posted May 06, 2020 08:47 PM            

Hello everyone,
first of all thank you for your time.
i am about to become 33 years old. And i have had no success in my love life.
i do not even have failed relationships. i have nohthing. at this point i even envy those who have had breakup (or breakups)
it is definitely not my personality. As i have some very good relationships (friends). I recently fell in love with someone and she also loved me back. but she is with someone else. so that didnt work out. i connect with people very easily and quickly. i am not shy.
I have had lots of ups and downs in career as well. Honestly i am not concerned about it. I am very confident in all aspects of my life. I am hard working , I am fast, i gain skills well. i build relationships fast too (at a basic level).
But i am simply not attractive.
Attraction is subjective, but for the sake of argument, i also want to mention that i am overweight, 300lbs. I also want to lose weight, to become attractive , and thus attract opposite sex in life. i have ventured on that journey MANY times but due to one reason or another i fail and gain my weight back again.
I am extremely demotivated by all of this and if anyone can share some insight (on my love life and weight loss/physical attractivness), i will be extremely grateful.

TLDR: is my chart indicative of my love life and my physical attractiveness ?

(i am sorry if the above text sounded like a rant, please be assured it isnt. was just trying to provide a context and details)
if i forgot to mention a detail. please ask. thanks

posted May 06, 2020 10:17 PM            

There's nothing in your chart indicating that love is an issue...as you mentioned everything is good in your life except your weight, and that is what is hindering your love life.

posted May 07, 2020 05:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Saille:
Looking at your chart you have chiron in the 6th house, so that would explain the failure to lose weight, but you also have Mars in the 6th house so it is possible with the help of a trainer or coach. Your first house is capricorn, you are driven by hard work and that includes losing weight.

There's nothing in your chart indicating that love is an issue...as you mentioned everything is good in your life except your weight, and that is what is hindering your love life.

Losing weight isn't just about having a love life, but being able to live healthier, longer, happier for yourself.

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thank you for replying.
are you saying, that my love life has been empty only by coincidence so far?
people 10 years younger than me have had 5+ relationships or affairs. its sort of depressing.

thanks about weight loss thing. i will try to work harder in that aspect

posted May 07, 2020 10:31 AM            

I have Cap rising like you as well and know that things take time. I've learned that I was shy in earlier years--it started with friends...got through that...then with dating partners...but as I got older, it got better or as I've read you will become the antithesis of what you were at a younger age..

The one thing about your chart that stuck out to me was the moon opposite mercury aspect sitting in your 12th and 6th houses. Service to self versus service to others is in conflict...to overcome this you need to give to both areas...social versus liking solitude or time to yourself. The moon opp mercury can also make you see things a certain way..making assumptions based upon family upbringing or conditioning..I have relatives around me that have this and sometimes it can be taxing..i.e. you see someone coming out of a neighbor's house...you may assume that they took something from them, but that may be further from the truth or because you have extra weight on you, that no one would be interested. Sometimes we unconsciously (12th house) think that no one would want us because of that. the moon rules your 7th and with mercury ruling your 9th and 6th houses, your philosophies about work, coworkers, neighbors and friends are in conflict with the home, your emotions, potential partners
..how much you give to this and what time you have for just you.

Your natal Saturn is near your moon..so if your birthtime is off by even a minute, it could be within 10 degrees and cause you delays in getting together with someone, loneliness and even depression at times. The push pull between Saturn and mars, can make this seem futile at times. Saturn is also karmic and I can relate as there is usually that one person for you that you are meant to be with...since your moon sits in the 12th, you may be idealistic about a potential partner and could show in you meeting people that are either unavailable like what you experienced or emotionally unavailable. Neptune in the first can also make you idealize some of the people you meet..this can help you be compassionate towards others, but also be taken advantage.

The aspects tied to your 7th house ruler tell me that the woman you finally meet may have children already and it becomes a shared responsibility. She will be independent with sag as the sign on your moon and most likely from a different country than your own. She will probably be very talkative as well.

posted May 07, 2020 12:11 PM            

I;m telling you that it doesn't matter what aspects you have going on in your chart at the moment related to love because you've mentioned everything that you are and then finally mentioned your weight.

Your weight has the biggest impact on your love, not anything else. Because nothing else is stopping you from doing anything else, and this is your concern, and I apologize for being so blunt, but your biggest issues is your weight.

posted May 10, 2020 09:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Jason,

I have Cap rising like you as well and know that things take time. I've learned that I was shy in earlier years--it started ...
...rules your 7th and with mercury ruling your 9th and 6th houses, your philosoikely from a different country than your own. She will probably be very talkative as well.

Best wishes,
Spring

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thank you so much for your detailed analysis. it was so relaxing to read it. albeit a bit scary too.
i fully agree about the antithesis statement. my life does seem like that. i am nothing like i was when i was young.

can you elaborate a bit on my birthtime being off? because like u said I HAVE delays in getting together with people like i told you in original post and lonliness and the depression factors are very present and rather ruling me i would say. (is there a solution to this? or i just wait?)

also you are spot on saying that i meet people who are emotionally unavailable in the end.

thanks for the woman finally meet observation as well. but i am more interetrrsted in the journey aspect of my life.

without offending anyone's beliefs. i wonder whether in 5-10 years ahead of me, i would have several relationships (of varying degrees) or just 1 person im eventually meant to be with.

thats what usually upsets me.

posted May 10, 2020 09:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Saille:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by jasonbourne:
[B] thank you for replying.

I;m telling you that it doesn't matter what aspects you have going on in your chart at the moment related to love because you've mentioned everything that you are and then finally mentioned your weight.

Your weight has the biggest impact on your love, not anything else. Because nothing else is stopping you from doing anything else, and this is your concern, and I apologize for being so blunt, but your biggest issues is your weight.

I've noticed you leave it to the last sentence to bring up your weight or you brush it off as you did in this by saying you'll try to work on it...when that is clearly the main issues.

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thank you.
please dont apologize for being blunt. i would prefer that.

please do pardon me for being dumb about it. but i just want to confirm it , that you are saying

that nothing in my chart is stopping me with connecting romantically to people excecpt for my own looks (and the confidence that comes along with it) ??

posted May 11, 2020 11:32 AM            

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Originally posted by jasonbourne:
thank you.
please dont apologize for being blunt. i would prefer that.

please do pardon me for being dumb about it. but i just want to confirm it , that you are saying

that nothing in my chart is stopping me with connecting romantically to people excecpt for my own looks (and the confidence that comes along with it) ??

so i need not bother and just work on myself??

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Hi JB, that is correct. You have venus and jupiter in your 4th house. Jupiter is extremely lucky and next venus very positive, and all other areas of your life you have no issues...except what you mention so I would 100 %. focus on your health.

posted May 15, 2020 07:57 AM            

Astrological-wise, your 7th ruler and Venus are both aspecting Jupiter so I think you should be able to enjoy a relatively harmonious love life. I feel that transit Jupiter hitting your Jupiter & Venus in 2023 may bring you an opportunity for love since Jupiter is your Moon ruler which rules your DSC and Venus is... well, the planet of love! In the same year, transit NN will also travel past your 5th & 4th touching your Venus, interchanging with tJupiter which will travel into your 5th.

Don't quote me but this looks pretty positive to me.
Meanwhile, focus on yourself now and start looking good!