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posted June 03, 2016 11:53 PM            

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We were eacothers first loves, i lost my virginity to him and we would've been together four years in August...he says he still loves me but that he can't give me the life he thinks i want... i thought we were soulmates i thought that he would never break my heart...i haven't eaten, i can't sleep, all i do is cry. I feel like a zombie...there are actually stabbing pains in my heart throughput the day...i just can't believe this is happening...any readings would be nice about where im headed and maybe if our paths will cross again...

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posted June 04, 2016 12:20 AM            

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I'm sorry. I know it hurts. I get that everything he said is true. He does love you but he can't give you the life that you want. Yes I think that you guys will talk some more. And I think soon you will see his love for you as in you're reassured that he didn't fall out of love with you and I do you think you'll come around to see what he saying is actually true. 4 years is a very long time but I just don't see he wants to marry you. I feel like it's the classic story of he needs more experience and he needs to be alone. I don't know how old you are but it seems like he's never really been on his own. So it's more of personal development the stage of his life that he's going through. Kind of like a quarter life crisis or a midlife crisis. He's trying to figure it all out. I almost get a sense that he's going to move/take a trip to Like California.

How do you think you guys will come in contact physically with each other again. You might be a few months or 5 or so. Can I'm sensing a big smile from you so I feel either you feel good about it or maybe he's coming back. But don't quote me on that because right now I really feel he just wants to be alone. And if you like he's got other things going on. I feel that he's hurt by this as well but I feel like he was he was loss in a bit empty and he needs to be challenged by inventor in the world. I know it doesn't help but don't take it so personally because I do see that he does love you. He just needs experience life right now

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posted June 04, 2016 12:27 AM            

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I understand how you feel hun. It's difficult I know, it hurts, it really hurts and all you want to do is cry and scream and sleep. You have to do these things to let yourself heal. Do ALL these things, cry and scream, sleep and rest, try and recharge. Write a really well-thought out letter about how you feel and then personally deliver it to him. Tell him everything, don't keep it inside. Let him know how much you care for him. Do all these things and then once you do all these things you'll know you did all you could to salvage the situation and that it is now 100% truly up to him for what he decides to do. The most important thing is to never ever forget that you're worth it. You're so worth it and I'm sure he KNOWS deep down inside that you are worthy of love, whether he is with you or not.

Stay strong <3

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From: Stubborn Aries
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posted June 04, 2016 02:19 AM            

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Also, take some Tylenol. It'll reduce your heartache.
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/social-analgesics/

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