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Topic: Wang to send my ex J a friends request on Facebook but not sure
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LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 02:38 PM
  
Hey guys so I want to send my ex J a friends request on Facebook but I'm not sire if he is in a relationship or not and I don't want to if he is in one because I believe it wouldn't be right because I am his ex and I don't want to cause any problems. IP: Logged |
MillyX
Knowflake Posts: 1433
From: canada
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 06, 2015 02:45 PM
Hi libra! I pulled one card for you and got 5 of cups. I think if you do, it will lead to heart ache and disappointment. Exes are a touchy subject combine that with social media. I think it's best to walk away. Good luck!IP: Logged |
venuscorpio86
Knowflake Posts: 3603
From: salem,or usa
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 06, 2015 02:50 PM
Hi millyx!Sorry to intrude on this thread but thank you for the reading! Would you be interested in more? IP: Logged |
MineAgain
Knowflake Posts: 1629
From: Dreaming of you
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted July 06, 2015 02:58 PM
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Originally posted by LibraGirl92:
Hey guys so I want to send my ex J a friends request on Facebook but I'm not sire if he is in a relationship or not and I don't want to if he is in one because I believe it wouldn't be right because I am his ex and I don't want to cause any problems.
This most definitely isn't my business but I think you should contact him to get closure. I'm not sure what happened between the two of you, but you seem stuck on him and the only way to heal this is to get closure. Be prepared to the fact that he may not reply to your invite or that he might even block you. It could be he's dating someone. I think you should go into it in a neutral light. If you contact him hoping to rekindle, you might end up hurt yet again which isn't your goal, obviously. I would advise you to contact him but be careful because you seem pretty hung up on him. What do you have to lose? Nothing. IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 04:08 PM
Honestly it was wrong for me what I did to him and want to apologize I know that I am probably very hated by him for what happened the last contact we had two years ago but even if i want closure from our breakup five years ago it probably won't happen and I don't want to be part of his life if he is with someone because to me that would look bad on my part because if I was his girlfriend I would be like what is your ex doing contacting you? And I know that's just going to cause problems and I'm not that type of person. So maybe it is best just to leave it alone and if he wants to contact me then I'll go from there if he don't then there is more to life than him. IP: Logged |
Orange
Knowflake Posts: 2369
From: Georgia
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 06, 2015 04:17 PM
Tr Venus is going to turn retrograde soon, at the end of July. So, you'll contact him, or he you, that's for sure. IP: Logged |
dustib
Knowflake Posts: 887
From: USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted July 06, 2015 04:36 PM
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Originally posted by LibraGirl92:
Honestly it was wrong for me what I did to him and want to apologize I know that I am probably very hated by him for what happened the last contact we had two years ago but even if i want closure from our breakup five years ago it probably won't happen and I don't want to be part of his life if he is with someone because to me that would look bad on my part because if I was his girlfriend I would be like what is your ex doing contacting you? And I know that's just going to cause problems and I'm not that type of person. So maybe it is best just to leave it alone and if he wants to contact me then I'll go from there if he don't then there is more to life than him.
Sometimes we aren't meant to get closure. I have had to accept this with my ex fiancee and can tell you, contacting him made me drag out the walking away and moving on for a long time. If he wanted to contact you, he would have over the last 2 years. I think you need to let it go and work on yourself. You need to forgive yourself IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 04:47 PM
Two years ago I almost broke up with the guy I was with at the time to get back together but I chose not to and my cousins boyfriend left him a voicemail threatening him and I think that he thought it was the guy I was with and I felt so bad about that and I never told my cousins boyfriend to do that IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted July 06, 2015 05:25 PM
I think you should only apologize if he apologizes for how abusive he was to you. I feel you owe him nothing. Didn't you say he was abusive to you verbally? Why do you feel you owe him an apology then? I would walk away and not want this person in my life. IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 05:50 PM
I am a forgiving person we were both 16/17 at the time. To me he was a good person besides of the problems. To others I sound crazy for saying that but if I look past that I wouldn't mind having him in my life whether be a friend lover or whatever. I was thinking about wishing him a happy birthday next month to be nice because that's the type of person I am a really nice person.IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
Knowflake Posts: 2106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted July 06, 2015 07:10 PM
I think you are a nice person! I think if you want to wish him a happy birthday as a way to test the waters then you should. If he responds positively and you begin to talk then the fb request can come later. IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 07:35 PM
Thats my intention and if he responds negatively then it was worth a try and I won't bother with him anymore.
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LilithEarthAngel
Newflake Posts: 7
From: United Kingdom
Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 10:09 PM
Well you are taking a risk there. And to be honest it's entirely your own decision.I broke up with my ex who I was with for a year and a half, 4 months ago. I cut him out of my life completely, sounds awful but I knew it was the only way for us to both move on from what had become sour, some times you've gotta be cruel to be kind and I'm no angel. I messaged him the other night, saying that I had missed him a lot, and yeah I wish I could go back and make things better of course I do, I'm sorry that I couldn't, and I hope he is in a better place now. I wasn't expecting a reply and I was being totally genuine and weather he is seeing some one now or not, I knew I had to say that because over time I would have probably regret not saying some thing with how things ended.
Also I had to say because in the tragic end I loved his soul. I am not attached to him in any way now and so I felt with out that attachment I was able to truly express myself. LibraGirl, the question is where is your attachment coming from? what do you really need to let go of? Is this really about him, or you? Think about it babe, the truth is in the end we only return to the self, it's important to protect yourself at all costs, especially from unnecessary bull **** . Personally I like to leave my past in the past so I can concentrate the real **** right in front of me that I have to face everyday. Be the strong beautiful woman that you are and let your intuition guide you. x IP: Logged |
LibraGirl92
Knowflake Posts: 344
From: IL
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted July 06, 2015 10:34 PM
He was my first love the first person i truly loved after we ended I felt like I lost part of myself. This may sound stupid and cheesy but I felt he was my soulmate because just being around him I felt more alive but I learned you have many of those but I feel though I live in the past way too much and just need to focus on here and now and the future IP: Logged |
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