posted July 15, 2015 10:14 PM            

I am also still upset over my break up (happened on May), our relationship was very close to 4 years. We were so close, we do things together all the time, we talk about everything under the sun. But one day.. everything is gone. I am also wondering how can 2 parties who love each other so much leave other in the first place?

1 Aug will be our 4th year, so I am feeling very upset that we have not spoken to each other ever since the break up. But welllllll HAVE FAITH!! Things happen for a reason!

posted July 16, 2015 02:50 AM            

Besides, you didn't ask about your ex every day (which makes me cringe when I see posters doing this), so I wouldn't go so far as saying you have a reading addiction or that you are selfish. Sometimes people need encouragement and help, and there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of your resources.

posted July 16, 2015 03:09 AM            

If you really want to be friends with him (sorry not sure about your situation!), maybe you can ask how you and your ex can reconnect again.. BUTTT.. it might be risky for your emotions though >.<

Instead of asking the same questions, maybe you can ask different types of questions

If you have already asked if you and your ex will get back together, maybe the next question to ask is, how you guys can reconnect again, as friends or yknow, friendly terms.

posted July 16, 2015 07:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Debby4:
Yes, it can be annoying when someone ask the same question over and over but they can! Like the people before me have said the reader doesn't have to answer them. To each their own. Wish you all the best.

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No to your last phrase. The idea is not to submit the reader and this entire community to this exercise in the first place. Not to force the reader to tell it in your face. We are not children anymore to be told by someone "get a grip on your obsession, have some respect for yourself and for us!" As an adult, you don't wait for someone else to admonish you and until then, you push and push and push! Everyone is responsible for their own input to the public!

People who constantly offer huge free readings threads here such as BellaFenice, Vesta, Vivi, SereneDaze, DaniPepper, and I am just taking the names I see on the first page here, and myself, do it for learning, for interacting with people, for helping, but also for RELAXATION. Not for fighting with others or for teaching minimal manners, such as not bugging people with the same question in the first place. This has to come from the ones requesting readings.

I offer free readings because I love to read the cards and to give psychic insight to people who need it. At the same time, opening a thread of readings requires huge energies, taking care of all those requests. There is not energy anymore for admonishing people! ..this takes you to eventually stop giving readings! Also, being forced to track and count if you asked this question of me before or not.

You, whoever does this, don't ask it in the first place! to avoid causing nuisance to me and the community!

Seeing the same question again, or the same topic, is EXASPERATING.

Debby, this is not addressed to you, I just used your quote to send this message.

Libragirl, thank you for your thread, I appreciate it very much, I know I am one who was eventually forced to tell you "you are asking the same question over and over from me", I am very happy to hear and very proud of you for getting over that approach and over obsessing about your ex.

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posted July 16, 2015 08:00 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
No to your last phrase. The idea is not to submit the reader and this entire community to this exercise in the first place. Not to force the reader to tell it in your face. We are not children anymore to be told by someone "get a grip on your obsession, have some respect for yourself and for us!" As an adult, you don't wait for someone else to admonish you and until then, you push and push and push! Everyone is responsible for their own input to the public!

People who constantly offer huge free readings threads here such as BellaFenice, Vesta, Vivi, SereneDaze, DaniPepper, and I am just taking the names I see on the first page here, and myself, do it for learning, for interacting with people, for helping, but also for RELAXATION. Not for fighting with others or for teaching minimal manners, such as not bugging people with the same question in the first place. This has to come from the ones requesting readings.

I offer free readings because I love to read the cards and to give psychic insight to people who need it. At the same time, opening a thread of readings requires huge energies, taking care of all those requests. There is not energy anymore for admonishing people! ..this takes you to eventually stop giving readings! Also, being forced to track and count if you asked this question of me before or not.

You, whoever does this, don't ask it in the first place! to avoid causing nuisance to me and the community!

Seeing the same question again, or the same topic, is EXASPERATING.

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Hey just stopping by to say this seems well said

The problem also is that a certain vibe accumulates when people do this and reading for them gets more difficult and somehow stifling, not a pleasant experience.

I would be inclined to disagree though re: teaching people manners, never been a fan of lecturing others, guess we all just need some kinda strategy of screening ourselves off from whoever acts disrespectfully towards the idea of free readings and thereby towards contributors to this community.

I totally agree being taken for granted is upsetting. I used to stress out about "freeloaders", "24/7 requesters" and god knows what else I called them when I first joined LL, they drain everyone of energy, ask innumerable follow-up questions and whatnot, now I'm feeling more chilled out, at least others' questionable manners are not our own, that should be good enough.

posted July 16, 2015 08:24 AM            

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I would be inclined to disagree though re: teaching people manners, never been a fan of lecturing others, guess we all just need some kinda strategy of screening ourselves off from whoever acts disrespectfully towards the idea of free readings and thereby towards contributors to this community.

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That's the idea, personally I am here for enjoyment and sharing knowledge and learning. Not to be forced to admonish people for basic things. In my view, not asking the same question and everything else AstroKeen and the others pointed out in her thread is a mater of manners.

I am telling you from experience when you have a thread of 100 requests or even 10 or 3 and having this feeling the person asked about the matter to you, 3 days ago, and being forced to search for it and track it, in order to not offend anyone, or being forced, after 5 of 6 repeated questions, to admonish someone takes considerable energy and time from my part and the others who requested readings. When I am offering my energy for free to people, and try to help, I don't need this. I am not here to admonish people or have fights. I can't protect myself with this, the only ones who can protect me and the others on the thread is those who do this, to stop doing everything that is described on AK's thread.

I strongly resent this idea: if you don't like it, don't watch; if you don't like it, tell me to stop. It's always these people who have this speech. As I said, I believe each one of us is responsible for their side for learning manners, for not being selfish and for protecting the others and the group in the first place.

posted July 16, 2015 08:39 AM            

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I am telling you from experience when you have a thread of 100 requests or even 10 or 3 and having this feeling the person asked about the matter to you, 3 days ago, and being forced to search for it and track it, in order to not offend anyone, or being forced, after 5 of 6 repeated questions, to admonish someone takes considerable energy and time from my part and the others who requested readings. When I am offering my energy for free to people, and try to help, I don't need this. I am not here to admonish people or have fights. I can't protect myself with this, the only ones who can protect me and the others on the thread is those who do this, to stop doing everything that is described on AK's thread.

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I dunno, I normally say "sorry, this doesn't show in this spread and it's a different question I can't answer on this occasion, perhaps another time". Or even "do you mind if I give this slot to another user, bc I read for you not so long ago" etc. Most people get it. You weren't here when Twirl was around, she was literally bombarded with requests and permanently nagged, but she was a genius at saying no politely and firmly, I learned a lot from her.

posted July 16, 2015 08:50 AM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
I dunno, I normally say "sorry, this doesn't show in this spread and it's a different question I can't answer on this occasion, perhaps another time". Or even "do you mind if I give this slot to another user, bc I read for you not so long ago" etc. Most people get it. You weren't here when Twirl was around, she was literally bombarded with requests and permanently nagged, but she was a genius at saying no politely and firmly, I learned a lot from her.

Much as I agree that we're here to enjoy the experience, not to put up with uncomfortable energy.

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posted July 16, 2015 09:57 AM            

Just saying there can be a way round people who don't get it and take advantage of you. Guess what, pretty sure upon reading threads like this one some of them still won't get it.

posted July 16, 2015 10:52 AM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Well in that case yay let's hope it gets even more awesome than now =)

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