posted July 11, 2020 06:07 PM            

I feel like all the guys I end up liking are emotionally unavailable or have some kind of toxic situation.

I think I struggle with relationships in general, does this show in my chart? I feel disconnected from other people, and really only have a handful of people I can truly call friends. I spend a lot of time alone

I should also add that Im also lost career wise, and dont know what to do with my life.

posted July 12, 2020 07:09 AM            

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Originally posted by summerlove22:
Would anyone be so kind as to read my personal chart and see if they see anything about love for me? Im in my early thirties and havent had a relationship that has lasted more than 3 months. I feel like Im supposed to be alone forever

I feel like all the guys I end up liking are emotionally unavailable or have some kind of toxic situation.

I think I struggle with relationships in general, does this show in my chart? I feel disconnected from other people, and really only have a handful of people I can truly call friends. I spend a lot of time alone

I should also add that Im also lost career wise, and dont know what to do with my life.

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Hi summerlove!

So, I'll try to explain what is going on in your chart .
First, you have to know that you are not unlucky and that the sky didn't decide to curse you the day you were born :> we are all here to learn something and what happens to us is the reflection of our subconscious energy.

First of all you have a stellium in Cancer, you're a wonderful sensitive person, I guess quite a reserved one, but that Mars in Leo indicates that you are also bold and decisive when it comes to take action, and Mars is also the ruler of your fiery North Node in Aries (your direction in this life), that I have too :>; Aries is an individualistic sign, so your spiritual path is to develop assertive and "egoistic" traits as opposed to the more diplomatic and mental traits of the Libra sign (your South node), and that courageous Mars in Leo should help you. With Mars being in the 4th in Leo activity with children can be inspired even though the same placement (with Mars squared by Pluto in Scorpio) can very well indicate drama in your early home life. Alternatively, you may want to take action or try to manifest your desires in the home/community, so in a very private space and sphere.

Now, Neptune (the planet of illusion, escapism, "fog" and dreams, but also spirituality and idealism), squares this North Node (and SN as well), meaning that you can indeed struggle to see your path or what to do with your life; squares to the nodes present themeselves as repeated lessons in this life or "skipped steps", it is such a sensitive aspect to have to the point where you may feel an alien in this world, very different, have the tendency to seclude yourself or escape in some way from the mundane, but it is also an aspect for visionary gifts, artistic pursuits, and exquisite inclination for creative expression - confirmed by having a planet in Leo - and considering the emphasis on communication with your Moon in Gemini and Mercury opposed Neptune, Sun-Venus conjunction in the 3rd house (of Gemini, the words and communication), I would not be surprised if you'd like writing, or any other king of artistic endeavor with those Neptune aspects: photography, painting, singing, acting (also a Leo thing)... So this could be something to cultivate for you. Use you Neptune profitably! Exploration of spiritual realms is also indicated and since Neptune is in the 8th house of mystery and the occult (and psychology) so much insight could come if you investigate these matters. Time alone can be a gift, it all depends how you use it! There's a tendency with all these watery energy to get lost and feel down, but if you focus on creativity and spirituality you can turn the other way (up!).

Secondly, your love life. With Saturn conjunct descendant in the 7th house of relationships, love and marriage you can feel some insecurity regarding this field; encounters with partners that feel "cold" or unavailable are totally possible - or that are older. Satisfaction may be delayed in this field as I said but only because there's maturation to be done and lessons to be learnt. Later in life stability can be achieved. Uranus in the same house brings disruption and instability as well, but here one important thing has to be understood: your Uranus (excitement, disruption, electricity...) and Saturn (restriction, coldness, but also discipline and responsibility) are opposite your Moon (emotion, mother, childhood, your home). Going back to childhood and your mother care, you probably experienced a "distant" mother or didn't feel loved enough when you were a child, maybe suffering from isolation and a sense of being misunderstood. This doesn't mean your mother didn't love you, but subconsciously you may have perceived a lack of affection because you needed more love than what -or how- was showed, and you may have developed an insecure attachment of sorts.
Analysing parental issues can illuminate the way you relate to people now (hence the sense of disconnection, etc.) and lead to healing.
By the way, growing up, the first thing that you have to realize is that YOU have this energy within you, that means that why you are looking for a stable relationship and a secure attachment, subconsciously you crave excitement and that feeling of "newness"; be aware also of erratic emotional responses (Uranus opp Moon in Gemini, placement that per se is quite erratic in moods) that can put off your partners. Unexpected relationships that end abruptly, emotional turmoils, drastic changes are the theme here. BUT as I said in the beginning, there's something to be learnt here.
In short, you have to recognize that you have this energy within yourself, and that you crave more independence than you're actually conscious of. This is how you relate to people, coming forward as a freedom loving person and somewhat probably "unattached", or even cold yourself. Deep down, with that Cancer Venus, you crave that tender partner with a motherly vibe, and you would like to love the same way. Your lesson is to become conscious of your emotional reactions and find a compromise between "boredom" and the need for excitement- that you have. Also, try not to feel your need for isolation as something that weighs you down, there's so much potential and sensitivity in you.
What I'm noticing is also your Pluto casting its transformative power over the self (Sun) but it is also opposite the ruler of the 7th house (relationships again), Jupiter; Uranus and Saturn make aspects to the ruler of the 7th as well but these are easier and flowing aspects; you may attract also plutonic relationships or people with hidden issues regarding sex or power. You too are powerful with Pluto square Mars, there are powerful drive and desires; you can use this energy to direct your life. Once you learn to recognize toxic situations you'll be able to avoid them in the future.

posted July 12, 2020 09:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
Hi summerlove!

So, I'll try to explain what is going on in your chart .
First, you have to know that you are not unlucky and that the sky didn't decide to curse you the day you were born :> we are all here to learn something and what happens to us is the reflection of our subconscious energy.

First of all you have a stellium in Cancer, you're a wonderful sensitive person, I guess quite a reserved one, but that Mars in Leo indicates that you are also bold and decisive when it comes to take action, and Mars is also the ruler of your fiery North Node in Aries (your direction in this life), that I have too :>; Aries is an individualistic sign, so your spiritual path is to develop assertive and "egoistic" traits as opposed to the more diplomatic and mental traits of the Libra sign (your South node), and that courageous Mars in Leo should help you. With Mars being in the 4th in Leo activity with children can be inspired even though the same placement (with Mars squared by Pluto in Scorpio) can very well indicate drama in your early home life. Alternatively, you may want to take action or try to manifest your desires in the home/community, so in a very private space and sphere.

Now, Neptune (the planet of illusion, escapism, "fog" and dreams, but also spirituality and idealism), squares this North Node (and SN as well), meaning that you can indeed struggle to see your path or what to do with your life; squares to the nodes present themeselves as repeated lessons in this life or "skipped steps", it is such a sensitive aspect to have to the point where you may feel an alien in this world, very different, have the tendency to seclude yourself or escape in some way from the mundane, but it is also an aspect for visionary gifts, artistic pursuits, and exquisite inclination for creative expression - confirmed by having a planet in Leo - and considering the emphasis on communication with your Moon in Gemini and Mercury opposed Neptune, Sun-Venus conjunction in the 3rd house (of Gemini, the words and communication), I would not be surprised if you'd like writing, or any other king of artistic endeavor with those Neptune aspects: photography, painting, singing, acting (also a Leo thing)... So this could be something to cultivate for you. Use you Neptune profitably! Exploration of spiritual realms is also indicated and since Neptune is in the 8th house of mystery and the occult (and psychology) so much insight could come if you investigate these matters. Time alone can be a gift, it all depends how you use it! There's a tendency with all these watery energy to get lost and feel down, but if you focus on creativity and spirituality you can turn the other way (up!).

Secondly, your love life. With Saturn conjunct descendant in the 7th house of relationships, love and marriage you can feel some insecurity regarding this field; encounters with partners that feel "cold" or unavailable are totally possible - or that are older. Satisfaction may be delayed in this field as I said but only because there's maturation to be done and lessons to be learnt. Later in life stability can be achieved. Uranus in the same house brings disruption and instability as well, but here one important thing has to be understood: your Uranus (excitement, disruption, electricity...) and Saturn (restriction, coldness, but also discipline and responsibility) are opposite your Moon (emotion, mother, childhood, your home). Going back to childhood and your mother care, you probably experienced a "distant" mother or didn't feel loved enough when you were a child, maybe suffering from isolation and a sense of being misunderstood. This doesn't mean your mother didn't love you, but subconsciously you may have perceived a lack of affection because you needed more love than what -or how- was showed, and you may have developed an insecure attachment of sorts.
Analysing parental issues can illuminate the way you relate to people now (hence the sense of disconnection, etc.) and lead to healing.
By the way, growing up, the first thing that you have to realize is that YOU have this energy within you, that means that why you are looking for a stable relationship and a secure attachment, subconsciously you crave excitement and that feeling of "newness"; be aware also of erratic emotional responses (Uranus opp Moon in Gemini, placement that per se is quite erratic in moods) that can put off your partners. Unexpected relationships that end abruptly, emotional turmoils, drastic changes are the theme here. BUT as I said in the beginning, there's something to be learnt here.
In short, you have to recognize that you have this energy within yourself, and that you crave more independence than you're actually conscious of. This is how you relate to people, coming forward as a freedom loving person and somewhat probably "unattached", or even cold yourself. Deep down, with that Cancer Venus, you crave that tender partner with a motherly vibe, and you would like to love the same way. Your lesson is to become conscious of your emotional reactions and find a compromise between "boredom" and the need for excitement- that you have. Also, try not to feel your need for isolation as something that weighs you down, there's so much potential and sensitivity in you.
What I'm noticing is also your Pluto casting its transformative power over the self (Sun) but it is also opposite the ruler of the 7th house (relationships again), Jupiter; Uranus and Saturn make aspects to the ruler of the 7th as well but these are easier and flowing aspects; you may attract also plutonic relationships or people with hidden issues regarding sex or power. You too are powerful with Pluto square Mars, there are powerful drive and desires; you can use this energy to direct your life. Once you learn to recognize toxic situations you'll be able to avoid them in the future.

Hope it helps :>

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Wow this is so amazing! You’ve read me to a T! Thanks so so much!! <3

So yes I am rather artistic, and creative... love photography and to paint and I also love to dance... but Where I live impossible to live off of those things, so they are basically hobbies... but my job bores me to death as its all numbers and i wish I could work in a more creative field.
I also love psychology and to analyse people, and have recently been studying LOA and manifestation and bought myself some Tarot cards. this is all new to me but fascinates me.

Yes I am reserved and I think when people meet me they think I am stuck up but I really am not, I just need to get to know someone to be able to warm up to them, this is a comment a friend made of me after observing me in a social situation... so I really do try to make an extra effort when meeting new people to be more friendly.

I didnt have a “distant” mother, but more so a “distant” father, and everything you described about my childhood is spot on, where I felt misunderstood , etc and also erratic emotional outbursts which I am aware of and really do try to control.

With What you described of mars in aries this may explain why I feel like I want to make the first move with guys and I get impatient in the beginning stages of dating, but I try to not chase as I know that guys prefer to be the ones to make the first move and do the “chasing”. and it is interesting where you say I may come off as cold and unattached, i never thought of that as i crave love and and an emotional connection so much, but it may very well be true as i do tend to have many walls up as i am also so fearful of rejection.

Where you say i will have a more stable relationship later on in life do you mean a long way away? Lol! Because i dont know how much longer i can wait to finally have a loving relationship. I want a loving committed relationship and would eventually want a family and being in my early thirties is kind of the prime time for that!

There is a guy that i actually like, E, but he is frstrating me, i met him before lockdown and we chatted all through lockdown and agreed to meet up when we would come out of lockdown. Well we met up and had a great time but that was 2 months ago now and we still chat and he keeps saying we need to meet again but he doesnt follow through.
He is older than me which is great as i need someone mature.
Hes creative and artistic like me, we like the same music, hes adventurous (which helps with my tendency to get bored) and also sensitive (what my venus cancer needs) and we can talk for hours (he is chatty and its what i need in a guy as i am more introverted and need someone to help me come out of my shell) .... so i have now idealised him but the relationship is not taking off....
If anyone can offer any insight into him or what will happen with us that would be great, cos i feel like im hanging in limboland waiting for him to make a bold move , this is his chart:
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posted July 12, 2020 01:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
Well actually when I said later in life I meant after the Saturn return ahah I think you should have learnt major lessons already and that period usually is huuge when it comes to clear karma and maturation XD I think we have almost the same age we have the same nodes and also same Moon just a few degrees apart but mine is with Chiron in the 8th -and an opposition from Saturn in the 2nd.

What you say about the father is interesting, astrologically speaking, hope you have taken your time to heal those emotional wounds (Moon conj Chiron).

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When is after the saturn return?
Yes I have been learning major lessons in the past couple of years and especially through my last couple of “relationships”
Ah amazing thats so cool! I feel very lucky that you came and commented on my post <3

And yes I am working on the emotional wounds

posted July 12, 2020 07:01 PM            

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Originally posted by summerlove22:
So I just looked up my saturn return, and it said 2016, so 4 years ago. I actually moved country that year to the place i currently live and plan on staying forever so it was a mayor year for me.
But i’m not sure how that is related to my love life, cos its been 4 years now and nothing....

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posted July 13, 2020 03:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Chaitaly:
The Saturn return is just a major period when the "master" Saturn returns to its natal position and does a "check in" finally cleaning everything that doesn't serve us in our life, among other things. There can be many changes and big decisions taken. Like moving country or marriage or children or divorce etc. It is related to the 7th house because your natal Saturn clearly is there and opposite your Moon as we have seen, that means that emotionally as well it should have been a testing period with a lot of maturation taking place. It doesn't have to do with finding a partner as there are other transits to consider for that. It usually lasts for some years, beginning more or less at 28 reaching peak at 30. So hopefully we enter a new phase of adulthood more consciously, and that overall has to do also with the relationships we choose, especially being your natal Saturn on the descendant (the axis of relationship), there could have been some important realization or wake up call or maybe it just highlighted this need you feel now for stability and a stable partner. Hope it makes sense now

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Yes it does thank you, well I’m 32 now going on 33 and in the past couple of years have been in a couple of toxic relationships which I now recognise and know to avoid... and I feel I have matured and learnt a lot in that sense, although I am definitely still learning

I posted in the interpersonal section about my current interest, please let me know what you see there