posted January 28, 2016 10:03 PM            

I would like to address something that is concerning me. I have noticed on more than a few occasions that a reader will say "sorry, I don't feel we have a connection." Or will come right out and say "sorry, that doesn't resonate." Is this really necessary? Some of the readers are new and trying their best to help. I feel this just discourages them. I have seen some readers give opinions to their dilemma which are not appreciated by some but think of this. Are they not trying to help? Otherwise they wouldn't have bothered to reply. My real pet peeve is those who do not say thank you! We are giving our time and our energy to reply to you.

posted January 28, 2016 10:54 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
To be honest I would rather have the reader tell me there is no connection between us than to be told something that is false. So yes it's necessary to do. And if one receives a reading that doesn't resonate yes they should tell the reader. After all this is a place to learn. How will the reader know if they are correct or not in their technique? Most people are polite in saying something doesn't connect or resonate. Not all people connect. This is necessary in order to help one another learn.

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posted January 29, 2016 02:04 AM            

I understand where you're coming from but i have some thoughts;

"sorry, I don't feel we have a connection." - If they genuinely don't have a connection, that can happen. I think as fairy said it is better than giving an inaccurate reading. If the phrase is being used as an excuse, i still dont see the problem, it can help avoid unnecessary drama. I don't think a reader should have to justify themselves in not reading for someone. I understand it may not be the most polite thing to do but i think it's better to avoid unnecessary drama.

"sorry, that doesn't resonate." - I think if someone is aspiring to be a reader they need to know if they have been off or not. We can't really help someone if we are giving incorrect interpretations. Peoples lives are involved here. So feedback is necessary. Plus this forum is mainly readers who are still learning.

"I have seen some readers give opinions to their dilemma which are not appreciated by some but think of this. Are they not trying to help?" - I do think the reader is trying to help and is coming from a good place but whether or not the reader should give an opinion is a different matter. I don't it is right to ask "should I" questions, so i think giving an opinion is also more or less answering a "should i" it really depends. Perhaps the querent doesnt want an opinion. I remember getting a reading done and the reader then proceeded to tell me what they feel is the absolute definite outcome in the future. I had not asked for this and to be honest it left me feeling a bit upset, it turned out to be wrong anyway. We have to bear in mind peoples emotions are involved. I think a reader should say what they see in the cards/intuition without an opinion and without judgement. I think they should just state what they feel/see in their reading in relation to the question asked. But that's my own view. I will only give an opinion when im being asked a question i believe should not be asked - in that i wont be answering it and why.

"My real pet peeve is those who do not say thank you!"- This is a big pet peeve of mine also. I know people are not on here 24/7 so they might not see the thread. But then i will see that person having opened up a new thread asking questions without completing their exchange with someone or saying thank you while the other person waiting is sitting and bumping up the thread. Manners cost nothing.

Just my opinions