posted June 15, 2021 08:23 AM            

I have my Saturn on the cusp of my 5th house. I had my first child at the age of 40 (maybe a little late even for a guy). Soon I fell in love with her and she became my pride and joy.
The first 1.5 yrs were pretty standard, development-wise. During the last 6+ months, we started observing that she is falling back in terms of development goals.
Not only that, it almost feels like she doesn't even recognize me and only "uses" me as opposed to sharing any kind of affection or shared time. She shows absolutely no interest in other children or playing with them (among many other signs of autism).
Since the mother and I are from different countries and cultures and have relationship issues, we are at a juncture where we need to make major decisions regarding our future.
Something relevant to mention here:
I strongly believe (after learning about autism in adult women), my girlfriend is an undiagnosed autist.
She is in denial but I have known her for 3 yrs. Looking back, most of our fights were caused by some stereotypical traits of autism, such as "lack of empathy", "lack of short term memory" etc. You see, if you are unaware that she has a neurological disorder, you assume that she is just being cruel and careless, etc, and this ends up causing fights.
On top of this, I know that both she and her father are HSPs (Highly Sensitive Person). For those who don't know what this is (I didn't know until last week), it is another neurological disorder that makes them unable to watch even a little violence in films and TV. I tried even PG 10-13 movies with my gf and we couldn't watch them.
In addition to this, the daughter of her half-sister (same father as that of my gf) is suspected to have ADHD and is going through the process of diagnosis at the moment.
I would really appreciate it if someone with the knowledge and a kind heart takes a look at my and my daughter´s charts and give any indications about the future.
Should I resign to the idea that I won't have a relationship or a good relationship with my child?

My Chart:
https://ibb.co/cCHRCxf

posted June 15, 2021 06:07 PM            

Your composite chart with her also has a heavy karma, Vertex/North Node is square to the Saturn/Nessus opposition. Honestly, this would suggest a negative karma to be resolved in terms of past life. But this could also point to a negative energy/relationship with the father figure being felt as oppressive by the child. Here you also have Pluto square Moon and so there is again a overprotective attitude which doesn't look healthy. You have Sun conjunct Mars/IC/Mercury sextile North Node and trine Jupiter forming a Kite with psyche and another Kite with Jupiter opposite Chiron in second house, so you need to find a mental connection and synergy with her and guide her in her childhood world, Uranus in 11th house trine to Sun/Mars and Jupiter trine Psyche, so you're her guide to her outside world and you have to learn how to do this, give her this support, you have a psyichic connection with her but you need to let go of your emotional past wounds and detach from your emotional fears in order to do this, it seems to me there's a long karmic path to be developed for you and this child.

posted June 16, 2021 07:59 PM            

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