posted December 31, 2021 03:59 AM            

Hi everyone,

New here: dob Aug 5, 1970, 4:54pm, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada.

Wonder if someone might take a peek at my charts & tell me if a romantic shocker has entered my life?

He & I "met" online in Sep, got fun & flirty in early Dec, & got pretty deep recently... all online.

He has a long term girlfriend, & although he never misrepresented himself with me, & neither of us has crossed a line, I only found out about her maybe a week ago.

Bummer, but I'll survive, lol.

Thing is, he's really rocked my world. Very brainy, quick-witted, & odd af. Maybe Aquarian, although I don't have his birthdate. I also sense some Taurus energy, or at least something earthy. He's strange, indeed, but underneath the odd exterior is something quite solid & warm. He's younger than I am by at least 10, possibly 15 years... but that doesn't bother me frankly. I'm a very young 51, & have my own share of Uranian qualities, what with my 10th house Uranus on my MC.

He also lives clear across the world on another continent. So, there's that.

Anyway, my feelings for this guy are off the charts. I also believe they may be returned, girlfriend or no girlfriend, but that could be wishful thinking. It's been a looong time for me.

What do you guys think? Can you see anything?

Thanks!

posted January 05, 2022 04:17 PM            

About the above question I posted, it's come to my attention that PLUTO is currently TRINING my VENUS.... woohoo!

It's on its third pass after retrograde movement the past year or so.

I've had lots of happy changes and shifts in my personal, creative & financial areas, so could this man maybe be a ....hmmm... benefit of this transit somehow?

Really wanna know what y'all can see in my charts.

And I'm workin on gettin his birthdate.

Thanks, & enjoy your day!

posted January 05, 2022 07:34 PM            

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Originally posted by javaweb:
Is he in an open relationship? If he's flirting and has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is not aware, then I'd be cautious

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Hi, thanks for the reply & the advice!

I need to clarify: In our conversations, I don't feel either of us has crossed a line with what we have said so far, but there's an undercurrent of.... well, something. We banter back and forth & tease each other about stuff, but it's not sexual. We also talk about our beliefs, morals, & values, etc a lot... that's what I mean by deep. I sense he has grown to care for me, and I care for him too.

All of it leads me to want to look at my charts. Am I in a position to be deceived/be part of something deceptive.... or is there a chance it could develop into well... something more than it is?

By that, I mean that it is already a fine friendship, in my opinion, & If that's what it is supposed to be, I can dig it despite some disappointment.

I suppose I would most want to know astrologically if this is an authentic "whatever," (friendship or other). I want to know why he feels so significant.

posted January 06, 2022 08:14 AM            

Sometimes you have to really sit with yourself and tap into your intuition.

posted January 06, 2022 06:45 PM            

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Originally posted by javaweb:
I understand. But I think your questions can be answered without astrology/divination. You need to ask him if his relationship is open. If not, he is crossing boundaries by flirting with you and he is disrespecting his girlfriend. You guys need to have an open conversation about the matter and you need to ask all the questions you need to know and from there (is. “What are your intentions with us? Where do you see us going?”), be able to discern whether or not he’s being honest and detecting other red flags. He might have had good intentions at the beginning and thought it would be a friendship but it seems like it’s getting deeper and that’s risky now that he has disclosed his relationship status.

Sometimes you have to really sit with yourself and tap into your intuition.

I know I sound a bit harsh, but I’m not coming from ill intent. Just care and concern because I’ve been there before regarding men and their dishonesty/them not being completely upfront. Wishing you the best <3

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You don't sound harsh, but it does sound as though you misunderstood my original question.

You are telling me to be cautious, and I get what you are saying, sure... but this tells me that you don't understand. Instead of seeing my question for what it actually IS, I believe you are reacting emotionally to the perception that "something" is being done "wrong" here... when it isn't.

Further, I am not asking for opinions. Nor am I asking anyone for their judgement. But it seems that's all I have received so far; folks assuming I'm doing something wrong, or that he is. Neither of us are doing anything wrong.

& YES, I do think astrology will give me the answer to my ACTUAL QUESTION.

So.

I'm going back to the beginning:

Number 1, I'm not shopping for a husband. I don't initiate friendships with men just because they are single, or the fact that they might someday be single. I'm not on a manhunt, & I don't end authentic friendships with men simply because they are attached.

Therefore, I don't consider this to be "risky" because I didn't enter into it with any expectations. I have nothing to lose here, and everything to gain. I already have a terrific friend.

2, I don't need at all to be cautious. My eyes are wide open. When we FIRST began to talk, this man & I, I was attracted to his humour & his mind. I figured he'd make a great friend, & I was right. We hit it off quite well.

And then my feelings grew.

At THAT TIME, when I realized HOW I FELT ABOUT HIM, which was NOT LONG AGO, I told him I was attracted to him physically as well as mentally & emotionally, etc., & I ASKED HIM if he was single.

He respectfully told me that he had a girlfriend.

I was hugely bummed.... but I can get over it. He never crossed a line, and neither have I. We still talk. We don't talk of sexual stuff - nor have we ever - and we joke and tease each other as friends do.

Does he need to tell his gf about me?

No. We are friends. If we were work colleagues we'd go out for lunch.. so what's the big deal here? What kind of clingy woman wants to know about every single woman her boyfriend talks to in the course of a day?

He also works with women. Should he tell his gf about them every single time he has a conversation with one of them?

& If he gets into a conversation with a woman on social media about religion -- kinda how we started chatting -- is he expected to immediately inform her of our chat?

Frankly, I am an adult. He's an adult. We're not still kids in grade school, worried that our hand-holding boyfriend might go look at an ant hill on recess with another girl... are we?

Is a man with a girlfriend SUDDENLY & AUTOMATICALLY not allowed to have any female friends????

And as women, must we SUDDENLY & AUTOMATICALLY run away from an attached man?

Are we crossing a line simply by having a conversation - or even a friendship - with an attached man?

No.

Seriously. What is that all about? Are we 12 yrs old still?

If I were his gf, I wouldn't need to know each woman he talks to, that's just nuts. Whether or not he's told her "about me" is not the issue. That's entirely up to him.

Further, when I began speaking with him, we hit it off. Should I throw a terrific friendship to the curb simply because he has a gf? Should HE? Do we need to DEFINE our relaionship, put a label on it?

Hell no. We're friends. We're adults. We had a conversation. I was open. He was open. I LIKE HIM. A LOT. & HE LIKES ME. IF he likes me in a romantic or sexual way he hasn't told me so.

& Do I have romantic & sexual feelings for him? Yep, and he knows it. He's also mature enough to know that our friendship isn't crossing any lines, and he has no need to feel ashamed or guilty of it.

Am I sitting at home pining for him? No. He's amazing, but he's attached. I can have my feelings, and I can behave also as a respectable adult.

What I WANT TO KNOW is WHY I FEEL such feelings as I do?

I've been celibate for 15 yrs. I've avoided relationships. And NOW, I would like to know WHY THIS TERRIFIC MAN has had such an affect on me?

I would like to KNOW THAT.

Is he a friend for life? Or just a passing influence?

And YES, I'd like to know whether he has maybe developed feelings other than friendship for me.

Because ya know, these things happen. He has a girlfriend. He doesn't have a wife. People break up, fall in and out of love all the time. It is nothing to be ashamed of, humans are meant to connect.

So, it IS entirely possible he has feelings unexpressed for me, and I would like to know if that is a possibility as well.

Astrology CAN INDEED ANSWER MY QUESTION.

I want someone to tell me if a significant relationship has begun --- FRIENDSHIP OR OTHERWISE -- & whether or not I can trust that it is exactly as I see it.

I have Pluto trining my Venus right now, as an example. Could this be an indicator of this man in my life? Will he bring a fortunate influence or something else?

What ELSE is going on in my charts to indicate such a wonderful gift??

posted January 07, 2022 11:40 AM            

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Originally posted by Sister T:
You don't sound harsh, but it does sound as though you misunderstood my original question.

You are telling me to be cautious, and I get what you are saying, sure... but this tells me that you don't understand. Instead of seeing my question for what it actually IS, I believe you are reacting emotionally to the perception that "something" is being done "wrong" here... when it isn't.

Further, I am not asking for opinions. Nor am I asking anyone for their judgement. But it seems that's all I have received so far; folks assuming I'm doing something wrong, or that he is. Neither of us are doing anything wrong.

& YES, I do think astrology will give me the answer to my ACTUAL QUESTION.

So.

I'm going back to the beginning:

Number 1, I'm not shopping for a husband. I don't initiate friendships with men just because they are single, or the fact that they might someday be single. I'm not on a manhunt, & I don't end authentic friendships with men simply because they are attached.

Therefore, I don't consider this to be "risky" because I didn't enter into it with any expectations. I have nothing to lose here, and everything to gain. I already have a terrific friend.

2, I don't need at all to be cautious. My eyes are wide open. When we FIRST began to talk, this man & I, I was attracted to his humour & his mind. I figured he'd make a great friend, & I was right. We hit it off quite well.

And then my feelings grew.

At THAT TIME, when I realized HOW I FELT ABOUT HIM, which was NOT LONG AGO, I told him I was attracted to him physically as well as mentally & emotionally, etc., & I ASKED HIM if he was single.

He respectfully told me that he had a girlfriend.

I was hugely bummed.... but I can get over it. He never crossed a line, and neither have I. We still talk. We don't talk of sexual stuff - nor have we ever - and we joke and tease each other as friends do.

Does he need to tell his gf about me?

No. We are friends. If we were work colleagues we'd go out for lunch.. so what's the big deal here? What kind of clingy woman wants to know about every single woman her boyfriend talks to in the course of a day?

He also works with women. Should he tell his gf about them every single time he has a conversation with one of them?

& If he gets into a conversation with a woman on social media about religion -- kinda how we started chatting -- is he expected to immediately inform her of our chat?

Frankly, I am an adult. He's an adult. We're not still kids in grade school, worried that our hand-holding boyfriend might go look at an ant hill on recess with another girl... are we?

Is a man with a girlfriend SUDDENLY & AUTOMATICALLY not allowed to have any female friends????

And as women, must we SUDDENLY & AUTOMATICALLY run away from an attached man?

Are we crossing a line simply by having a conversation - or even a friendship - with an attached man?

No.

Seriously. What is that all about? Are we 12 yrs old still?

If I were his gf, I wouldn't need to know each woman he talks to, that's just nuts. Whether or not he's told her "about me" is not the issue. That's entirely up to him.

Further, when I began speaking with him, we hit it off. Should I throw a terrific friendship to the curb simply because he has a gf? Should HE? Do we need to DEFINE our relaionship, put a label on it?

Hell no. We're friends. We're adults. We had a conversation. I was open. He was open. I LIKE HIM. A LOT. & HE LIKES ME. IF he likes me in a romantic or sexual way he hasn't told me so.

& Do I have romantic & sexual feelings for him? Yep, and he knows it. He's also mature enough to know that our friendship isn't crossing any lines, and he has no need to feel ashamed or guilty of it.

Am I sitting at home pining for him? No. He's amazing, but he's attached. I can have my feelings, and I can behave also as a respectable adult.

What I WANT TO KNOW is WHY I FEEL such feelings as I do?

I've been celibate for 15 yrs. I've avoided relationships. And NOW, I would like to know WHY THIS TERRIFIC MAN has had such an affect on me?

I would like to KNOW THAT.

Is he a friend for life? Or just a passing influence?

And YES, I'd like to know whether he has maybe developed feelings other than friendship for me.

Because ya know, these things happen. He has a girlfriend. He doesn't have a wife. People break up, fall in and out of love all the time. It is nothing to be ashamed of, humans are meant to connect.

So, it IS entirely possible he has feelings unexpressed for me, and I would like to know if that is a possibility as well.

Astrology CAN INDEED ANSWER MY QUESTION.

I want someone to tell me if a significant relationship has begun --- FRIENDSHIP OR OTHERWISE -- & whether or not I can trust that it is exactly as I see it.

I have Pluto trining my Venus right now, as an example. Could this be an indicator of this man in my life? Will he bring a fortunate influence or something else?

What ELSE is going on in my charts to indicate such a wonderful gift??

I do hope I have made myself, and my questions, more clear. I should have explained all of this in my first post.

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