posted March 29, 2019 06:40 PM            

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posted March 30, 2019 12:05 PM            

thank you. <3 it's possible, otherwise I can't explain this sudden change. His initials are I.R. I just can't understand why people can not be honest and straightforward about this.

@Aries23Degrees

posted March 30, 2019 12:20 PM              

IR ..did he perhaps meet your father...it seemed he felt built a connection and was looking forward to serious ties with you..he could have felt very connected to your family and serious about you.
But he can let this go easily it seems...there is a girl who knows about this and has been around him but she is careful you don't know this yet. She feels guilty and not so great about you know this.

posted March 30, 2019 01:01 PM            

yes, he was serious, he asked me to marry him. I didn’t say yes immediately because I really needed time to think, I didn’t want to rush into anything. But I was inclined to say yes. He didn’t meet my father, because my father and I are not so close yet he expressed his wish to meet him.

I can understand that there is someone else in his life, it was a long distance relationship, he was kind, loving and considerate and then from one day to another he changed. It hurts, yes, very much and I feel very sad and I miss him, but as a Virgo, i need to be reasonable about this. I have this no contact rule after a break up, this is really helpful, but I guess I needed some closure. So I’ll have to close it for myself, it doesn’t make sense analyzing this over and over again.

Thank you, Angelic star, very much for taking time to look into this. And especially for your kind words. <3

posted April 13, 2019 07:58 AM            

i replied, we had a talk and he said he would call tomorrow. he didn’t. i waited the whole day, i was really angry and texted him (I made a mistake, i know), he saw my (angry) messages, but didn’t reply. Around 2 in the morning he texted me, sent me a picture of his broken arm and said that he was asleep and that he got into a fight yesterday. I replied today, he called only to tell me that he wants us only to be friends, that it in fact doesn’t make sense any more and that he met someone else several days ago and that he wanted to tell me that.

he hurt me now really bad, i was about to forget him, i also met someone else and i was doing fine untill he messaged me two days ago. I really thought he wants us to be together again but there it goes.

I really can’t figure this out. Why would he hurt me like that? He knew I was going to think that, no one texts his ex at night to tell her he wants to be only friends, he didn’t sound like that at all.

posted April 14, 2019 02:29 AM            

I felt that your ex boyfriend does really miss you but he felt and still feels the distance is too hard for him and thats why he met someone else.

But upon meeting this other person,he realized that he still missed you and that this other person doesnt come close to what you and him had, but he doesnt want to ask to be together again as he really hates the long distance thing(he feels he needs the person close in the physical for him to feel like he is in a relationship)yet he cant seem to forget or replace you at this moment .

Thats why he suggested the friend angle.
He wants you in his life but he just cant do a long distance relationship at all.
Friendship he can do long distance though.

I hope this helps you in some way

posted April 14, 2019 06:30 AM            

Thank you so much! Very thoughtful and insightful wording, I appreciate it very much.
I believe that he does misses me in some way, but he seemed very distanced on the phone, polite, charming, but kind of cold and determined to end it. He asked me not to be resentful toward him, he said in fact that what you said, that he has feelings for me but yes, the distance is a deal breaker. But there was no need for him to text me after the break up only to tell me that he met someone else. That was a bit cruel.

posted May 24, 2019 07:05 PM            

but there is no need for it any more. the thing is over. i moved on. although i'm still kind of ashamed because i feel like a fool. or that i was really naive.

somehow i can never learn.

but thank you 💙