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Topic: Brother killed last week--need questions answered
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bananaz
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From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 12:33 AM
  
My 23 yr old brother was recently killed in a car accident by a woman who was fleeing the police and ran through a red light hitting him at over 100 mph. This tragedy has left me & my entire family devastated and if there is anyone out there who can do a reading I would be so appreciative. My questions are:Is he at peace? Why did this happen? Will we get custody of the 3 yr old daughter he left behind? (My family is currently fighting for her now.)
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missblyss
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From: neverneverland
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 01:25 AM
Oh honey, I am SO so sorry for you and your whole family. What an excruciating thing to have to go through.....I am hesitant to do a reading just as the custody battle is so important and stressful I am sure that I wouldn't ever want to risk getting it wrong. I would just pray to your brother that he guide things to work out in the best interest of the child. As far as him being at peace? Yes honey, of course he is. The body is burdensome and heavy for the soul. I think perhaps these quotes may help you <3 "At death, you forget all the limitations of the physical body and realize how free you are. For the first few seconds there is a sense of fear — fear of the unknown, of something unfamiliar to the consciousness. But after that comes a great realization: the soul feels a joyous sense of relief and freedom. You know that you exist apart from the mortal body." "Death is not the end: it is temporary emancipation, given to you when karma, the law of justice, determines that your present body and environment have served their purpose, or when you are too weary or exhausted by suffering to bear the burden of physical existence any longer. To those who are suffering, death is resurrection from the painful tortures of flesh into awakened peace and calmness. To the elderly, it is a pension earned by years of struggling through life. For all, it is a welcome rest."
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cherful24
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posted March 14, 2016 01:39 AM
I'mc terribly sorry, so very sad. I'm seeing he is at peace...is there a female friend for his daughter that she likes to play with? Or could the daughter have had a friend that past? I see reunion but can't make it out if he's reunited with her in heaven or if it's a message, to make sure she keeps the play date. I'm also getting "good bloke" ..does this mean anything? Is there a connection to Winter Park?...I'm sensing this has to do with the girl IP: Logged |
cherful24
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Registered: Mar 2012
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posted March 14, 2016 01:41 AM
Was someone high (had pot, etc?IP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted March 14, 2016 02:05 AM
So sorry for your loss. But he is totally ok and at peace. If you mediate you may even communicate with him to confirm this for yourself. As for the custody thing, is there any reason the mother shouldn't have the child? IP: Logged |
bananaz
Knowflake Posts: 469
From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 08:11 AM
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Originally posted by missblyss:
As far as him being at peace? Yes honey, of course he is. The body is burdensome and heavy for the soul. I think perhaps these quotes may help you <3 "At death, you forget all the limitations of the physical body and realize how free you are. For the first few seconds there is a sense of fear — fear of the unknown, of something unfamiliar to the consciousness. But after that comes a great realization: the soul feels a joyous sense of relief and freedom. You know that you exist apart from the mortal body." "Death is not the end: it is temporary emancipation, given to you when karma, the law of justice, determines that your present body and environment have served their purpose, or when you are too weary or exhausted by suffering to bear the burden of physical existence any longer. To those who are suffering, death is resurrection from the painful tortures of flesh into awakened peace and calmness. To the elderly, it is a pension earned by years of struggling through life. For all, it is a welcome rest."
I teared up reading this. Thank you. Instinctively I have to believe he's in a good place, I just wonder if he's upset he was taken from his daughter so soon. IP: Logged |
bananaz
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From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 08:21 AM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
I'mc terribly sorry, so very sad. I'm seeing he is at peace...is there a female friend for his daughter that she likes to play with? Or could the daughter have had a friend that past? I see reunion but can't make it out if he's reunited with her in heaven or if it's a message, to make sure she keeps the play date. I'm also getting "good bloke" ..does this mean anything? Is there a connection to Winter Park?...I'm sensing this has to do with the girl
Thank you cherful! Not sure about the female friend. Im currently 6 months pregnant (haven't found out if it's a girl or boy) so maybe that's the friend she's supposed to reunite with? Her birthday party is also on Saturday so she has kids her age coming to play. My brother was a great guy. Everyone loved him and knows him for his big teddybear hugs, friendliness, and warmth so that defintely fits in line with good bloke. We live near Winter Park (just outside of it) and just submitted an offer on a house where hopefully my neice will be raised. IP: Logged |
bananaz
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From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 08:25 AM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
Was someone high (had pot, etc?
I suspect the other driver was high based on one of her friend's comments on a news report. But they never tested her which really makes me mad but I think the cops want to prove she was in her right mind so they can go after her for felony murder. IP: Logged |
bananaz
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From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 08:39 AM
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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
So sorry for your loss. But he is totally ok and at peace. If you mediate you may even communicate with him to confirm this for yourself. As for the custody thing, is there any reason the mother shouldn't have the child?
The mother is a drug addict, extremely unstable, in and out of mental institutions and jail. She hasnt been apart of the picture for years, and my neice has always lived with my brother and our parents. We're really not so much concerned with her as we can prove how unfit she is right now. The problem is with the maternal grandparents. They literally tried to kidnap my neice from my brother's viewing and had no respect for his death. My mom was granted emergency temporary custody until our court hearing later this month, which is when they will get their chance for the judge to hear their side. It's all a big, stressful mess. Im still angry and grieving and in shock over how much was pushed on our plates. And I'm so worried for my neice. I know if my mom loses her on top of losing my brother it will push her over the edge. If the maternal grandparents get custody, we will never see her. IP: Logged |
mar1982delta
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posted March 14, 2016 09:00 AM
@bananaz I don't do tarot, I just wanted to say I am very sorry for your loss..I wish you strength and peace! IP: Logged |
bananaz
Knowflake Posts: 469
From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 09:33 AM
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Originally posted by mar1982delta:
@bananaz I don't do tarot, I just wanted to say I am very sorry for your loss..I wish you strength and peace!
Thank you. I need that strength and peace. My brother and I were very close and this has been the hardest thing I've ever been through. IP: Logged |
mar1982delta
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posted March 14, 2016 09:40 AM
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Originally posted by bananaz:
Thank you. I need that strength and peace. My brother and I were very close and this has been the hardest thing I've ever been through.
I can't even imagine what you are going through..I have a little 22-years old brother myself and despite our age difference of 12 years, we got very close during the last years..These are situations that can't "fit" in the human mind. You have more strength than you can imagine..Try to be strong to honor his memory..and for your niece, too. Again my sincere condolences.. <3 IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted March 14, 2016 11:28 AM
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. I will pray for your family. My heart goes out to you for the custody case you are facing. I have some experience in this area. Courts are a funny thing. Just when you think you have a good case they come out with something and throw you for a loop. If your niece was living with her maternal grandparents on a regular basis and have some form of legal custody of her it will be difficult to change that. If she's in a stable living environment the court won't want to change that. And sadly most states don't acknowledge grandparent rights. I would try to establish a better relationship with the maternal grandparents in order to keep the ties of the family together. It's difficult to do when there is animosity but since she is loved by both sides it's better to try and be a family then to have such hatred and bitter feelings. Especially now. Try to come to some form of agreement in which you will all get to help raise her. Even if she doesn't live with you it's important to keep the ties and stay present in her life. I would try to work things out with them in the event custody doesn't go your way. Good luck and I'll pray for you. IP: Logged |
bananaz
Knowflake Posts: 469
From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 14, 2016 11:54 AM
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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother. I will pray for your family. My heart goes out to you for the custody case you are facing. I have some experience in this area. Courts are a funny thing. Just when you think you have a good case they come out with something and throw you for a loop. If your niece was living with her maternal grandparents on a regular basis and have some form of legal custody of her it will be difficult to change that. If she's in a stable living environment the court won't want to change that. And sadly most states don't acknowledge grandparent rights. I would try to establish a better relationship with the maternal grandparents in order to keep the ties of the family together. It's difficult to do when there is animosity but since she is loved by both sides it's better to try and be a family then to have such hatred and bitter feelings. Especially now. Try to come to some form of agreement in which you will all get to help raise her. Even if she doesn't live with you it's important to keep the ties and stay present in her life. I would try to work things out with them in the event custody doesn't go your way. Good luck and I'll pray for you.
Thank you. Any and all prayers are very appreciated. She has always lived with my brother and her paternal grandparents. From what the attorneys said, this is what works in her favor. We have always tried to have a good relationship with the maternal grandparents and if we get custody, we would still give them time with her. It would not happen the other way around. In the beginning right after she was born, the mother was arrested and the maternal grandparents pretended as if they were taking her for the weekend then refused to let my brother see his daughter for 3 months. This was before he gained paternity through the courts so there was nothing he could do at the time. He missed her first Thanksgiving, her first Christmas and her first New Yrs. After he obtained paternity, DCF recognized him as the Guardian and he still allowed the maternal grandparents visitation...it's just been crazy. And now he's dead and the fight is starting all over again. IP: Logged |
FairyDust75
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From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted March 14, 2016 12:15 PM
I'm so sorry! You definitely do have a lot in your favor then. If he had custody as well as your parents then it shouldn't be difficult in court. I wish you well. My family has been through a difficult custody case so I feel for you. It was different and our end result wasn't what we wanted in any way so I can understand the pain you are going through right now. The court will most likely keep her with your parents since that's what she knows and has been established. I will pray for you!IP: Logged |
Sunnya
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From: Sunnyland
Registered: Jun 2014
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posted March 14, 2016 01:33 PM
Just to send you and your family lots of strength and a big hug. You are in my prayers.IP: Logged |
athenegoddess
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posted March 14, 2016 01:36 PM
I think you will get custody but they will allow the maternal grandparents to see her.IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
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posted March 14, 2016 02:38 PM
I am so sorry  Sending thoughts of love and healing to you and your family.  Yes, he is at peace and continues his soul journey and you will meet again, in another form  IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted March 14, 2016 02:54 PM
I won't do a reading on this because its too personal. I just want to say that I am terribly sorry for your loss and i hope you and your family will recover well after such a tragedy.And yes, I believe he is at peace. Life always goes on, even after departing from this world. IP: Logged |
cherful24
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From: chicago, il
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted March 14, 2016 02:59 PM
That's why I'm seeing u her trying to outrun the police....great, so it looks like the daughter will be living in winter paerk, so I take that to mean with you all 😃. .....and I believe the girl reference, is that u will be having a girl....so the daughter lives with u in winter park, and she'll having play dates with ur little girl! QUOTE]Originally posted by bananaz:
I suspect the other driver was high based on one of her friend's comments on a news report. But they never tested her which really makes me mad but I think the cops want to prove she was in her right mind so they can go after her for felony murder.[/QUOTE] IP: Logged |
bananaz
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From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 12:02 AM
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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I am so sorry Sending thoughts of love and healing to you and your family. Yes, he is at peace and continues his soul journey and you will meet again, in another form
Thank you, LeeLoo. Its comforting to know that. In my heart I know we will meet again but I have this fear of what we are on the other side. Are we brother and sister? Are we as close? And even though people speak of that side as peaceful and feeling like you're at home, I can't imagine he wouldn't be upset that he's missing out on his daughter growing up...idk. I wish I had a psychic ability to connect. IP: Logged |
bananaz
Knowflake Posts: 469
From: Orlando, FL USA
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted March 16, 2016 12:05 AM
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Originally posted by cherful24:
That's why I'm seeing u her trying to outrun the police....great, so it looks like the daughter will be living in winter paerk, so I take that to mean with you all 😃. .....and I believe the girl reference, is that u will be having a girl....so the daughter lives with u in winter park, and she'll having play dates with ur little girl!
Thank you again. The house we were looking to buy fell through but I'll keep my eye out for something in Winter Park. I really hope your prediction is right. I would bet my life you're right about her being high, but she was also trying to outrun them because her license had been revoked.
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athenegoddess
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posted March 16, 2016 12:33 AM
No he isn't upset. He is aware that things happen for the highest good of all. And he knows that his daughter needed to experience life without him to evolve herself.  IP: Logged |
GeminiKarat
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From: Austria
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posted March 16, 2016 04:04 AM
I am sorry for your loss.  IP: Logged |
Sikanda
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posted March 16, 2016 01:24 PM
I'm sorry for your loss and for what you are all going through <3. I hope the situation solves well with the little girl and that the person who did this gets what she deserves.
I wish you strenght now.<3IP: Logged |
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