posted November 28, 2015 10:57 AM            

I've been away for a minute - apologies (if you missed me). I've just been sorting myself and my life out (no crisis), just felt the need to come off the Internet and get down to business in the real world.

During this time, I was getting to know someone JS. I really liked JS' personality and we connected very well, but I realised that I just didn't find him very attractive. Well, I did; but I think I found his potential attractive, as opposed to him right now! I thought this bad and so, we let the relationship go.

For days, I felt extremely guilty because he was a nice guy and I wanted to get to know him more. I just couldn't act like I definitely wanted it to be his girlfriend. As a result, I decided that I couldn't continue to stay up late on the phone talking to him, if we weren't going anywhere.

On paper, I thought we were great for eachother synastry wise and composite wise. I thought we were ok and the readings that I received were all positive and suggested that he was someone I could be with long term.... I guess not!

Moving on, I am now speaking to someone new! He is great, but he has one small piece of baggage that I am WEARY of. I will be honest, I have had one reading about him, but it only covered 2-3 months down the line. I'm scared to get a reading about our long term potential. I have taken a look at our synastry, but I'm cautious and somewhat against getting it looked at and interpreted publicly.

My question is: Do you think it is better to explore a relationship in greater depth before getting readings? Did you or do you require readings on/about your most successful relationship(s)? Should one really need readings about a good/great relationship?

I think I've reached a stage where I don't want to have great expectations about this new guy because it makes me nervous as **** to rely on my own instincts and knowledge lol.

posted November 28, 2015 11:22 AM            

Just my personal opinion, but I consider readings as tools to get a more thorough understanding of each other and maybe even more importantly of ONESELF, why we react the way we do and so on.

But if I ever find I will turn someone away because I think we do not "fit on paper", then I will know it`s time to leave astrology behind.

posted November 28, 2015 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
Should one really need readings about a good/great relationship?

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posted November 28, 2015 11:52 AM            

About readings, I guess one can ask things (especially if they know to draw the cards themselves, rather than paying someone at this point) about someone recently met, if there is something intriguing about them, but I don't recommend predictions about the relationships, feelings (they take time to develop) and generally trying to know the person through readings rather than direct contact.

I think good relationships need some fun spreads as well (how to improve the relationship, especially spreads for the couple, face to face with the reader, are very nice, like an insightful game) but unfortunately we usually resort to readings when we have some sort of problem.

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posted November 28, 2015 01:05 PM            

I've been thinking about these kind of things recently myself as well.

I'm in love with someone but im technically single. I wouldn't ask about outcomes in my love life while in a relationship. For me getting predictions on outcomes about a relationship while in a good relationship isn't the best idea. I think a reading is good for some guidance and understanding each other though.

In terms of times i really only ask for the next month or max 3 months, and as a reader I prefer not to do huge timelines.

The thing about posting synastry/composite charts publicly is that you might have someone come along who will look at one aspect and say the whole relationship is doomed. You might have 10 awesome aspects and one minor one that's deemed "bad", but we as humans will probably focus on that one bad aspect. I have a couple of these so called "cheater" aspects, but iv never strayed and i know myself well enough to know i never would. One needs to consider an entire chart for that. I do think astrology can help understand why somethings happen etc...

In the end you know your relationship better than anyone.

Just my view