posted January 18, 2016 10:53 AM
Hello. Can someone give me some advice? I have tried asking my tarot deck for answers, but I'm not sure my mind is clear enough to interpret the response.Here's the situation. My boyfriend and I had an argument that escalated into me crying and him making remarks about my bad memory the next morning.
The argument was about me forgetting to do something he asked me to do and him blowing it out of proportion even after I apologized like three times or more. He explained several situations where it would not be acceptable to just say "I forgot." Of course, I wouldn't let myself forget something like my job or a deadline, but small things? I will forget those and a lot of what I'm forgetting are small things he wants me to do. All he needs to do is remind me once and I'll do it, but instead he gets upset if I forget to do something even one time.
I'm upset for two reasons:
-My boyfriend apparently thinks that "stop crying" is good advice for a person that's crying. I told him it's not and he got upset that I wouldn't stop tearing up. He tried to comfort me, but it didn't work because his attempts were mixed with how upset he was that I wasn't listening to his advice to "just stop crying."
-He criticized my bad memory like I can help it. He brought up the many incidences in which my bad memory would not be an excuse. However, he is not my boss. He is not my professor. He is my boyfriend and he's supposed to be my partner, not my superior.
I have tried being upfront and blunt with him about how I feel about these things. He just crawled in a hole and said how "awful" of a boyfriend he is. He made no effort to communicate with me about how to fix things.
I'm so confused. No matter what I say, he just keeps getting upset.
I would like a tarot reading for this question:
How do I get my boyfriend to see that he needs to treat me better?