun WAAAYYY out of control way too quickly, and we've only spoken minimally since - good things, but minimally. The scariest relationship I've ever had, by far, but I love him. So yes, this resonates enormously, and it touches and encourages me. Thank you so much for the time and reflection you very clearly put into it.

posted May 18, 2015 03:29 PM            

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Originally posted by joandreamer:
I felt such a kind, warm, energy in regards to him and his feelings for you.
I believe everything will work out. Continue to have faith

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It's funny you say this as he's a Virgo so, by nature, not quite accustomed to such 'feelings' (they're HUGE thinkers, those Virgos - very "rational" and "logical" ) but a Scorp ASC, so he 'gets' them from others, just not necessarily himself . I think they scare the hell out of him sometimes. I'm a Virgo ASC, so I get it completely, but a Taurus by sun sign, so the thought v. feeling rationale sort of balances out (I think :/)

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Do you think you could see how my next serious romantic relationship will be like?
My last one was pretty terrible so I'm hoping I could get it right next time around

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Okay, with the previous relationship, I feel some psychological abuse. inside you, it hurts really badly; from the outside, it makes me angry at him for you. It feels like things were 'visited upon' you which you didn't deserve, didn't earn, but which you began to believe about yourself. The residuals from this are thick. You need time to heal, and it will take a while. I can feel your energy and you are so very much more than what he made you begin to believe. Please don't doubt that.

You have a lot of healing to do. I think there will be missteps, days and nights of weakness, but I also feel like you'll ultimately take the time you need. You'll first figure out, then begin to draw the boundaries which are fair, reasonable and necessary for a healthy relationship to come into your life. So yes it will.

But there will be trial and error (though I don't see or sense any as bad as what you've just come out of). Just be patient and RESPECTFUL of yourself. Trust your intuition - it's incredibly acute, and if it tells you something's not right, it AIN'T.

Because you have so much healing to do right now, I'm not being shown what your next serious relationship will be like, only that it IS out there, and will be worth the steps you take to make yourself whole and healthy (and the person you were meant to be before this hiccup) again.

posted May 18, 2015 04:17 PM            

I agree that I have a lot of healing to do. I have a lot of good things to look forward to as well in the upcoming weeks, so I am trying to focus on positivity.

I have no contact with him and there is no way for him to get back into contact with me.
The ties have been cut.

You are right that I have a lot of healing to do and to focus on myself. I don't see myself in a new relationship any time soon, if I am being honest. I just wanted a glimpse
of what my next love will be like, but I should let myself be surprised
Life is more fun this way, right? All I know is-- I am not ready for a new romance.
I want to focus on bettering myself and my quality of life.