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posted August 01, 2015 08:15 AM            

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I recently started talking to someone new, his first initial is D. I'm very non-trusting and jaded so I was wondering if you could tell me if he is who he says he is and if what he's telling me is the truth....I did believe him but the more I think about it the more I wonder.

Thanks!

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posted August 01, 2015 09:01 AM            

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well what you are unconciously doing is pushing him away trying to find a flaw right away to make sure you dont get attached to someone again.
I am feeling him being honest and trustworthy so no I am not feeling ay falsness. I am mostly seeing you trying to find flaws in which way yes ofcourse you will find flaws if you look hard enough, we all have them.

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posted August 01, 2015 09:32 AM            

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It's not the flaws honestly....he told me his daughter's mom passed away 4 years ago, the picture he sent me from "last week" he was wearing a heavy coat (it was in the high 80s last week). So just stuff that could be true but I question if it is or not. Oh and he couldn't talk on the phone at all because his phone wouldn't hold a charge....so I'm questioning all of that.

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posted August 01, 2015 09:54 AM            

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Sorry but I do think its flaws if you think he is being a liar. I would say its just a perfect moment to honestly ask him when its at this early of stages.

If you dont mind, I do think its a bit early for you to try and have a relationship, I think your past love experience needs some some more healing before you attempt having the connection with someone else. Maybe its a great moment to get to know yourself and deal with some fears.

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posted August 02, 2015 08:54 AM            

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Not trying to jump into a relationship at all...is that the ultimate goal? I am a very non-trusting person by nature unfortunately and something that I have been working on but I feel trust is earned and not given too freely. I do agree with you though and trust me when I say I have been doing exactly that for the last 2 years of my ex and I splitting up. And am learning more about myself everyday. Thanks!

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posted August 02, 2015 10:39 AM            

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Keep it up distib, you will be fine

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